I found this in my bed.

[Bugsandbeds]

I found this in my bed. It was under the duvet cover on my side when I got home from work this other day. I'm married. Husband works from home.

I know what I think it is but I just can't believe it.

Could it be something other than a condom wrapper? I've convinced myself it's off something else, some sort of other packet.

No, that's a 100% no! We don't use her often and I know it won't be her.

It could have been in his gym/shorts pocket and it’s came out in bed. She doesn’t have to have been in the room with him for him to be cheating.

This. He's been practicing.

He wouldn't make a spy, would he.

Really?? How do you know that?!

The word for condom is some Slavic languages is 'preservativ'. Definitely a condom wrapper.

@Bugsandbeds Do any of your close friends live opposite/ next to you that have cctv or ring doorbells? ... could you trust them to have a look to see if anyone has been to your house?

Hang on a minute. OP, it seems very odd that he would risk bringing someone home, have sex in their bed, and not even change it after or keep track of the condom wrapper. Someone upthread said it could have got there if he'd emptied a drawer or hold-all from when you used condoms three years ago. This could be it. It's also possible that he could have sat down when out somewhere and it got stuck to his clothes. But if you used condoms as recently as three years ago, it's also possible that it was on your bedroom floor down by the bed and it stuck to his clothes if he got on the floor to retrieve something. The amount of things that get dropped between a bed and bedside cabinet is amazing. I sometimes have to get on the floor and fish around if I drop my phone between the two, and I can see an old wrapper like this getting stuck to the arm that I've been routing around with.

I'm just saying that maybe it's best not to jump to conclusions. Maybe install that secret camera and go out for the day, telling hubby well in advance that you're going and will be out all day. I think you can get little cameras on Amazon that look like everyday objects.

This is a really good idea. OP can pretend that she thinks some things are missing from her house.

This is a good point

It would be quicker to ask him wtf there is a condom wrapper in the bed.

He didn't even change the sheets ?

Because the affair partner would have no idea if he slept around, and would want to protect herself! I'd turn it around and say why would anybody NOT use a condom in ANY uncommitted relationship?

Then he lies, and knows OP is suspicious, and is much more careful in future and OP is no further forward.

And she’ll be able to tell if he’s lying.

One possibility is he is having a relationship with the woman from the running club, she has come back to the house and they have changed the bedding, but she has slipped the wrapper under your side of the duvet so you find out. This could be if she was interested in a long term relationship with him and wants to move things along.

I'm sorry OP. Bit gross not to change the sheets at the very least. Yuck.

What on earth is a sex pozzie?

I think it could possibly be the dog walker who used your bed with her lover when she knew you were going to be out.

I know that it’s unlikely he’d be so brazen to bring her into your house and bed, but it’s very possible he’s used it elsewhere and it’s got caught up in his clothes without realising and travelled back with him.

But in that same respect, also very possible for him to have picked it up in a towel/change of clothes in a changing room at a gym etc., where’s it comes out of somebody else’s bag.

I remember when I lived alone, I found another woman’s thong in my wash basket. I couldn’t figure it out. I can only assume I swept it up in my towel at the gym and some poor woman went to work with no knickers on!

@SoftBalletShoes "Sex positive", in this case the gormless pillocks who go into schools to allegedly do sexual health education & instead erode boundaries & fail to do any second-order thinking about actual risks.

Get your ducks in a row and see a solicitor. Be prepared and if your fears seem to be true, have a safety fund to sort both your DC and yourself out, to be ready for the future but whatever you do don’t confront him, give yourself time.
Personal experience speaking

Can you upload the picture to ChatGpt to see if it can identify it?

Please ignore previous post. I didn’t see there were more pictures where it said ‘durex’

Could he be paying for an escort? I think most SW won’t do it without protection, this could be possible if you have no suspicions of him cheating. Have you got access to his finances? Start snooping. And don’t let him know your onto him at all. Is there any way you can get a hidden camera outside or in the hallway of your home?

Sorry but it has to be his, the comments about it being picked up from a random place and ending up in the bed are just a reach.. there’s only one reason why piece of a condom wrapper would be in a bed 🙃

Yours is the post that may have exacerbated it, I merely questioned whether your post was helpful or supportive. (Clue: it is neither)
But you do you, as they say.