I found this in my bed.

[Bugsandbeds]

I found this in my bed. It was under the duvet cover on my side when I got home from work this other day. I'm married. Husband works from home.

I know what I think it is but I just can't believe it.

Could it be something other than a condom wrapper? I've convinced myself it's off something else, some sort of other packet.

It’s not looking good OP, I’m really sorry. I think, just on the off chance, if it was me, I might do a bit of a sort out in the bedroom and see what else I might find. Could he be experimenting with sex toys in your absence? I suppose if you don’t find any it doesn’t necessarily rule it out. I’d agree with PPs that you’re going to need to get your affairs in order and get some further evidence of an affair. It just seems so ‘careless’ to have the gall to invite another person in to your home, in to your marital bed, and not cover your tracks better than this.

My ex had his other woman round to the family home while my dc was in bed and I was abroad at a wedding.

Mine did that while I was at my sister's in London for the weekend. i noticed that the bedroom looked exceptionally clean and tidy when I got back which woke up my suspicions. I confronted him a few weeks later, I was right of course.

And is she looking for a new hubby to fund her lifestyle?

That would make sense if his running mate is looking for a new hubby now that her previous one is moving on.

Why do you keep saying you can’t see him bringing someone home to have sex? Like, it’s actually fairly common for men to do that if they do cheat, it’s not really a rare phenomenon

I would keep quiet for now. Can you notice anything else? Start looking... don't you know the pin to your DH phone? Sorry but I would be having a look if you have access.

Cheating on you is a massive breach of trust.
I think you're being naive tbh.
I doubt many men would behave like this if they suspected their wife was having an affair. I think the condom package gives you the right to check out his phone and also look for a second one.

@susiy I agree in this case it does warrant OP to look. Sometimes it's the only way! What about his bank? Can you see any unusual spending?

I found photos of women in my bed and someone giving him oral - when I checked the date, it was minutes after he had dropped me off at the train station on my birthday on a late train. So I was off to visit family and she must have gotten into the car minutes after I left.

Some men have no shame. My father cheated on my mother with her assistant, in her office.

Cheaters’ depravity knows no bounds.

could you install a door camera and tell him you're scared your house is being broken into for sex, but not to worry as you've reported it to police?

Sorry OP but if it walks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck then it's probably a duck.

Plenty of men unfortunately bring women back to the marital home for sex. I've heard it all before. I had a best friend who's boyfriend of 2 years had a 6 month relationship with another woman who used to stay at his house and he would take her out for dinner in his local village, met her family etc. I would never have thought him capable as he appeared to be the sweetest guy and actually very religious but we got it so wrong. He was quite at ease with cheating and being an a**hole.

It's very common.
A neighbor of my brother came home to find his wife of one year in bed with the 17 year-old teenager from next door... Not surprisingly they separated and subsequently divorced.

I’m so sorry OP. Play your cards close to your chest because without proof he’ll make you feel insane.

Maybe because it’s clearly a condom wrapper and it was in her bed

Part of me thinks that if it was on your side of the bed OP but under the duvet out of sight that it was left there deliberately.

I have NEVER believed this! Just does not happen...you need to investigate further if he has told you this lie

I hate to say this but my ex husband had another woman in my bed! I went away for a few days, I came back and it was my friend/ neighbour who lived next door who told me she had seen a woman go in with him and stay. She had no idea what colour my bed sheets were because I always put them straight in the tumble dryer after washing but neighbour saw them on my washing line day before I was due home, told me what colour they were, also then on closer inspection I found a cigarette burn in my duvet cover…..I don’t smoke! Obviously I was heartbroken when he finally admitted it, I never would have thought he’d do that to me as I thought we were happy. I ended the marriage as the thought of another woman in my bed was definitely a no no. Please don’t ignore this if he’s done this while you’re at work it’s a horrible betrayal of trust and you will never be happy or have peace of mind if you ignore it!

Would it have come out of his pocket while getting changed from his running kit?

I never understand these threads when people ask strangers theories on things when ultimately you have to ask your partner. If he is hiding something from you, then strangers are even less likely to have a clue what happened.

have you looked for the other half of the wrapper???

Why would you use a condom if not to prevent an unwanted pregnancy? Well anyway, just ask him and also was this deliberate? Otherwise tidy up please and if you have something to tell me then just do it. This would be something that would worry my lovely heart. Hope it's just innocent pleasuring oneself.

holylbollyhughes STD's.....

OP don’t fanny about with all the childish detective bs suggested on here, don’t make up lies and don’t make up scenarios to catch him out. Tell him you’ve found a condom wrapper on your bed and ask him directly what’s going on and who he used it with. His face and reaction will likely give you all the answers you need.

playing silly games just prolongs the agony and feeds the MN voyeurs. Have the difficult adult conversation. You know what you think it is and what’s going on. You’ve mentioned things most would be suspicious of. Be direct and demand honesty.

So many saying a posh wank isn't a thing but my husband genuinely DOES do this! He does it when I'm there, when I'm in the house and not in the room (or mood) and I assume when he's alone too!

He says it saves mess and he does like the feel 🤷

I couldn't care less what you lot all think of this, been with him 30+ years and trust him implicitly.