Husband is always asking for sex

[OneSillyAzureFinch]

Hi,

My husband is always asking for sex and telling me how connected he feels afterwards etc. I just think he is after one thing only tbh. I must admit I do enjoy it and I do find him attractive but I don’t know if I’m lazy, but I just cba to make a move or I have no interest in it but I know it affects him mentally and frustrates him. I’m worried he might leave me for someone who can provide him with his needs. He does have a high labido compared to mine. I wish I could give him what he wants. We have two children aged between 8 & 12. The 8 year old is a challenge and bed time is stressful and puts me off all together afterwards tbh. Is anyone else in a similar situation ? I wish I could express to him how much I love him and find him attractive.

You are also extremely invested - seeing as you are still here, posting away.

It sounds like her husband does more than his fair share around the home though. He'd even crack on with the cleaning but not to the OP's standards.

neilyoungismyhero

true but life, kids, all tiring

I think your definition of extremely is off given how many times you’ve posted on this thread. I’ll leave you to your day’s entertainment of discussing someone else’s sex life when you’ve not much of one yourself.

It is so funny that can't see the hypocrisy of what you have written.

You are also still here talking about someone else's sex life

Its the first time I've posted on this thread. You are very bizarre.

Your second post now.

It's not a competition of who posts the most.

You are here engaging and posting on this thread

Correct, we don't. But at some point in the relationship both people would have considered themselves matched libido-wise. The problem comes later on when that synchronisation is not there any longer. So it's very easy for the LL partner to suggest "finding other ways to connect" but the sands have shifted and so the HL partner maybe left feeling high and dry. I don't think it's okay to cheat but ultimately if you are no longer compatible and this is big deal to the HL partner then breaking up maybe the only option if no happy compromise can be found. There could be various reasons for the mismatch - but hearing terms like 'I could happily go without for ever' or 'I CBA' are hardly likely to suggest things will ever get better. I've said before, the numbers themselves are irrelevant.