Advise needed please

[Cheekychopz12]

Need some advise please
With my partner just over 1 year, don't live together thats not an issue. Few months into seeing eachother something came up on his phone which showed he had been in contact online with other women. I played detective and was sent screenshots of him sexting multiple women telling them he was single single and not seeing anyone. He said we wern't together in that way and it was non of my business which I understand but we had got so close, together all the time. He said if we were in a proper relationship things would be different, delete his social media, change numbers etc, which I didnt ask for and he hasn't done. He blocked me on all his social media back then and still won't allow me on it even though were together "properly" now. His phone is always either in his hand or his pocket, never sets it down, brings it to the toilet with him. Am I in the wrong for thinking something isn't right? Theres so much more that doesn't add up but im always made to feel like im the problem. Theres so much more, but he says hes sick of my constantly accusing him. I just cant shake the gut feeling ive had its making me so unwell but I idolise him and dont want to lose him. He has snap, hes 43, says hes never on it but I got someone to check and hes always still active. He says he uses it for pictures but always insists he doesnt use filters before snap was mentioned. His tiktok was literally just hundreds of women before he deleted it. Now he has a work page and im still not allowed on that and women keep appearing on it and he sent me a screenshot not long ago that one of them was a contact in his phone. He said shes an old friend but I reached out to her she says they've never met but just know eachother. It just seems like hes hiding something from me. The sexting from before was from women from all over the uk, were northern ireland. He has so many women's numbers in his phone from snapchat and tiktok including his ex that he said cheated on him. I just find it so disrespectful. He has 2 facebook "work" pages, tiktok "work" page and snapchat. He's always telling me to stay off social media because I got looking for things so i deactivated them. He's also refusing to put on his facebook that hes in a relationship

@CleanSkinim going to send this message and block
You’ve lied to me repeatedly and I let you make me question my own sanity when deep down I knew the truth. You’ve played me like a fiddle and I’m done letting you. I don’t need another excuse and I don’t need to hear anything else from you. I’m done with being treated like I don’t matter. I deserve honesty and respect. I’m choosing myself over your lies. Don’t contact me again. This time, I mean it.

Spot on op
wish I’d sent mine such a message ages ago

Its for the best I can't keep living like this

I think he'll understand that😉

Have a restful weekend. No more thinking about him

@Cheekychopz12 oh my word that is perfect!!

Did you send it..?

Well done op, you should be proud of yourself, my oh my you deserve so much more,
I hope you have block him now,
Remember your the good person here, he took advantage of you being a nice person, what a tit, he thinks he's Peter pan, just shagging around pleasing himself, well let him, you know you tried to voice this and he didn't care op,

This is your time to heal move on, brush up all the eggshells op you can breathe again, sleep better, no more worrying were he is or who with, you made your life peaceful again,

DO NOT give this prick any more oxygen op,
He will knock once he's back from his little trip 🙄 , remember your done, that's it, don't explain anymore, your done, the tit will try to convince your otherwise, as he did in the past, just repeat ' your done' close the door,
Cut of the oxygen ' his weekly sex and a nice meal,
Your deserve this op, nice weekend ahead, pamper yourself, 💐 am proud of you op

@Cheekychopz12

om so sorry you have got tangled up with someone who treats you so very badly.

you said upthread that you didn’t want to be a failure. This is on him, not on you.

The only way you could be a failure would be to not break it off with him and protect your daughter from seeing her mother being treated so badly and just … putting up with it.

words just don’t matter, it’s what you do that counts. Break it off, block him. If he comes back, just block him.

your life will get better and better

Hope you’re ok @Cheekychopz12 & that you & your DD sleep well & enjoy the first peaceful, happy weekend of the rest of your lives! 💐

Hope you’re ok @Cheekychopz12 & that you & your DD sleep well & enjoy the first peaceful, happy weekend of the rest of your lives! 💐

Hi op hope your having a good day, 💐

Hey everyone sorry I've not been on. Not feeling too good, very overwhelmed at the minute. Emotions are all over the place. Think its the fact that ive got so much clarity from this post. Had an early night and been in bed most of today. Being truthful I haven't sent the message yet. Im absolutely terrified and I dont know why. Hes never physically harmed me so I dont know why I have so much fear but this is my reality. I know im sounding pathetic right now and I need to do this for my own sanity and for my kids to

You really do need to @Cheekychopz12 . He's had you dangling on a hook and once that hook is out, you will start to feel better. You and your kids deserve better.

I would another line to your message, that if he contacts you again, you will call the police. It sounds extreme but he needs that warning. If he does continue, you need to call them too, but please block him.

Thank you @Uricon2 that really means a lot. You’re right, I’ve been hanging on to something that’s only been hurting me and I know deep down it’s time to cut that tie. It’s scary, but I need to protect myself and my kids. I’ll take your advice and make it clear that any contact after this isn’t okay. I just need to find a bit of courage to finally do it.

There is nothing in your posts to say that he is causing you anything but pain and confusion @Cheekychopz12

When you're free of it, you will see it more clearly. Sending good wishes for strength.

We’re here encouraging you, @Cheekychopz12 - I’m sure if we could we’d actually send it!
The reason that you’re feeling worried / scared / overwhelmed is straightforward: he is a bully.
But you are breaking free from this and will not be cowed by his behaviour!!
Oh imagine the freedom when you do send it (if you haven’t already). It’s going to feel like such a weight off your shoulders!
Is there a local friend IRL who can stay in contact with you, or even be there, to support you? It may help.
Hugs xx

Guys I did it!!! I dont know how i feel but I did it!! I sent this message. I dont know if it was the right thing or not but there was a lot I needed to say so I sent it then blocked him on whats and his work number, and blocked both the calls to

You know exactly what your doing to me, i can't keep on like this. Begging for the bare minimum. This is no relationship, this is you still stringing me along. Its all dictated on your terms. You keep saying im not normal. Your behaviour isn't. You do not have any love for me at all. You keep saying im gona end up lonely. I'd rather be lonely then. That im never gona find anyone like you, hope to fuck not the way you have me now. You can't stand that I can see you for what you are. Is it any wonder your always tired living the double life your living. The constant lies must be so hard to keep up with. You thought id stay on the meds and keep nodding my head and agreeing to everything you say. That id just accept it all. You are the one thats not normal putting me through all this. I have a heart of gold its shameful. Scary to that you believe your own lies that your not doing anything wrong. Making out like i stalk you and control you, dougie take a long hard look at yourself. Short men have big egos, remember that. Tell your we friends whatever you want about me to I really couldnt care less, I know in my heart I've never once done you wrong. Like I said but it must be so hard keeping up this appearance, such a hard working man who does no wrong. You may be hard working but your not a good person. I have absolutely fucking nobody and im ok with that, thats the way its always been. I actually thought you were different than this given the age of you but what you done is destroy me with the non stop games. No it's not normal that you have me blocked on everything. No its not normal to have women's numbers still in your phone that you met online and supposedly dont speak to anymore. No its not normal the times you come up like a schedule. No its not normal that you split as soon as your eyes open after staying. No it's not normal that you swipe messages away and run to the bathroom every single time. No its not normal that we dont do anything outside of my house weather its a walk or whatever. What is normal is wanting love and respect. Remember its your behaviour that made me this way. Like I said ive a heart of gold and have never wronged you in any way. Its you that has to live with that, but then again you dont have an ounce of empathy in your body and steady stream of women on supply so I dont think youll give 2 fucks just like you have said all along youll be happier on your own. Thats because the last few years youve been living like Peter pan, but you dont do that and dont bother with women. Go and be happier 😊 my conscience is crystal clear

Powerful message 👏

@UpDownAllAround1thank you, I just needed to get it all out of me. I know deep down ive did the right thing

Well done, OP.

@GreyCarpetthank you. Its gona be hard but its better than living the way i am now

That’s absolutely brilliant@Cheekychopz12 you superstar!!!

Cheater cheater pumpkin eater.

Thank you @CleanSkin I feel like a weight has been lifted. Bed early the last 2 nights which I never do (insomniac) just woke there for a pee. Emotionally exhausted but I will get through this

@Pryceosh1987that he is