Man here but I've got a question

[Ciaran203]

Does your husband/BF does things like washes and irons his own clothes, make himself lunch, do dishes, helps with the dinner etc?

Because when my GF tells her friends/work mates that I do all of that they always call her "lucky" because thier partners dont do that.

Sorry, you don't get a gold star for doing grown-up things.

Yes of course.

You're getting a lot of sarcastic comments on this thread, OP. It's probably not very fair because you aren't actually one of the incompetent men-children we're angry at (though "help with dinner" is clumsy phrasing at best).

Your GF's colleagues clearly have very low standards for their partners. I really wish women would stop putting up with men who can't even cook and feel generous when they occasionally do the dishes.

I blame the men, I blame their partners, I blame their parents, I blame society in general.

Luckily, my DH is actually a fully functioning adult who doesn't need me to clean up after him. I wouldn't have married him otherwise.

Hello Man Here. Yes, my DP does all of this and more, but then so do I. Its 50/50 in our house. Not lucky, just how it should be

Sorry, don't want my post to be seen as sarcastic, but my DP in reality does more because he also looks after my car stuff and is v good at DIY, so in reality does more

Don't be so bloody spiky!!!

My dp told all his pals at work that I put my own socks on and hoover occasionally, they threw a party in my honour and tell dp how lucky he is every day.

Welcome to the special club of being a super special adult who does stuff for themselves op.

I think it depends on how you were bought up and your circle. My bf would not even know how to turn on the washing machine. Never cleaned the house in his life either. But he will make all meals for both us and clean up, if asked. He has been getting better over the years.

Yes my husband does all those things.

We both work and he still did them while I was on mat leave.

Sorry that you're getting a hard time.

In reality just because something should happen in an ideal world doesn't mean it does happen.

Most women I know do most of the cooking and housework. I agree with a pp that it tends to fall in an 80/20 split in many households.

It's nice you help your wife and see it as a duty to be split equally.

Ignore the sarcastic anal responses.

How do you feel after writing such a bile filled post ?

Came here to say this!

Why do you need a medal for 'helping' with dinner? Why is it not your responsibility?

Pretty good, thanks for asking 💐

Is helping with dinner up there with babysitting your own kids?

This is my DH and I completely agree ! We save thousands and thousands because he's DIY king !

I mean, my husband doesnt wash HIS clothes, he washed OUR clothes... and he nakes OUR lunches etc...

My DH does everything l do and more .

What do you mean helps with the dinner?

@Ciaran203 I'd walk away from this thread: there's some really unpleasant responses. Be assured that not all of us women speak to men like this 😊

Do you put your own pants on too? You big clever boy!

People are taking the piss a bit because what you describe sounds kind of bare minimum expectations. "Help" with dinner? DH just cooks it. Do his laundry? DH does the whole family's, more often than I do. Maybe it's partly a post kids thing though as there's less chance of doing things together, more likely one of us is cooking and the other is ferrying kids somewhere.

However, having socialised with other parents when my kids were tiny I and DH were also shocked how many men were being waited on by their partners, often partners who were also juggling work and childcare as well. Shocking to us, I guess we were both brought up in quite equal households. I hope your GF is stirring up her friends to rebellion!

Yes my DH does half of all chores
always has. I wouldn’t want to be with a lazy manchild!! Your GF friends need to up their standards!!

Basically, being an adult 🤔

Is my husband a fully functioning adult human?
Yes. Yes he is.

Mine does all the cooking, the heavy shopping, some washing, all the car stuff, the insurances, we don't have a garden, decorates, takes the animals to the vets, the rubbish out etc, pays 60% of the bills because he earns more than me.

How does that stack up for you?