Man here but I've got a question

[Ciaran203]

Does your husband/BF does things like washes and irons his own clothes, make himself lunch, do dishes, helps with the dinner etc?

Because when my GF tells her friends/work mates that I do all of that they always call her "lucky" because thier partners dont do that.

This 100%.

No longer together but yes my ex did all of those things because he recognised he was my partner not my child.

“Man here” is a great way to open a thread.

Ok I'm going to try and answer literally.

My husband does over 95% of the household laundry (his, mine, youngest child; adult son does his own).
I do any ironing required (only a few bits a week) for all of us.
We share the cooking, he does more meals (maybe 70%) as I do more kids pickups, cleaning and all school/medical/household admin.
We have leftovers for lunch so yes he gets his own lunch ... out of the fridge.
He hoovers the carpets and changes the bedding (eldest does his own).
I clean the bathrooms and kitchen, mop the floors and dust everywhere.
He does the gardening.
We share bin duty.
We take turns clearing up kitchen after dinner.
We also split maternity/paternity leave so we could each have a chance to stay at home and bond with the babies/return to work and restart pension contributions.

We both work full time and it's a fair split of time and effort.

I've had sexist fuckwits try and tell me I'm "lucky" but they get pretty short shrift from me. Do these people really think women should earn a living AND be a household skivvy as well while big important man of the house puts his feet up?

No, you're the specialist special boy ever, have a pat on the head.

Have you also gone on a predominantly male forum to ask them directly what adult skills they do or dont have?

Yes he does, all of it because I work a lot more hours and earn a lot more. He's also exceptionally good at cunnilingus. HTH.

Yeah it’s called adulting. I honestly could not summon the slightest interest in a man who was not capable of feeding himself and keeping his clothes and home clean.

I'm not lucky - it took years of training.

Yes, my DP does. He also does more cooking and childcare because he works fewer hours and closer to home.

He knows he’s just being a decent partner and adult. But we also both know that many, many men are neither of those things!

Yes, he does. Although he doesn't "help with" dinner, he makes it or we do.

Any decent bloke does those things. My late father in his 90s did all the shopping, cleaning and cooking. My mum did the washing and ironing. Teamwork.

Men (and women) who think that domestic work is purely women’s work need to get in the bin with the other backward thinking knuckle-dragging cunts like the Taliban. It’s the 21st century ffs.

Unfortunately your partner’s ‘mates’ are brainwashed in the same dumb patriarchal mindset and just perpetrate the same cycle with their own kids.

Um, that was sarcasm. You don't deserve a medal, you are just behaving like an adult, as does my partner and many other men I know.

You’re not special, it’s called being an adult. My DH does all the laundry and cleaning. I do the shopping and cooking.

Learning to use the sharp knives and everything? I mean do we really think men are capable of all these things - surely they have other, more important things to think about like starting wars, and Formula 1 and tools.

Really op? Your medal is in the post.

Most adults, unless there's disabilities involved, do those things, ie "adult".

Even many children do those things when able to do them safely.

Mine makes his, mine and the kids. He does all the laundry and lots more. He also has a full time job, runs a kids activity several times a week and has an intense hobby. I don’t tell people about him because obviously they’d weep. He also doesn’t brag about himself because I didn’t marry someone that boasts or thinks what he’s doing is anything special. It’s just life.

I judge the women in this scenario just as much as the man-child they’re with.

No way would I accept a man that didn’t know how to be a grown up and pull his weight.

Its fine if one of you does most of the cooking, whilst the other does most of the cleaning etc as some people prefer some things over others and it can work out really well.

But I would never accept a man who never cooked or never did laundry because that’s unacceptable just like women should do DIY, cut the grass, change their own tyres etc too.

😂😂

Yes OP, most men do these things. My DP does more housework than me, it's pretty normal nowadays

Yes. Doesn't do much ironing. I mostly do that but since he does ALL the cooking, the grocery shopping and the planning of meals generally I feel that laundry and ironing is a reasonable trade off. He's more than capable of holding the fort with two kids and several animals if I have to travel for work [while working himself.]

I consider myself lucky because he doesn't see anything as not his job and sees it as I do as a 50:50 partnership

😂 Quite. Sorry OP but it is funny when men do this on mumsnet.

As to your question.. DH does not iron, oh no he would happily go out looking like a crumpled tissue, so I iron his shirts. Even though I fucking hate ironing.

He does do most of the cooking and shopping, and has always been a very hands on dad. As it should be.

Autocorrect changed that to handsome dad...

That too autocorrect, that too 😂

Woman here - my husband told all his friends I got myself dressed made a coffee and sandwich for myself AND put a load of laundry on. Reader they all stood up and clapped and told him how lucky he is and that I'm a keeper.😇

My ex-H was like living with an extra child. Needless to say I left.

My second husband was already very well housebroken and self sufficient when I met him. 😂👍🏻

Both my sons (work full time) do those things, because their wives work (part time). Teenagers in both families

Didn’t marry a loser, not raising losers.