Man here but I've got a question

[Ciaran203]

Does your husband/BF does things like washes and irons his own clothes, make himself lunch, do dishes, helps with the dinner etc?

Because when my GF tells her friends/work mates that I do all of that they always call her "lucky" because thier partners dont do that.

I think she was being sarcastic...

Well, he would if i let him.... i like things done my way and, well, my hygiene standards are much greater....

Yes he does. He's a competent adult and these things are not optional extras.
Its not luck, I require him to be a partner.

Agreed. Not only that, my VDH makes me a packed lunch even if he’s not making one for himself. And cleans the floors … he’s not a saint but does like to keep our home as clean as I do

Mine does because he's a fully functioning adult.

He also mends my clothes because he can sew much better than I can, and can make a wonderful curry from scratch (no jar needed). He also does hoovering, laundry, cleaning and washing up.

He also did absolutely everything around the house in addition to his full time job when I had long Covid for two years and could only manage to work part time from home.

He's also raised my three children as his own since they were 10mths, 2 and 6.

Sadly, he now has cancer and is undergoing treatment. Yet still on the days when he's feeling okay he does bits around the house.

He really does deserve a medal if only for putting up with me.

My ExH was an absolute man-child and I promised myself that I wouldn't put up with such appalling behaviour ever again.

Mine does if I tell him to. Lol at all these messages you´re getting. Unfortunately, lots of men try to get out one way or another from doing basic things at the home. And don´t get me started on strategic incompetence. I am utterly bemused why 1 of 3 marriages fail when all these women are married to these paragons of virtue. Lol.

Sarcasm.

Since retirement my DH has taken over the washing and ironing. He never stops reminding me that he does it. Completely discounting the fact that I did it for 20 years while holding down a full time job.
He also cleans the living room and the stairs but not particularly well 😂😂

My boyfriend does all those things, and I wouldn't expect any less of him.

But quite a lot of friends have told me that their partners don't do anywhere near as my boyfriend does around the house, and a few people have certainly also told me I'm 'lucky' that my boyfriend does laundry etc.

I don't consider it 'lucky', I consider it 'fair'.

Edit: I should add - my previous partner did fuck-all. Literally nothing. At one point I stopped washing up to see if he would ever actually do it himself, and after a few days of mounting piles of dishes, I came home from work to find that he'd chucked them all in the bin in a temper.

If you are both working you should both be doing the housework. I honestly don't know why so many women put up with bare minimum.

seriously. !!...youre posting on here for what ???........for woman to tell you how wonderful you are ???...jog on you misogynistic fool

There are too many men out there who are utterly useless and fall apart once mum isn't around to pander to them. That's why have the in live staff with benefits.
Er, wait a moment.... that is a gf or wife and more fool her for putting up with being a skivvy to a child prentending to be a grown man.
It's a wonder some men are able to hold a job when they think they are so amazing for looking after THEIR child or doing housework in THEIR home.

No, he doesn't wash his clothes, make his lunch or help with the dinner.

He washes clothes, not just his own.
He makes lunch boxes for himself and the kids (I WFH so none needed)
He cooks or I cook. I cannot abide someone faffing around in the kitchen "helping" when I'm cooking.

He doesn't just do his stuff, he does family stuff

No, observe, he is asking is it ok if he is doing HIS clothes, HIS meals, HIS ironing. He considers his basic human upkeep her role to do

What’s the point of your post? My partner does the same, in fact he does things for both of us, not just himself. You’re not special 🥴

Surely this is a troll post

Went done on being able to perform the basic functions of an adult human.

My husband does the majority of housework because he works online from home. I am doing a manual work in some business premises. I do a tiny part of it because I am not here.

He earns more but without my wage we would be paycheck to paycheck and no holidays, house repairs, etc.

So our set up works very well. I still do the deep cleans, tidy, etc.....Or the proper delicatessen meal or dessert but that is only when I get to the level of energy I actually need to do this, because I work on my feet so having energy after work for extended Michelin star cooking processes is very rare event for me

It reflects appallingly on men that these conversations are still being had. My dad was unusual in the 1960s for doing almost all the cooking, gardening and childcare in our house without a murmur. His day job was running the family business. Meanwhile, my mum, theoretically a 'housewife', spent her time being chaotic at home.

Of course he does, I'm not his mother. I wouldn't be with him if he couldn't adult for himself. I don't need to carry a dead weight around with me.

Yes, though he doesn't 'help' with dinner he does it all

He's a 64 year old man

Not a troll post. Even if it was, there are still men who believe this should be the case and we should wash them, clothe them, feed them, perhaps even ride on them in the bedroom department so they only have to walk around doing nothing the rest of their lives

I wash the clothes, but he can put on a wash, but he irons and does everything else. We are in our 50s and he’s always been like this.
Even in the 70s my dad was hands on but he never cooked.

Turn it around. If you told your friends that your wife 'washes and irons her own clothes, makes herself lunch, does dishes and helps with dinner' what do you think they would say?

those are the expectations you give to an (older) child 😂