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Boobs in your face!

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YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:01

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

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Vodka1 · 11/10/2025 16:11

It's really weird that you assume they are insecure because they're showing cleavage, surely it's the opposite, confident in their body?

I don't think it's any different to how it's always been. Some people show tummy, some show legs, some show boobs. Who cares 😆

If they are comfortable, that's cool.

SerafinasGoose · 11/10/2025 16:14

Personally I wouldn't concern myself to this extent with what other women wear. Doesn't affect me one iota.

As for 'confronted by bare boobs in my face', I highly doubt it.

Hillrunning · 11/10/2025 16:17

I enjoy that they are wearing what they want to a fun event.

Wishitsnows · 11/10/2025 16:20

It’s not a new thing. Teenage girls and women in their 20’s certainly wore clothes like that in the 80’s and 90’s and probably in the 60’s and 70”s too.

Brightbluesomething · 11/10/2025 16:20

Sometimes it’s more of a containment issue. Try shopping for pretty evening wear when you’re more challenged up top and you’ll see how difficult it is. It’s certainly not lack of confidence.
Also given how many men judge what women wear, shouldn’t women be celebrating women’s choices to wear what they like?

Motnight · 11/10/2025 16:21

I've never had boobs in my face, feel as though I am missing something

indoorplantqueen · 11/10/2025 16:23

ive not noticed at all but if anything I think people are generally more conservative with their clothing compared to when I was a teen.

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YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:25

OK so obviously the boobs aren't literally in my face. What I meant was they're difficult not to notice - especially I would imagine if you're male.

As there will be a lot of attached men there with their partners, is it really appropriate to attend one of these events with your boobs very nearly out?

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Lifejigsaw · 11/10/2025 16:27

YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:25

OK so obviously the boobs aren't literally in my face. What I meant was they're difficult not to notice - especially I would imagine if you're male.

As there will be a lot of attached men there with their partners, is it really appropriate to attend one of these events with your boobs very nearly out?

Oh come on OP, surely you’re not saying women should be careful of what they wear in case it distracts or tempts men?

wintertime4me · 11/10/2025 16:27

Im a bi woman i dont mind if women have their boobs partly out.
As long as they are my type and over 30.

Tbh i dont care how people dress.

Charlenedickens · 11/10/2025 16:28

YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:25

OK so obviously the boobs aren't literally in my face. What I meant was they're difficult not to notice - especially I would imagine if you're male.

As there will be a lot of attached men there with their partners, is it really appropriate to attend one of these events with your boobs very nearly out?

Why would you possibly write they were in your face. That’s so creepy. And so what if men are there with their partners, you can’t think women should dress modestly in front of men in relationships, because, what it’s their job to ensure they don’t think impure thoughts? News flash. Men see boobs all the time. And women can dress as they please, it is not insecurity and no one is putting them in your face. If you’re worried your husband is a pervert who ogles, then he’s your problem. Not the women.

Charlenedickens · 11/10/2025 16:31

Lifejigsaw · 11/10/2025 16:27

Oh come on OP, surely you’re not saying women should be careful of what they wear in case it distracts or tempts men?

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I’m guessing it made the op feel insecure and worried her husband fancied the women. When she says what men are thinking she means him.

op if he’s that man, then as said, he’s your problem. If he’s not and it’s your own insecurity he maybe looking, then you are the problem. At no point are the other women the problem. They can wear what they please.

Jamesblonde2 · 11/10/2025 16:32

It’s a bit desperate, but leave them to it.

Might be more common as there are more overweight people, so difficult to keep the boobage under wraps?

LoyalMember · 11/10/2025 16:33

YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:01

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

Asking for a friend, where are these receptions and functions....?

YodasHairyButt · 11/10/2025 16:33

This is something I struggle to get my head around. People can wear what they want, doesn’t bother me personally. But it seems a contradiction to insist you’re body confident and so want to go out showing acres of flesh and then call people perverts for looking? Why put it all on show unless you want people to look? I don’t understand.

EchoedSilence · 11/10/2025 16:33

This is a creepy thread.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 11/10/2025 16:36

YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:25

OK so obviously the boobs aren't literally in my face. What I meant was they're difficult not to notice - especially I would imagine if you're male.

As there will be a lot of attached men there with their partners, is it really appropriate to attend one of these events with your boobs very nearly out?

What exactly are you suggesting here? That women should cover up around married men? Wtf!

Coconutter24 · 11/10/2025 16:39

Did your husband/wife look at a young woman’s boobs and it made you feel insecure?
It’s ridiculous to suggest women shouldn’t have there boobs out on show because they are around ‘attached’ men. It’s not women’s jobs to make sure we’re not leered at. How about the men just keep their eyes to themselves if they are with their wife and don’t want to disrespect her

Jellybunny56 · 11/10/2025 16:41

YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:25

OK so obviously the boobs aren't literally in my face. What I meant was they're difficult not to notice - especially I would imagine if you're male.

As there will be a lot of attached men there with their partners, is it really appropriate to attend one of these events with your boobs very nearly out?

If you can’t trust your husband around the mere sight of another woman’s boobs you have bigger problems.

They feel confident like that, they look good, feel good, they didn’t design the dresses themselves so it is fashion, perhaps get your husband a blindfold or a lead!

DiscoBob · 11/10/2025 16:45

Why would you care? If you've ample boobs then you will inevitably show cleavage in many 'going out/fancy' outfits. Would you rather they wore a trans style chest binder to avoid offending your delicate eyeballs?

To allege someone is insecure because of the size of their tits or showing cleavage I think says more about you than it does about these large bosomed strangers?

Poodlelove · 11/10/2025 16:52

I have noticed this too and especially at weddings.
Some brides I have seen recently, will wish one day that they didn't have so much out , and how could the shop / dress maker not say something, or the brides family ?

Jamesblonde2 · 11/10/2025 16:54

Poodlelove · 11/10/2025 16:52

I have noticed this too and especially at weddings.
Some brides I have seen recently, will wish one day that they didn't have so much out , and how could the shop / dress maker not say something, or the brides family ?

I’ve seen photos of brides with too much on show, in churches no less, it looks really crass.

Reallynotsure25 · 11/10/2025 16:54

Couple of points. Women with larger breasts will always struggle to contain them, if they wanted to. Just leave them to wear whatever they feel comfortable in, doesn’t affect you. Also we have more overweight women who tend to have larger breasts. Secondly it isn’t up to women to be mindful about what we wear incase men get aroused🙄. Sounds suspiciously like victim blaming.

Thephantom · 11/10/2025 16:56

The question is -would they wear scrunch leggings to a works meeting/social?! 😆

LittleJustice · 11/10/2025 16:57

You are getting a lot of hate here but I totally understand what you are saying.

I look at the young girls and I think oh my goodness imagine if they get drunk they're going to be falling out.

My son who went to university down south says it's more of a Northern thing so I don't know whether you're north or south but it really does seem to be prevalent in the North.

And yeah I can't understand why they don't wear a bra it looks really tacky.