Boobs in your face!

[YehaaYessir]

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

jeezo. Unless we all wear burkas we could all be accused of that.

What is an acceptable level of showing off? I wear mascara… that ok?

It’s like the dark ages, cover up, legs, boobs, tummy, don’t wear tight clothing, don’t wear heels. cut your hair short, just don’t do anything or wear anything where my man might find you attractive.

I’m glad I only have sons so they don’t have to be part of this horrible , judgmental condescending world some women inhabit, including you

my boys have been taught that girls can wear what they want. They have a mum with a first class degree and a senior tech job, and I will get my cleavage out, wear high heels and be who the fuck l want

to suggest this makes women insecure is laughable, you are the insecure one with your judgement

my boys would never dream of judging a girl on her clothes. The fact you are proud your sons do, what a way to parent

I get you OP, I dont think its got anything to do with so called body confidence...just attention seeking if you ask me. But I guess that makes me an unfashionable prude...

Calling women prostitutes isn't having a different point of view, it's disgusting misogynistic behaviour.

You can absolutely not agree that wearing revealing clothing is appropriate and you yourself wouldn't do it, but to go down to the level of calling others that choose to names and using language like that is vile.

A woman should never call another woman a prostitute in my opinion

I feel sorry for your sons girlfriends

Oh and ETA, I'm also a tomboy and never wear revealing clothes and I don't have to understand why other women would want to

Men can choose not to look you know!!! Don’t blame women for men looking. This is such an outdated viewpoint and so negative to women! Women should be able to wear what they want!! Men do!!

Do we suppose that in a world with zero men, women would still dress provocatively? I doubt it. They do it so men will look, surely?

Oh dear, I think many of you are completely missing the point of what I'm saying.

I'm definitely NOT saying that girls can't wear what they want, far from it, I'm all for that.

Nor am I criticising anyone showing a bit of leg or some cleavage. I was remarking on the number of girls these days who attend such events with their boobs very nearly completely out.

A lot of you seem to think I'm insecure and am worried about my husband being tempted by these girls - wrong again, me and DH laughed about these girls both at the time and afterwards. He didn't find them attractive, in fact I won't repeat what he said about them for fear of being shot down further. As for men not looking, it was impossible not to notice them!

So yes, of course women should wear what they want. I would just question is that what they really want to wear? I can't imagine anything worse, having to endure a night wondering whether my tits were going to fall out on the dancefloor, or getting leered at by every drunken uncle or having fellas trying to chat me up for a quick bunk up. Maybe that's what they want, I doubt it though.

It sounded a lot like that to me too...

I don’t think we’ve misunderstood you at all.
You’ve changed your tune somewhat and are now painting these women as some sort of victim who have been coerced into wearing these outfits.

Your posts are still dripping with misogyny though. You and your husband didn’t a significant amount of time laughing at women. Grow up

I would… and I’d buy nice underwear, wear make up and colour my hair.
I don’t do any of this for men. I do it for me.

You and your husband sound like bullies. Is your life really that dull that you spend a party judging what other people wear and laughing about them behind their back.

What is your fascination with women’s breasts? Why are you imagining all these crazy scenarios of women accidentally exposing themselves and being subjected to sexual abuse. It’s very odd behaviour.

Why does it matter to you that you don’t understand their preferences?
oh and please do share your husband’s words, love to here them

You reminded me of Charlotte Church digging through the mud in a low cut white dress in the first episode of Traitors - way too much boob job on show!

I used to go out with a skirt that barely covered my arse when i was a teen, it had absolutely nothing to do with body confidence or being comfortable, it was literally only to get attention from men. There is absolutely no reason to go around with your tits practically falling out of your dress apart from to get men's attention.

I've no idea why everyone is so desperately defensive of it on here. But honestly OP you could say the sky's blue and you'd have 15 people arguing with you that it's not.

Bollocks. You can’t speak for all women.
I’m 43. I’m old enough to know my own mind and know why I choose to dress the way I do.

I don’t want attention from men. I don’t dress for them and I should be able to go about my life without having to always factor men into my decision making.

You might dress for male attention but don’t assume we all do.

@YehaaYessir i agree it’s not just cleavage .
it’s nearly all the boobs. It’s definitely a thing to have the boobs out and nearly the whole bum too.
Look at the length is skirts kids wear to high school too.
I’m no prude I however think it’s very tacky and highly unattractive .

Sorry, but if you go out with your boobs very nearly completely out then you do want male attention, whether you admit it is a different thing.

What gives you the authority to speak on behalf of women you don’t know?
The last time I went out with some serious cleavage on show I was attending an all female event.

I’d be quite happy to never have a man notice me ever again.

Don’t be disingenuous: of course you’re not just innocently wondering if that’s ’really What they want to wear’.

They bought it and wore it; obviously they want to wear it.

The fact that you and your husband laughed at them in public says plenty about you though.

Yes we did laugh at them, although not in public (as in not with anyone else in earshot).
Why? Because they looked ridiculous. There's such a thing as trying too hard and going out with your boobs very nearly out is exactly that.

"Me and DH laughed about these girls both at the time and afterwards. He didn't find them attractive."

I'm afraid he did, and that's your real problem here and why you have chosen to make such a misogynistic post.

@YehaaYessirwhy have you posted this on the Relationship board?

Perv

Really, looking at your other thread, it comes across as you are either obsessed with boobs or deeply insecure. Maybe both.

Are you saying that these poor innocent men have no self control and must be protected from these brazen temptresses? You sound positively Victorian.