Boobs in your face!

[YehaaYessir]

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

Oh, won't somebody alert the church elders? I'm surprised that God hasn't sent down a thunderbolt to strike down these brazen hussies.

Boobs don’t bother me. Topless on the beach fine. Thong bikinis though 🤢 the thought of the cross contamination at the pool. Horrible. Don’t mind them so much at the beach but thongs in pools should be banned!!

With your dismissive and sexist atttitude, I'm surprised that you don't refuse to pick them up because they deserve all they get. If you work for the ambulance service treating the general public, a judgemental attitude like yours isn't appropriate. Does it affect the care that you provide?

But aren't you the poster who made a thread complaining about your husband and a topless colleague? Your DH seems to have changed his views since you made that post where you said that he got angry with you for complaining about him socialising on the beach with a French colleague who was topless.

You seem very insecure about other women's boobs around your husband.

That’s not always the case. I regularly go to ladies only events where people are definitely not wanting male attention but still dress to show off what they consider their best attributes, not just boobs but bums and legs etc. I’m sure there is an element of competition involved.

This narrative annoys me. I have what most consider large boobs. Sometimes an outfit that would look fine on someone with a B cup looks very ‘booby’ with my D cups. But I like the outfit. The outfit itself is not considered obscene but when I’m wearing it I’m ’showing off’ whereas the person with the smaller boobs is wearing a nice outfit.

Sometimes I feel uncomfortable with men staring but the majority don’t and those who do are showing themselves up — I’m not doing anything wrong. I’m happily married and the only man’s attention I want is my husband’s but I also want to feel nice for me! Why do women wear make up or do their hair?? It’s not only for the male gaze!! Don’t be so insecure no one is trying to entice your man 🙄

Sounds like someone doesn't trust her husband!

In your opinion. Stop presenting everything as fact.
As for trying to justify your mean girl behaviour… you aren’t fooling anyone.

I think it says plenty about you too, to be fair.

Oh do tell. What exactly does it say about me?
Bonus points if you can say it without being sexist or misogynistic.

I think this thread and your previous comments/thread about this sort of thing says plenty about you, your husband and your relationship.

You can post 100 more but if you're insecure in your relationship, it's not going to make any difference.

I was purely making an observation. Whenever this happens I go out of my way to preserve her dignity, dispersing crowds of people and using blankets to cover and shield her. But the clothing choices of young girls and women in the last couple of years has meant that boobs falling out of tops is a very common occurrence and almost inevitable if they’re laying on the ground or a bench or whatever. They’re usually cold too. I have been young and drunk and I empathise greatly with them but I never went out with 90 percent of my boobs out.

Big boob solidarity. Outfits that look perfectly demure on smaller breasted women can so easily look like we are 'flaunting our boobs in people's faces'. Not just with cleavage but fitted dresses or jumpers that even the OP might allow us to wear in front of husbands. I'm always disappointed on humanity when men chose to comment on my breasts in public, but it's so much more disappointing to hear judgement like this from women.
A woman - who knows, maybe it was the OP! - started chastising me when I was on the way to a friend's hen do for flaunting my boobs in front of children. Apparently I was disgusting, I think I might have been called a prostitute, I should be ashamed of myself. Just because I wasn't wearing a dress up to my neck and as a result some cleavage was visible.
It was a 'girls and gays' night out, so the dress definitely hadn't been chosen for the male gaze, I wasn't over compensating for a lack of self esteem, I wasn't a sex worker. I was just a woman who chose a cute, flattering dress for a night out.

Yes it says she’s body confident and dresses for her not to pander to insecure wives.

Yep just think of the poor menz who have no choice but to oggje women’s breasts.

Honestly the OP’s attitude is getting very close to ‘well she was asking for it.

In your previous thread it didn’t sound like you and your DH were having a laugh about it. I believe you used the words “blazing row” and you were furious that his colleagues and other women in France were topless on the beach.

Your husband sounds is a misogynist making disgusting comments about other women’s appearances. Perhaps you should consider why you married such a man rather than blaming other women for attracting his - I suspect very unwanted - attention.

I think it sends a message to the males in the room about exactly what kind of girl you are, which is probably your intention, whether you admit to it or not.

I’m 43 so a woman and not a girl.

And what exactly is the message I’m apparently sending? Stop being vague and say what you actually think.

Men can think what they like about me, I can’t control what they think and quite frankly I couldn’t care less. I’m not dressing for them and don’t need their approval or validation. I’m married and the only male opinion I care about is my husband’s and even he wouldn’t dare tell me how to dress.

Also, as I mentioned previously, I tend to dress this way when attending all female events. There are no men at these events ever. So how can I be dressing for male attention when they aren’t even there?

Can you see the sort of woman your husband's wandering eyes have turned you into?

Is this really who you want to be OP?

Ditch him (and his topless beach companion) and your confidence will return, I promise.

’I’m no prude’: er, maybe you are?
Or is it that DH is drooling over them that’s pissing you off?

What sort of 'girl' does it make us, OP? Could you clarify? Sluts, skanks, prostitutes, nasty bitches, whores? Or are we just asking for it?
I'd love some clarity on exactly what type of woman I am because I have large breasts and don't always wear tops up to my neck.
I don't think it makes us misogynistic, judgemental assholes, so that's a good thing.

I sincerely hope you never sit on a jury.

Yep the OP is definitely a misogynist who blames rape victims for ‘asking for it’

We all know the first rule of misogyny is that whatever men do it’s always women’s fault

This will probably blow your mind @YehaaYessirbut the sort of ‘girl’ I am is a senior academic at a university. I have multiple degrees including a doctorate.
I volunteer in my community and campaign extensively for domestic violence charities.

I’m guessing that doesn’t fit with your narrative though does it?

I don’t know what’s causing you to post the things you do; or think the way you do. But it is clear you’ve got signficant issues when it comes to other women, breasts, and your husband.

You need to get help.

As it’s you who is struggking, jealous, insecure and unhappy. And you won’t find peace until you do get your mind healthy again.

Being offensive on line is not going to make all women cover up. It’s not going to change things for you. You will continue to be unhappy insecure jealous and struggling.

women can dress as they please. It says nothing about the type of woman they are, and the fact you’re struggling so hard and think it does, says everything about your mental health issues and nothing about the women themselves.

get some help, whatever is wrong with you doesn’t need to continue to be wrong with you, help is available. I hope you recover and get to a healthy place.