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His wife is in Labour. What do I do?

131 replies

whatsupsis · 04/10/2025 12:34

I’ve been in a
relationship with a man for 7 months. We have got on really well he lives (or I thought he did) 2 hrs away in a city. He came here and stayed with me 2 nights a week and we have been on a city break to Europe. He has met my family.

He was meant to come yesterday afternoon but phoned to break it off with me. I’m ashamed to say I cried and
didnt let him go easily. He told me his wife was pregnant! HIS WIFE!! He said she’s in early stages of labour and he’s decided to make a go of it.

I’ve now realised I don’t know anyone from his life. He’s a self employed electrician. I do know his real name but can’t find any socials. He always hated socials.

Im stunned. I didn’t know he was married. I am such a fool! I mean I didn’t have a clue. I was so caught up
on
what fun we were having.

I haven’t told anyone I’m too embarrassed. My marriage broke up because my husband left me for someone else. I’m such a bloody fool.

what do I do? Well I don’t have the balls to do anything but I’ve got to get over this again. I’m so pissed off. Do you think he does have a
pregnant wife? How would I even find out? Mind you what would I do with the information. Probably nothing.

OP posts:
whatsupsis · 05/10/2025 08:14

Thank you again everyone. I had a lovely evening with some friends last night and we discussed ways of publicly flogging him. They made me feel a little better about his deception and my idiocy.

I am not going to try and contact his wife. I just couldn’t do that to her. As pp’s have said I won’t be the first and am sure he will be found out by someone more “aware” than me.

im gonna concentrate on myself for a while and leave men well alone.

OP posts:
Needspaceforlego · 05/10/2025 09:08

Glad you have your pals!
You must be feeling completely used and abused. Look after yourself.

Onmytod24 · 05/10/2025 12:37

The above post is actually quite nasty. You don’t have to feel any of those things because you’re not. You’re still you. a shitty man can’t change you.

Puzzledtoday · 05/10/2025 14:59

Oh no! You are well out of this OP whatever is really going on.

blackice · 05/10/2025 15:06

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 04/10/2025 12:38

If you know where he lives, send a message to his wife telling her everything and apologise profusely, ps congratulations and good luck with the baby.

Then blacklist him.

There are no winners in this.

please please do not do this

aquashiv · 05/10/2025 16:43

How have you been on a city break to Europe and not know his full name? He could be anyone. He's a loser, but you need to be more careful.

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