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Are you attractive, in your 30s and contantly getting dumped?

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Overthinker89 · 18/09/2025 17:34

Okay, controversial topic i know as beauty is subjective and fuck unachievable beauty standards etc etc but is anyone else out there told they are attractive, funny, have a lot ostensibly going for them and still just dating a series of men who come on strong then run for the hills after about a month or two? Either i'm totally deluded and actually have SCALES and three heads or this happens to other women too? Basically my self-esteem is on the floor despite therapy, me working hard to derive self worth from other areas, me working hard to improve it and i am finding myself asking: am i just not pretty enough. What the hell is happening? Anyone else? I am slim, athletic, long brown hair, often told i'm pretty and lots of complements on personality and other traits but BAM every man i date - dumped after a few months of dating/seeing eachother/staying together. Wth

OP posts:
VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 22/09/2025 13:06

Why on earth do you you think it's your looks that are the problem @Overthinker89 ?

What you look like is the one thing about you that is immediately obvious up front. And you're getting into relationships, so the looks obviously aren't the problem.

If there is something specific putting men off, then it's far more likely something that takes time to reveal itself.

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