Photo posted of children without my consent

[OneCalmReader]

Hi,
I recently posted about my Narcissistic MIL. She had got angry about me not posting a photograph of her hijacking my two DDs first look at my wedding. She ruined part of my day by sabotaging a first look between my DDs and she can’t seem to understand why I am upset about it and she decided to call me horrible names and say things to belittle me.
Well, yesterday she changed her profile photo on Facebook to the photo I never wanted to post. It wasn’t supposed to happen and she had access to it from a private album of our wedding photos. Where do I stand with this? I have reported it to Facebook for violating my privacy as I haven’t given her consent to post an image of myself and my children, but I haven’t heard anything back yet. I’m just not sure how to take further action.

I'd move away from AIBU OP. All you are going to get is people taking the piss out of "content creator" and accusing you of being up yourself. I can't say it's anything I would have wanted but meh.

From what I can read the actual issue is your 11 year old wanted a special photo of them (her and sibling) seeing you as a bride. A bit like when the bride shows off her finished look to her dad, a lovely moment to photograph etc.

Your MIL decided she wanted in on that, you said no because it was meant to be a moment just between you and the kids, and she bulldozed herself in anyway, which spoilt it somewhat. Now the photo just reminds you of her not respecting your wishes.

Your mistake was to put it on an album she could access.

I would take it off that album altogether, keep pushing at FB to get it removed. I suppose you could put it back on the album, but once you've edited her out! 😆

Nooooo you have it all wrong!!! Its "first look" 😂😆😹

Anyone trying to take a photo of me "enjoying" my child being born would have had to give birth to the camera at a later point
What utter twaddle

by your children, no less!! 🤣

From what I can read the actual issue is your 11 year old wanted a special photo of them (her and sibling) seeing you as a bride

I'd say the actual issue is who OP has married based on what she was posting about him last November.

You’ll be surprised how much money they make. Interesting times we live in, I tell you.
it’s basically why nothing appears off limits anymore. People put everything out there, just for the views. “Content “

Unfortunately, I have seen exactly this. Complete with headlamps on the dad and sibling having their ‘first look’.

My eyes…

First look? Give me strength.

It’s relevant cos he can either calm it for what it is, or speak to his mother.

I think you should be more concerned about the fact that you had to hire a content creator to make your wedding look perfect to the world when you've married a man who constantly questions your past, calls you a slag and you say has slut shamed you into not wanting to sleep with him.

You're having slanging matches with your MIL where she's calling you a gold digger and you are calling her a psycho.

Stop worrying about showing off a perfect life on SM and start worrying about this shit show you've dragged your oldest daughter into.

Triggered - oh please with the hyperbole.

So your MIL who you clearly don’t like posted a picture onto social media that she legally obtained (ie didnt steal or wasn’t illegal content) and you are angry that she posted it before you because the content creation of a first reveal didn’t happen in the way you did. How utterly ridiculous.

You can’t do anything about the pic. She’s allowed to post it even if you don’t like it.

Also, it’s hard to have any sympathy with the focus being on content creation and ‘first look’ in that it was more about appearances than your actual wedding. Cause if it was about the wedding you wouldn’t care.

Talk about your first world problems.

She was wrong in posting something you don’t want to be posted but I’m confused as to how she got a hold of it in the first place - if you didn’t want anyone to see it, why would was the photo available?

Additionally, you sound narcissistic yourself and if you had a photographer and a content creator roaming around it was already hardly the most spontaneous thing in the world.

I think the sensible MN conclusion at this point would be "you sound like hard work..."

You are making yourself look ridiculous, OP. People are laughing at you and your content creator. Very silly.

I'm pretty sure anyone who hired a content creator for their wedding has no place calling anyone else a narcissist.

Who's content creator? Your's?
Are you to famous or to busy to post on your own social media?
Where were your secruity that covered the door.
Get them fired immediately!!

Anyway OP I’m happy to report the photo too, your kids, your rules

Oh come off it, you’re well aware “content creator” was always going to raise some eyebrows and questions 😂 maybe you shouldn’t have mentioned it if you didn’t want it to derail your thread. Or were you just wanting us all to ask if you’re famous or something? Why does anyone need a content creator for their wedding?

Let’s be honest here, the OP isn’t bothered about her children being on social media.

She doesn’t actually believe that their privacy has been breached or whatever.

She’s just bothered that she didn’t get to violate their privacy first by putting them up on her social media.

And all this “first look” bollocks should have the piss taken out of it. The less we normalise this whole fake “look at me I need to be *seen” crap the better.

It’s like most of these happy happy posts people put up on instagram or wherever. They’re just fake moments.

Based on her previous posts the OP has married a total cunt. So let’s not pretend that she’s blissfully happy and her MIL spoiled the whole first look thing. She clearly isn’t but is still in denial.

They’ll probably be divorced by the end of the year anyway.

So you don’t object to your DD being in the photo and the photo being posted on SM but you doobject to your MIL posting the photo.

Facebook will probably do nothing or take a very long time to respond. As a poster up thread has already commented, they are very slow to remove harmful images, let alone innocuous images at the centre of a family spat.

My advice, next time get everyone to sign an NDA and hire security.

It all sounds ultra ridiculous.

There are countries at war. Why on earth have you got war in your family.

Make peace.

Agree. All of this smacks of all the attention being on the “show” of the wedding rather than whether she actually wants to marry someone who calls her a slag at all (FWIW it would be a no from me!).

I still don't understand. You said it was a first look between your daughters, this seems to be something else entirely.

I'm just gobsmacked by the vanity of this. Your content creator? First look??

I cannot get my head round it being rude of your MIL to walk into the room!

Why the F would you hire a "content creator" if your marriage is actually a shambles? Utterly ridiculous, and "first look" my God. Ive just realised my spoilt bridezilla sister did this 15 years ago!!! Unbelievable.