Photo posted of children without my consent

[OneCalmReader]

Hi,
I recently posted about my Narcissistic MIL. She had got angry about me not posting a photograph of her hijacking my two DDs first look at my wedding. She ruined part of my day by sabotaging a first look between my DDs and she can’t seem to understand why I am upset about it and she decided to call me horrible names and say things to belittle me.
Well, yesterday she changed her profile photo on Facebook to the photo I never wanted to post. It wasn’t supposed to happen and she had access to it from a private album of our wedding photos. Where do I stand with this? I have reported it to Facebook for violating my privacy as I haven’t given her consent to post an image of myself and my children, but I haven’t heard anything back yet. I’m just not sure how to take further action.

😂 The world’s gone mad all this drama over seeing you in your dress. Won’t everyone at the service see you?
It’s threads like this that make me realise I am really old.

The game has well and truly gone 😅

I had two failed ventouses and then cut and forceps. I knew my birth stories were missing something, it would have been much better to have the photos to accompany the tale!

yes darling this is when they used special scissors , it’s difficult to see with all the blood I know but look there’s your head.

Why did you leave all the stuff about her calling you a 'gold-digging bitch' (and the rest) out of this thread, @OneCalmReader ?

It would be helpful if you'd been a bit more specific about what the duck a 'first look' is since it's not a thing and has caused confusion.

Sorry, but this all sounds so shallow, and frankly ridiculous. It makes me feel slightly unwell.

I went and read it. You both sound very OTT.

Do many mothers actually enjoy their child being born? Once they've safely arrived, sure, but I'm quite glad there aren't any photos of me naked, covered in sweat and pooing myself while pushing out a 10lb baby.

Good lord grow up.

11 year old content creator? Heard it all now haha

Still don't know what a first look is.
Also is the content creator putting your wedding on social media. If so what is wrong with MIL posting a picture?
I thought by the title someone had posted a picture of your kid naked in the bath or something.

This is another one of those threads - like the one about reading your phone in the cinema - where I despair about the future of humanity.

I don’t think the MIL is the narcissist here 🤣 FML, get a grip woman.

Far better to do a nice shoot at home once everyone’s recovered a bit and the baby looks less like a shrivelled cucumber

😂😂So true!

Yes, I don't get all this self obsession either.
The only people that may get a bit teary seeing a bride are the parents and groom. No one else cares that much! It's not an "event" that people are dying to see. Therefore nothing to "ruin".

If you post pictures of yourself and your DDs, I can imagine you do. Then what really is your gripe? Just the fact its your MIL.

All of this stuff really is just pathetic.

She should of respected your wishes but I find posts like these crazy, if one of our close family friends hadn't been a photographer and offered I wouldn't of even had one just whatever was taken on peoples phones 😂

Good luck in this marriage is all I can say 🤔

This 100% 😂😂

🤣🤣 basically, yes. 🤣

I don’t think it was of the bride? I think it was off the DDs going oooohhhh! But I could be wrong.

To be fair I bet there are some people who would pay a lot of money to see those pictures. Think you missed a trick there, could have made a fortune 😂

Same here, I feel very old

You mean you don't have that hanging over your fireplace?

So, do people who are asked to be involved in a 'first look' have to practice? How do they know? Do they rehearse your best 'ohmywordyoulooklovely' face? In that case surely it isn't spontaneous if you know that there is going to be this 'first look'?

I am feeling very old and confused here.

You can argue that the first look thing is bullshit, but you can argue that about almost every single wedding tradition. Really, a wedding is a contract between you, your partner and the state - the fact we even dress up for it is silly. Could be done in an office really - but we don’t do that because it’s joyless.

OP, I’m sorry your MIL ruined something special for you. Hope the rest of your day was good. As for the photo, ring her and tell her to take it down immediately and not to post pictures of your children again. Just be stern about it. If she asks why then you can either tell her “because said so” or you can go on to explain to her how photos of real children can be used by nonces to make custom child abuse material, much of which is submitted by family members or family friends and that you don’t think it’s worth the risk even having pics of your kids online.

I'm confused about what happened, even after reading the explanation. I'm not sure why it even matters?
Anyway, why would Facebook be bothered about it? Most people in Facebook photos haven't really given their permission to be on there.

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