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OneSnug · 2025-08-29T18:09:45+00:00

I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my husband just attacked me in an argument and kicked me in the stomach. Our entire relantionship has just ended. I will never look at him or be near him again. Ten years. 4 rounds of IVF. He’s always had an ugly side but never raised his hand on me until now. Apparently I was shouting and I’m not allowed to in his mind and that gave him the right to physically attack me.

PanderBare · 30/08/2025 20:45

THISnewbeginning · 30/08/2025 20:31

I dont think this is true?

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Neither do I, but I think he has the automatic right to parental responsibility.

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/08/2025 20:45

Omgblueskys · 30/08/2025 19:11

I hope op is somewhere safe, haven't stopped thinking about her today,

Me too, hoping her next update is from the UK.

Stay safe @OneSnug we are all thinking of you xx

LivingWithANob · 30/08/2025 20:54

Thinking of you op. I do hope youve made it out x

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/08/2025 21:04

THISnewbeginning · 30/08/2025 20:31

I dont think this is true?

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It is.

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/08/2025 21:05

PanderBare · 30/08/2025 20:45

Neither do I, but I think he has the automatic right to parental responsibility.

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The child of a married woman is automatically assumed to be her husband's child.

PanderBare · 30/08/2025 21:11

'The child of a married woman is automatically assumed to be her husband's child' does not mean the same as 'They are married so if the child is born in the UK, the father will automatically go on the birth certificate '

What it means is that if a baby is born to a married woman, the woman or her husband can register both names on the BC without the presence of the spouse.

FattyMcFattyArse · 30/08/2025 22:50

OP, get yourself to the British Embassy. He won't expect you to go there and will be searching the airport for you if you disappear. The Embassy may be able to arrange safe transport or an accompanying person to help you escape.

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OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:33

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your support honestly it has meant the world to me. Unfortunately he did not go to work today and was talking my head off for hours. I had to change plans. My mother is on a flight first thing tomorrow, I told her I need support with the pregnancy etc (didn’t give details as didn’t want to alarm her) she is on her way in the morning. I feel that in itself will desecalate things as she will stay with us and then I can plan next steps. It was too risky otherwise I’m sure he tracks me in ways I don’t know about and can’t disable. I had to sit down and think rationally in what way it would be safe. I may even be able to convince him il go with my mum to visit family and return etc… she is in no rush so she can stay for a while and then the idea of her travelling with her will be easy to swing. This seemed like the safest step. He won’t do anything crazy with her here.

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Festivespirit85 · 30/08/2025 23:39

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:33

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your support honestly it has meant the world to me. Unfortunately he did not go to work today and was talking my head off for hours. I had to change plans. My mother is on a flight first thing tomorrow, I told her I need support with the pregnancy etc (didn’t give details as didn’t want to alarm her) she is on her way in the morning. I feel that in itself will desecalate things as she will stay with us and then I can plan next steps. It was too risky otherwise I’m sure he tracks me in ways I don’t know about and can’t disable. I had to sit down and think rationally in what way it would be safe. I may even be able to convince him il go with my mum to visit family and return etc… she is in no rush so she can stay for a while and then the idea of her travelling with her will be easy to swing. This seemed like the safest step. He won’t do anything crazy with her here.

No surprise he's not gone to work, he knows he was in the wrong and he's trying to ensure you don't do anything about it. At least your mum is coming out to you. Does he know? Please tell us you are going to let your mum know what's happened. Stay safe.

hellohellooo · 30/08/2025 23:40

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:33

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your support honestly it has meant the world to me. Unfortunately he did not go to work today and was talking my head off for hours. I had to change plans. My mother is on a flight first thing tomorrow, I told her I need support with the pregnancy etc (didn’t give details as didn’t want to alarm her) she is on her way in the morning. I feel that in itself will desecalate things as she will stay with us and then I can plan next steps. It was too risky otherwise I’m sure he tracks me in ways I don’t know about and can’t disable. I had to sit down and think rationally in what way it would be safe. I may even be able to convince him il go with my mum to visit family and return etc… she is in no rush so she can stay for a while and then the idea of her travelling with her will be easy to swing. This seemed like the safest step. He won’t do anything crazy with her here.

You got this

Take your time

Plan it all carefully

Please stay safe xxxxxxx

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OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:41

hellohellooo · 30/08/2025 23:40

You got this

Take your time

Plan it all carefully

Please stay safe xxxxxxx

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Thank you! I will xxx

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OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:42

Festivespirit85 · 30/08/2025 23:39

No surprise he's not gone to work, he knows he was in the wrong and he's trying to ensure you don't do anything about it. At least your mum is coming out to you. Does he know? Please tell us you are going to let your mum know what's happened. Stay safe.

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Yes, luckily I had recently spoken of my mum visiting so I just made out she found a cheap flight and was coming. I don’t think he suspected anything but even if he did doesn’t matter as she will be here in the morning and he will then be on his best behavior I’m sure. Of course I will tell her.

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Jokeymcjokeface · 30/08/2025 23:42

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:33

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your support honestly it has meant the world to me. Unfortunately he did not go to work today and was talking my head off for hours. I had to change plans. My mother is on a flight first thing tomorrow, I told her I need support with the pregnancy etc (didn’t give details as didn’t want to alarm her) she is on her way in the morning. I feel that in itself will desecalate things as she will stay with us and then I can plan next steps. It was too risky otherwise I’m sure he tracks me in ways I don’t know about and can’t disable. I had to sit down and think rationally in what way it would be safe. I may even be able to convince him il go with my mum to visit family and return etc… she is in no rush so she can stay for a while and then the idea of her travelling with her will be easy to swing. This seemed like the safest step. He won’t do anything crazy with her here.

Thank goodness you are safe and have your mum coming. I have been thinking about you today.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 30/08/2025 23:43

I'm concerned he is able to see everything from your phone on his own device. Just seems odd that he never left your side today. But could be nothing to do with this thread, may be purely down to him knowing what he did was abhorrent and stopping you from leaving.

I seriously hope you manage to get away from him. You and your mum can go 'shopping' together, complete with your passports.

LivingWithANob · 30/08/2025 23:46

Leave with your mum. Dont let him sweet talk you. End it.

Festivespirit85 · 30/08/2025 23:57

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:42

Yes, luckily I had recently spoken of my mum visiting so I just made out she found a cheap flight and was coming. I don’t think he suspected anything but even if he did doesn’t matter as she will be here in the morning and he will then be on his best behavior I’m sure. Of course I will tell her.

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I'm glad you've got the support, and it won't be long before you're away from the horrible cunt. Take care.

Iamnotalemming · 30/08/2025 23:58

Please to hear your Mum is coming. Hang in there x

withgraceinmyheart · 31/08/2025 00:03

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 23:42

Yes, luckily I had recently spoken of my mum visiting so I just made out she found a cheap flight and was coming. I don’t think he suspected anything but even if he did doesn’t matter as she will be here in the morning and he will then be on his best behavior I’m sure. Of course I will tell her.

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Ah OP I’m so glad to hear this. I was in a similar position a few years ago and did the same thing as you. My sister flew out and got me.

The intense relief you will feel once your mum is there is indescribable. You’re absolutely right that it will de-escalate things. The hardest thing will be keeping both of you calm while you make plans and pack etc but you can do this!

Good luck to you. Once you’re out you won’t look back.

FWIW I kept my baby and I don’t regret that. I hear what people are saying about thinking through your options but my little boy was the brightest spark of joy at really awful time. Don’t let this man take that joy from you if it’s something you want to hold onto.

TopazQuartz · 31/08/2025 00:07

Glad your mum is coming. Stay mindful of the pattern of people like this. He knows what he's done. He will be nervous even if he's not showing it. Depending on how dangerous he is the rules on how he behaves may have changed. That will include how he could behave with your mum (even if not straight away).

He didn't just slap you impulsively (which is bad enough), he kicked you in the stomach. A lot was underlying that! So sorry you're going through this. Don't allow him to make you lose sight of what you are dealing with. These people don't change, they think differently and it's hard to predict how they'll behave because you don't think like them. Way too many stories of women who've delayed leaving men like that and then it's too late.

Catpuss66 · 31/08/2025 00:35

Might be worth getting touch one of the uk based DV organisations might be good. They might be able to direct you to help.
https://www.womensaid.org.uk

Home - Women's Aid

Women's Aid is a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services and build a future where domestic violence is not tolerated.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

PyongyangKipperbang · 31/08/2025 00:50

Thank goodness you are ok.

I would suggest that one of the first things you do is get your mum to buy you a new phone and sim. Chances are, its your phone he is using to track you. There are several things that he could be using and it would very simple to turn them off, but that would make things worse as he will know that you are on to him. Take your usual phone with you everywhere so it looks normal but use the new phone to book flights etc, then factory reset the usual phone and leave it behind when you leave.

Also, do you drive? Could well be a tracker in your car so when you leave, dont drive to the airport but use a taxi.

Obviously the same with shared bank accounts/credit cards etc.

Do you have you own CC and bank account you can use to book a flight with?

suitcasesarepacked · 31/08/2025 00:52

CastleofMey · 30/08/2025 09:06

Be aware OP that in some countries the husband is automatically messaged by the authorities if his wife is at the airport without him.

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WTAF!!

hellohellooo · 31/08/2025 01:05

Check for apple airtags too where you can

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 31/08/2025 02:06

If you can, phone women's aid from your mums phone...

They will be able to advise re any other security issues you haven't considered. Also they can advise re any snooping software and what to look out for.

Imbusytodaysorry · 31/08/2025 02:27

@OneSnug i wouldn’t tell him
your heading back with your mum . Or you won’t be able to fill the two suitcases you said you needed .
Just stick with the first plan of getting away soon as you can . You have support with you now.