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OneSnug · 2025-08-29T18:09:45+00:00

I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my husband just attacked me in an argument and kicked me in the stomach. Our entire relantionship has just ended. I will never look at him or be near him again. Ten years. 4 rounds of IVF. He’s always had an ugly side but never raised his hand on me until now. Apparently I was shouting and I’m not allowed to in his mind and that gave him the right to physically attack me.

PolyCat · 30/08/2025 12:42

Holding you in my thoughts OP! ❤️ virtual hugs!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 30/08/2025 12:46

Dannydevitoiloveyourart · 30/08/2025 01:56

Multiple suitcases will be way too conspicuous- please just leave with a medium size handbag or gym bag (if you normally carry one) .

The way he is, you don’t even know if he’s got cameras set up to watch what you’re doing while he’s away.

I know you’re in shock but please just get any flight home asap once he’s working tomorrow. Don’t go to the hospital unless you feel you physically deteriorate to the point of a medical emergency. Don’t go to the police station. They are not on your side. Just get home.

You only should take your passport and other ID docs (ie birth certificate, visa papers), any really valuable items (such as jewelry or irreplaceable sentimental items) and any financial docs (but only if those items are easily accessible). The only absolute essential though is you, your passport and your phone/ bank cards. Anything else is not worth delaying leaving for. You don’t know when will be your last opportunity to go and you don’t know who is watching you.

This 100 per cent.

Don't worry about several suitcases of stuff. Just leave it. Its not worth it.

Get the first plane.

Of course his apologies are worthless, but if it keeps you safe for the time being accept them. Don't let it de rail you tho.
Wishing you all the best OP

XWKD · 30/08/2025 12:53

What absolute scum.

hellohellooo · 30/08/2025 12:59

LumpyandBumps · 30/08/2025 12:41

Sending you every positive wish.

I am so reluctant to even suggest this as the thought appals me but could you bring yourself to show remorse and apologise for angering him?

At present he seems suspicious of how you will react, and he is hanging around as he’s unsure of your plans.

If you can say or do something that in his eyes will make his actions less wrong he might be less suspicious and it could be easier to get away.

Good luck with getting away.

Yessss to this

I had to do this the day my ex piece of 💩 tired to kill me and the kids

It worked and we made our way safely out of the house

I kept saying sorry
I won't provoke him again
I said I learned my lesson

🤮 🤮 🤮

hellohellooo · 30/08/2025 13:00

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 10:19

I am waiting for him to go to work but doesn’t seem he is going today. I have woken up and my entire body is so sore. I really hope he leaves soon. It’s Saturday and a busy day for him at work so I assume he must go at some point? You’re all right about just taking essentials, that is what I will do. Sorry my mind is all over the place. I’m also starving but don’t want to go into the kitchen to eat something until he has left.

You got this OP

We are all behind you 100 per cent xxxx

Please stay safe xxxxxxxxxxx

Seasidelife1 · 30/08/2025 13:14

Please just leave. Take the bare minimum, things can be replaced. Take a flight to anywhere that is out of the country? Do you have separate finances so he doesn’t see transactions. Better still get your mum to book for you and leave no trail. Please let us know when you are safe.

BadDinner · 30/08/2025 13:15

hellohellooo · 30/08/2025 12:59

Yessss to this

I had to do this the day my ex piece of 💩 tired to kill me and the kids

It worked and we made our way safely out of the house

I kept saying sorry
I won't provoke him again
I said I learned my lesson

🤮 🤮 🤮

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My god how awful.

Glad you managed to escape

EverybodyLTB · 30/08/2025 13:34

Thinking of you OP. It won’t get better, someone capable of this is beyond help and beyond redemption. Leave your stuff. I know everyone’s already said it so just chiming in with the same. Keep yourself safe and get out to anywhere your passport will take you ❤️

lizzielizard · 30/08/2025 13:36

You're constantly on my mind OP. I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Lots of good advice, the best being don't delay. Leave as soon as possible with passport phone and money. Try and put on an Oscar winning performance if you see him so that he suspects nothing. We're all with you. Safe travels back to your mother x

WellThisIsFranklyDreadful · 30/08/2025 13:38

Don’t wait. Don’t take anything but your passport if need be but don’t wait.

Dippythedino · 30/08/2025 13:40

I would advise you not to put him on the birth certificate so he won't have parental rights & decision making skills. I'd even go as far as saying that if he asks about the baby,tell him you miscarried. He doesn't deserve to know he has a child after he tried to kill you both.

Katrinawaves · 30/08/2025 13:51

Dippythedino · 30/08/2025 13:40

I would advise you not to put him on the birth certificate so he won't have parental rights & decision making skills. I'd even go as far as saying that if he asks about the baby,tell him you miscarried. He doesn't deserve to know he has a child after he tried to kill you both.

Edited

This may depend on the law of the country in which they had the IVF. I’m pretty sure even in the UK however that he could get a declaration of parental responsibility even if they were divorced by the time baby was born based on paternity which would give him all these rights.

NeedthatFridayfeeling · 30/08/2025 13:51

Really hope you get out soon OP. Stay safe.

XWKD · 30/08/2025 13:57

He's dangerous. You need to get out now. My friend's girlfriend is the member of her family to survive her father's murder rampage.

Lubilu02 · 30/08/2025 14:00

Please just leave at the first available moment, from everything you've said. I would not want to wait until next week.

Take only the things that are most sentimental to you. Clothes and everything else can be replaced.

Please stay safe, I hope you make it to your mums very soon xxx

MummyJ36 · 30/08/2025 14:01

Gosh I’m sorry OP, this is such a horrible situation to be in. All other advice is so valuable, I have nothing to add except to say please tell a family member and get out of there as soon as he leaves the building.

Also if you have a tracker of any kind on your phone (Life 360 etc) please make sure you disable it.

mylittlekomododragon · 30/08/2025 14:03

Please leave as soon as you can. Take the bare minimum and go. This man is dangerous.

Alondra · 30/08/2025 14:09

OneSnug · 30/08/2025 10:19

I am waiting for him to go to work but doesn’t seem he is going today. I have woken up and my entire body is so sore. I really hope he leaves soon. It’s Saturday and a busy day for him at work so I assume he must go at some point? You’re all right about just taking essentials, that is what I will do. Sorry my mind is all over the place. I’m also starving but don’t want to go into the kitchen to eat something until he has left.

You need to eat, even if it means to deescalate the conflict. He's also on high alert - he knows what's he done and is trying to control how you'll react. You know him better than us and lowering his guard, making him feeling safe with you again. is essential. If it means apologising or crying (or any other effective method with him) do it. You are in danger, and you want him leaving next week for his work trip, leaving the country.

I have no idea if he has access to your computer, but delete history if he does. Buy an airline ticket for the day you think he won't be at home, and take only the essentials you can pack in 1/2 hour. You can replace stuff, you can't replace your life or the life of your unborn child.

Be pragmatic. It's sounds cold but you need every ounce of sensible common sense to get you out of there.

usedtobeaylis · 30/08/2025 14:34

OP is there an embassy or consulate who could help you? I'm so sorry, this post took my breath away. I'm glad there's no doubt in your head and that you will be leaving. The very best of luck to you and your baby.

wakemeupwhenseptembercomes · 30/08/2025 14:54

Please let us know when you are safe op xx

wherethewildrosesgrow · 30/08/2025 14:55

Please please, just get word to someone in the uk, get them to report it on your behalf, and give updates regularly.
If you really feel that leaving is not an option til next week, then keep safe, and try not to let your mood show any signs of your planned departure.
Best of luck

Mix56 · 30/08/2025 15:01

You need to pull out all your acting skills from the bottom if your broken heart.
You need to make him think you are staying, contrite, sorry. That you realise it was your fault….
You need to find a way to get him back to work, he hasn't gone out because he thinks you might flee. He may even get family in to guard you.
Have you even got a card or money for a taxi ?
will he have cancelled the card ?

Mix56 · 30/08/2025 15:02

Take photos of all the bruising.

Mix56 · 30/08/2025 15:11

Another thought. Sorry I dont want to alarm you further. He may even say he is going to work, but actually sit in his cousin’s car across the road to check if you are leaving.
Maybe get a taxi to the Doctor, & see how that goes, if he intervenes you say you have contractions…. If no intervention or sign of being followed, go on to the airport, or hotel at airport until your flight

Saladbar · 30/08/2025 15:13

I think the advice of calling your mum is very good. Please do this. I’d help my children in a second if they were in your shoes.