Bisexual husband has a breakdown

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My husband has recently had a mental breakdown after taking ketamine for 8 months (I had no idea) as a means of escape. We have been married for 18 years and have young children together. Our marriage hadnt been great the last couple of years since a death in the family .since his breakdown my husband is now telling his friends he has to be true to himself and is bisexual. He has always messed around with bi porn but has never felt the need to tell other people. He’s now ‘clean’ from the drugs and is saying he had the break down because he can’t handle our life and he either has to change our relationship or end it. He says it doesn’t matter that he’s bi because he’s with me and he has no intention of being with men . Do you think the drugs have changed his sexual preference, or is he just now admitting it to
himself? And why do other people need to know 🙈

He's being an abusive, manipulative gas lighting prick who is trying to guilt you into letting him fuck around with men,yet see him as a poor wee victim.

That we are too busy and have too many commitments and he wants to spend more time at home as a family. Ive been single parenting for the last year so it’s just been the kids and i whilst he’s been living a double life taking drugs

Again this.twat

This is a safeguarding issue, why are you and your children living with someone who takes drugs? Put your children's safety first...

And what do YOU want, after you’ve been doing everything single handed, and this twit has been out of his face on drugs? I think he’s got an inkling you might have had enough and is trying to reel you back in. He’s telling everyone so he can paint himself as a victim and get everyone to guilt you into putting up with more of his nonsense.

You don’t really think taking drugs changes your sexual orientation op? Not seriously?

I think he will eventually come out as gay. He’s testing the waters by telling people he is bi in my opinion.

He’s married to you so why does anyone need to know unless he plans on seeing men too?

If he wants a more life at home with family then HE NEEDS to start taking responsibility and putting the effort committing to make a family home life . Wow that’s a bit of a mouthful 🤔

I suspect your kids will be happier when he isn’t around. Get rid of him you don’t need him.

That was my thought too.

He is going to come out gay. End the marriage.

Sorry but I think he’s looking for a way out of the relationship but is making excuses so that you will end it and so he will not be the bad guy.

He’s putting you in a position he knows you can’t achieve so will use that as the reason.

Sorry I wasn’t clear. He was taking drugs away from home and we are currently living seiwrately whilst he sorts himself out. He currently has no access at all to the kids

Omg the threads recently in relationships would break anyone's heart.
OP, I'm so sorry but this sounds like the end of your marriage. Great post above from @Surveille222 re ketamine, I know very little about it, but my God, how can you stay with this man? I think there is a very high chance he will come out as gay. Protect yourself and your children. All the best x

I just wondered if it would highlight something he’s been suppressing and now he needs to act on it ?

Thank you xx

Thankyou so much for this. He was technically living at home but just slept here and wasn’t here at all otherwise

do you think the emotional changes you describe will ever reverse? Or is the genie out of the bottle now?

He’s currently on bail for hurting me and has no access to me or the kids

Why do you think he needs people to see the full version of him?

So your marriage is basically over anyway?

He’s saying he turned to drugs because he couldn’t handle our life and it was escapism.

He's building excuses for his appalling behaviour.

Do you think he’s trying to use the fact he’s bisexual to say that’s why he turned to drugs?