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What's the worst start to a date you ever had?

204 replies

OneFancyTealQuail · 16/08/2025 20:30

Turning up 30 minutes late

OP posts:
Spaghettihair · 17/08/2025 08:15

Guy that was 20 minutes late and didn’t apologise. I hate lateness and couldn’t relax.

Other guy who reacted very oddly to a silly joke. We had been talking about half an hour and reading/joking. He’d established he had a dry/dark sense of humour (as do I but I hadn’t really initiated any yet) I mentioned I had a young child and he gushed ‘Oh I LOVE kids!’ To which I said ‘Just like, the usual amount I hope’. He basically got up and left! I think he was hoping for an audience to riff to rather than a peer…

AmandaHoldensLips · 17/08/2025 08:21

Chicago Rib Shack! That's a blast from the past indeed.

TwistedWonder · 17/08/2025 08:24

AmandaHoldensLips · 17/08/2025 08:21

Chicago Rib Shack! That's a blast from the past indeed.

Used to go to the one in Leicester Square after cocktails and the Long Island Ice Tea Rooms.

That was a proper early 90’s night out

Booboobagins · 17/08/2025 08:24

Angelchick1971 · 16/08/2025 23:05

First date(and last!) I stepped in to help a young girl whose very older bf was threatening her(i put her in a taxi home and called the police) My date said i was "too aggressive for a woman" and "shouldn't get involved" then flounced off leaving me on my own 20 miles from home at 11pm at night. What a man(not!) 🤣🤣

Well done @Angelchick1971

You're a hero!

handsdownthebest · 17/08/2025 08:32

Some of these have made me laugh so hard...today is our 40th wedding anniversary.
I think I'll keep him. 😁

WomanOfSteel · 17/08/2025 08:39

I once met someone in a pub that I’d known for years. He turned up arseholed and promptly fell asleep sat up to the table with his head resting on his arm. Luckily my friend had come with me as I was 17 and he was older so we just left him there as we couldn’t get him to wake up. I had another friend who worked in the pub so we told her what had happened before we left and the next time we saw her she said he stayed asleep for about 45 minutes, woke up and looked around and then got up and left. Idiot.

Lurkingandlearning · 17/08/2025 08:45

Mummyto3ginismyfriend · 16/08/2025 22:15

Met on a dating site.
He wanted a walk and a cup of tea somewhere. I thought that was sweet and casual.
He turned up with a tag on and it had to be an afternoon date as he had a curfew!

😳😂

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 17/08/2025 08:47

daddysgirlnot · 16/08/2025 23:36

Oh God, between being asked on a date (Sunday) and the actual date (Thursday) he’d had the most awful perm done (1980’s). When I opened the front door I nearly lost my eyesight. Knew in that moment there wouldn’t be a 2nd date but didn’t feel I could back out of the first. My mum laughed about that for years.

"nearly lost my eyesight" 😂😂

Bigearringsbigsmile · 17/08/2025 08:48

leahnejade · 17/08/2025 05:32

I have so many more stories. My love life is one big disaster area.

Do you think that if you raised your bar a bit it might help? Like, why would you go on a date eith someone that you knew was a heroin addict?
And as soon as he left you on the first date to go snd see his dealer, why didn't you run for the hills?

Faith3101 · 17/08/2025 08:51

I got off the train to meet someone and ran over to their silver car, got in, put my seatbelt on and turned to see that the driver wasn’t the guy I was meeting, wrong car 🙈 When I got out I heard a beep, the silver car behind.xxx

TwistedWonder · 17/08/2025 08:55

Remembered another one - I was about 19 and met a man in a bar. We chatted for ages and he asked me on a date the following Friday
I waited outside the pub and a man came up to me and asked ‘are you TwistedWonder?’ turns out the bloke I met actually had a partner and a baby but thought I’d be a good date for his single mate instead!

Nice enough guy and we did have a laugh but absolutely no romance

Pudmyboy · 17/08/2025 08:55

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 16/08/2025 22:04

This is undeniably a you problem. Your date sounds fun and lovely. You, quite uptight. He himself might have been unaware about the bib thing and took it in his stride but you were weird about it. You could have laughed about it and bonded over it but you blamed him instead. I dont think he was in the wrong here

Wow! Are you his Mum?

Juslooking2 · 17/08/2025 08:56

Living abroad in my 20s. Had snogged a friend of a friend in a pub. On a subsequent get together I invited him back to mine in a taxi. At one point I said something about finding it a bit grim the amount of men who in his group of friends who were using prostitutes. At that point he yelled at me for about 5 minutes straight, asking me who I thought I was and did I think I was better than them and how dare I be so judgemental etc.

Needless to say I asked the taxi to stop and asked him to get out.

He later phoned me (months later) and apologised but at that point I was well put off.

MyAcornWood · 17/08/2025 09:02

One guy treated our first date as a ‘farmers wife suitability interview’ and asked questions like ‘can you cook?’ ‘Have you got any milking experience or would you need to learn?’ ‘what would you cook for silage tea?’ ‘How many acres is your family farm?’ Nearly all my dates were with young farmers and so farming was often the topic of conversation , in one way or another, but that one was ridiculous 😂

To shame myself though, I walked off the side of a slipway and went straight down (quite a drop!) into the sea on my first date with my now husband. It was march and ever so cold. Guess it didn’t put him off as we’ve been together 10 years now.

MyAcornWood · 17/08/2025 09:04

Oh! One guy got road rage… with me… and I’d done absolutely nothing wrong, he just couldn’t reverse. So embarrassing as neither of us realised who the other was until he got out to INSIST I reverse back for him. I said fine, but that after said reversing, I was going straight home 😂

AlizeeEasy · 17/08/2025 09:08

Spaghettihair · 17/08/2025 08:15

Guy that was 20 minutes late and didn’t apologise. I hate lateness and couldn’t relax.

Other guy who reacted very oddly to a silly joke. We had been talking about half an hour and reading/joking. He’d established he had a dry/dark sense of humour (as do I but I hadn’t really initiated any yet) I mentioned I had a young child and he gushed ‘Oh I LOVE kids!’ To which I said ‘Just like, the usual amount I hope’. He basically got up and left! I think he was hoping for an audience to riff to rather than a peer…

That’s deffo the sort of joke I would make, but from his point of view you did accuse him of being a paedo 😂

TheoreticalVacuum · 17/08/2025 09:18

Rolling up his trouser leg to show me a weeping wound on his leg, then exclaiming 'Ah, you c*nt!' at the pain when he pulled his trouser leg back down over the wound.

For some reason I stuck it out to the end of the date 🤷‍♀️ And, reader...I definitely did NOT marry him.

KermitTheToad · 17/08/2025 09:22

Got chatting to a guy in a pub and he invited me out to another pub for some dinner a few days later. He picked me up and started driving to the pub which was in the arse crack of nowhere. His car broke down . This was 35 years ago long before mobile phones. He left me in the car while he searched for a phone box. Eventually his dad turned up to rescue us. His dad drove me home and left him fiddling with the car engine. I never heard from again. We were both about 20 at the time.

HelpMeUnpickThis · 17/08/2025 09:26

PLEASE can mumsnet bring back the laughing emoji - this thread is killing me! 🤣🤣🤣.

LozzaCh0ps · 17/08/2025 09:33

I’d been talking to a woman for quite a few weeks and we decided to meet for a few drinks. Said our hellos etc, and the first topic of conversation was how she’d slept with a man for the first time ever a few nights before our date (ok fine) and now she had cystitis as a result. Then it turned out he was an awful lot younger than her and on some sort of program for troubled youths, and she was responsible for him on that program!

Anyway they ended up married a few years later according to Facebook 😅

I think I’ve had one good date in my whole life 😅

LunaTheCat · 17/08/2025 09:40

CrocsNotDocs · 17/08/2025 03:17

We sat in a coffee shop and he spent the entire date talking about his old houseshare and explaining which Seinfeld character matched each housemate.

Well almost the entire date. He wanted to play a trivia game where I would name any city in the world and he would list every sporting team from that city.

I saw him again as I was in my late 20s and had been single for years and was desperate. We’ve been married for 16 years and have 3 kids and he is the nicest and most interesting man I have any met. He can’t even remember what we talked about on our first date so I have never been able to get an explanation.

That’s a wonderful story .

onlymethen · 17/08/2025 09:42

Date said get off the motorway at the sign for Spiddel(made up name), and he would meet me in the lay by then follow him into Spiddel for a meal. I was travelling 200 miles from the South and he was travelling from the North signs for Spiddel at 2 different junctions. I waited an hour was very keen this was pre mobile phone days, then went home in tears. He called me on my landline and we discovered the mixup. I forgave him and we are celebrating our 35th Wedding anniversary.

Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 17/08/2025 09:50

Met OLD.

First date was in a local café. He had the most terrible hay fever & spent the entire date sneezing, blowing his nose & wiping his eyes. To make matters worse he hadn't brought an adequate supply of tissues, but luckily I always have a packet in my handbag & he used them all. He'd also got himself so nervous about the date it had set his psoriasis off so the skin on his face was red & flaking.

Not the most auspicious start, but, yes reader I married him. 😍

CalzoneOnLegs · 17/08/2025 09:52

bert3400 · 17/08/2025 07:32

Blind date with someone I spoke at work over the phone. We met in London, he had greasy long hair high top dirty trainers and black socks and the strongest brummie accent ( sorry Birmingham, it's not sexy in any way) ...had the ick immediately. Got away at the earliest possible time . Made our future work calls very awkward

Did you not catch the accent on the phone chats though ?

Jeffandpedro · 17/08/2025 10:09

In my late teens, he asked if he could take me out to dinner. We agreed to meet at a local Pizza Hut. I ordered first and then he said that he wasn't hungry because his mum had cooked him dinner and he'd just watch me eat. It was the most awkward meal ever.