What's the worst start to a date you ever had?

[OneFancyTealQuail]

Turning up 30 minutes late

@24Dogcuddler oh no 🕺🏿

We met online (my first and only online dating experience) and had had some really lovely conversations over the phone so I was looking forward to meeting him in person.

Arranged to meet at a country pub halfway between us. I got lost on a straight road (don’t ask 🤣) and managed to drive past the pub about 5 times before I twigged I needed to turn down a side street to access the car park so was running late and a bit flustered.

Walking into the bar area, I managed to not see the small step so literally fell into the room, crashing into some poor unsuspecting chap.
Apologised profusely, met my date, who thankfully had a sense of humour so my awful entrance broke the ice somewhat!

I then excelled myself while busy talking with my hands and knocked my drink over his cream jacket 🤦‍♀️ (at least it wasn’t red wine!)

Despite all this, he stuck around and we’ve been married nearly 13 years

I've never heard of such a place. Why is it so messy? I'm picturing adult sized toddlers digging their hands into bowls of spaghetti.

This wouldn’t bother me… perhaps it’s all be could afford?

Took me for a drive in his car and wrapped it round a lamp post.

I was only 23 and worked with him (he was 18 so there was an age gap but we were friendly at work - he’d pestered me for a date since he was 17 subject finally agreed).
So I met him at the house he shared with his brother. We were supposed to be going into town to a club.
When I got to the house the windows were wide open and clouds of weed smoke were pouring out.

shouldn’t have been surprised he was a weed smoker because I was aware that he’d recently given up smoking heroin.
He then said he had to meet his dealer (!!) so I had to wait in his house alone for ages.
I also had an upset stomach from the stress of being on an actual date but he was too out of it to notice.
Once in the club (via taxi) we actually had a good time, he bought me champagne and yes, shared his weed with me.
I dated him for a while before he slept with an older woman, but he was too immature for me basically.

Another date with a really attractive guy, we were both 23 & meeting up before a work Christmas party. I wasn’t impressed when I turned up to the bar dressed up and there he was off his face giggling. I had to help him get to the party hotel.
He’d booked a room and it all became clear - laid out in lines on the dresser was MDMA power & neatly rolled spliffs. Plus other stuff probably but I can’t remember.
He’d also been a previous heroin addict it turned out, but was now into dance drugs mainly. I also saw a photo of his beautiful girlfriend which was the last straw.

I met a guy at a bus stop. I was 25, he was 26. We got chatting on the bus, then went to a pub to continue chatting. Then he told me he was into his second drink driving ban. Which is how I met him on the bus!! Oh and all his exes were psychos! Hmm.

I have so many more stories. My love life is one big disaster area.

Shellfish, at a guess.

I turned up to a date 20 minutes late due to getting lost (pre Google maps) luckily date was understanding and 17 years later we are still together.
I once went on a date with a man I met drunk he looked totally different sober(not my type) and he was so so shy. I made all conversation he just answered in one word replies. It was so painful I kept running out of things to say, I lasted 90 minutes then said I was going home. Just awful!

There’s been a few. Mainly the ones who look nothing like their photos and I wanted to do an about turn in the car park. He was much shorter than stated, smoking like a chimney and smelt like it, clothes looked way to big for him plus he had filtered his photos. Another one about 5 stone heavier than his old photos, I was bored and felt like I was on a job interview plus there was a table of people I knew within my eye line who I was trying not to make eye contact with!
Oh and the one who I thought had potential we had chatted lots etc. He was off his head on our first date, turned out he was an ex con. But he was bloody hilarious and I laughed a lot. No more online dating again! I did eventually find a decent one who I am still with now!

He turned up with the greasiest hair I’ve ever seen and claimed it was because of a ‘water allergy’ (it wasn’t). He then proceeded to take photos of other drinkers in the pub and loudly announced they were for his ‘blog of terrible dressers - I’ve got quite a big following!’

Our children now go to the same nursery and I wince whenever I see him (and his still-unwashed hair).

He turned up drunk after day drinking with friends. He was a distant colleague so we had lots of mutual friends in common. I cut it short after 20 minutes.

He did stay on my Facebook friends for many years & I definitely dodged a bullet. His social life and subsequent marriage(s) and divorces seemed to be one big train wreck played out on social media, all in the space of 2008 to 2020 ish.

This happened to someone in my year at teacher training college.
She'd been out clubbing on the weekend, swapped numbers with a nice young man, arranged a date for midweek.
She arrived on the Monday morning at her new placement school. Second lesson was with the A-level lower 6th class. Guess who was sitting there?! Yup, the nice young man who turned out to be a lot younger than the entry age to the nightclub!
It served as a lesson to the entire year group to not go clubbing in the same town as your placement school.

End of a first date rather than the start, but after a lovely couple of hours hitting it off in a bar, took me back to his for a nightcap...

...where we were joined by his mother.

Met a guy on a dating app. I was early to the pub/restaurant so sat outside waiting. When he arrived, I stood to greet him, and he basically said, "alright?" Then immediately walked into the pub. This was the first time we'd met and there was no little hug or acknowledgement, compliment or even, "been here long?" Just to break the ice.

It didn't get much better over dinner - at one point he said he wouldn't get a promotion at work (in the NHS) as he is "a straight white man, not black or gay", he turned out to be a staunch right winger which I wasn't aware of and I'm certainly not. He also wasn't overly polite to the wait staff, which I find a huge turn off. Then at the end of the date, they brought the bill over and he just sat there. Didn't make any move to look at the cost, get his wallet out. I wasn't expecting him to pay - I'm always happy to split it or pay myself, I'm not "traditional", but he didn't even say, "want to split it" or "how shall we do this" in a jokey way like most people I have dated do. So I just ended up paying it myself. Bearing in mind he was very high up in the NHS and drove a covertible so not hurting for money I imagine! It just felt so rude not to even make a suggestion on paying. Now I think about it, I wouldn't be surprised if it was a test to see if I was a gold digger or something 😒

We stayed in touch for a bit but never went on another date.

Oh I’ve so many. OLD The man I met at a busy art exhibition who threw his arms wide open and said let’s hug as we approached one another and I didn’t and he bellowed loudly you’re not going to leave me standing here looking like an idiot are you? And I said put your arms down and stop behaving like an idiot. I thought I’d give him another chance but the date did not progress well. He was rude about the art to a galleriest and finally said something very racist at which point I said right I’m going to leave. He offered to drive me home, I said there was no way I would get in a car with him and wished him well. He subsequently messaged me profusely apologising for being an idiot and asking for another chance. 🤷‍♀️

Very first date ever. A boy at school I used to hang out with at lunchtime. He was the year below me but very funny and I really liked him. He turned up wearing a quilted navy jacket that was too small and well above his wrists, it also looked like he was wearing his school trousers. I had to buy the cinema tickets as he was too scared, saw Girl on a Motorbike. Which was mortifying. I walked him sort of halfway home and went to my friends. Worst thing proved to be that it spoilt our friendship.

Turned up very late, smelly, rotten teeth and avoided buying me a drink back by suggesting we go for a walk.

Almost unrecognisable as photos a decade old (brown hair to grey and his whole face shape had changed).

He fell over and I laughed hysterically and couldn’t stop. He did NOT see the funny side!
Needless to say there was no date two…

We arranged to meet at a local National Trust place for a walk and a coffee. I got there first then he arrived with his dog which promptly did a massive poo. He told me to go to the cafe and buy coffees while he cleared it up - oh, and he'd like a big slice of cake please. It didn't make a good first impression and things didn't improve.

We were in a pub, not a regular Wetherspoons, a bit more classy, and he was looking at the menu complaining how it was to expensive, but we only agreed to meet for a coffee anyway, then he proceeded to check the football scores on his phone! Well that’s what he told me, he wanted to see me again I politely declined 😂

Someone had children with this man????

Hugged me. I don't do touching from people I know.