Page 4 | What's the worst start to a date you ever had?

Saraht1991 · 17/08/2025 07:24

I met a guy on tinder back in 2014 and was running slightly late for our date. As I was dashing from the car to the date, I text my sister saying ‘nervous fart time’, except I sent it to my date by mistake instead of my sister! I was mortified and almost turned around to go home. Luckily I didn’t as we’ve now been married for 6 years and are soon to be welcoming our second child!

justasking111 · 17/08/2025 07:25

First real date. He turned up an hour and a half late. I forgave him when he explained that a dog had run out on a windy country lane he'd hit it so put it in the car and went off to the vets. Waited until the dog had been seen.

He was the loveliest guy, thinking back.

shellyleppard · 17/08/2025 07:25

@Selfishshellfishies dear god that would have put me off too!

Redflagsabounded · 17/08/2025 07:27

OLD. Hadn't twigged he was wearing a hat in all photos. Walking up to him, saw he had a big round shiny bald head, which by itself would have been fine, but he also had a couple of inches depth of longish very curly hair all the way round it from ear level down. Literally like a comedy clown wig. And his clothes were grubby.

healthybychristmas · 17/08/2025 07:27

Cadenza12 · 17/08/2025 07:09

Very first date ever. A boy at school I used to hang out with at lunchtime. He was the year below me but very funny and I really liked him. He turned up wearing a quilted navy jacket that was too small and well above his wrists, it also looked like he was wearing his school trousers. I had to buy the cinema tickets as he was too scared, saw Girl on a Motorbike. Which was mortifying. I walked him sort of halfway home and went to my friends. Worst thing proved to be that it spoilt our friendship.

I would assume he didn't have any money and that's why he was wearing those clothes. I really feel for him.

ChampagneLassie · 17/08/2025 07:32

LondonLady1980 · 17/08/2025 00:05

It was my first date with a guy I had been chatting to on OLD.

He turned up at the restaurant dressed from head to toe, including his shoes, in bright orange because during one of our online chats I’d mentioned I liked the colour orange.

I was mortified!

He hadn’t even done it as a joke, he genuinely thought it would endear me to him.

I also went on another date with a guy from OLD and he’d arranged for us to go out for a meal. We got to the restaurant and he seemed perfectly pleasant and normal, very polite and kind and gave me no reason to think he was a weirdo. Then the waitress came up to take our order and I told her what I’d like for my starter and main course, but when it came to him he said, “Nothing for me thank you, I’ve already eaten.”

When the waitress left I asked why he’d already eaten when he asked me to go for a meal with him and I explained how silly and uncomfortable I was going to feel eating alone in front of him. He told me it was all intentional because he gets pleasure from watching women eat and that’s why he likes to ask women out to restaurants. He said he doesn’t eat himself during the date as he prefers to just sit and watch the woman whilst she enjoys her food. I should have left there and then but I just didn’t know how to react. I felt so so uncomfortable whilst I ate my food whilst he just sat there staring at me.

As he walked me to the taxi rank after the date he asked if he could have a kiss and I firmly told him no. When I got home he text me and said, “I had a great time and I really want to see you again. I love a woman who enjoys her food. Can I take you out for another meal?”

BLOCK. BLOCK. BLOCK!!

As kinks go I think this is a great one I could certainly get on board with. I’m wondering if he can cook too?

bert3400 · 17/08/2025 07:32

Blind date with someone I spoke at work over the phone. We met in London, he had greasy long hair high top dirty trainers and black socks and the strongest brummie accent ( sorry Birmingham, it's not sexy in any way) ...had the ick immediately. Got away at the earliest possible time . Made our future work calls very awkward

CurtsyFriends · 17/08/2025 07:33

I had 2 separate guys stand me up twice in succession for 1st dates. Both with feeble excuses.

These were both men I knew in real life before hand too, so it’s not as if they saw me and I wasn’t what they were expecting and ran off. One I had seen almost daily for the last 4 months and the other I’d seen several times a month for the previous 5yrs. Odd. I shouldn’t have given either of them a second chance tbh.

SunflowerLife · 17/08/2025 07:33

OverlyFragrant · 16/08/2025 21:56

He was 20 minutes late, so I treated myself to a pint and packet of peanuts. He scolded me for eating peanuts in case my date had a nut allergy. I asked if he had a nut allergy, the answer was no 🖕

Another one, and Italian guy, definitely not 6ft, more like 5ft3. I'm 5ft4 and was taller than him. He said I was not fat enough.

I had the same with an Italian guy. He told me I looked plump in the dress I had on when we had first met and I was too slim for his liking when I turned up in jeans and a blouse. ( I was a size 12 at the time and curvy, not skinny at all). That dress went in the bin.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 17/08/2025 07:35

@AdaColeman a few years later I did actually see his wedding announcement in the paper. He married his ex girlfriend who he’d left because she’d stabbed him during an argument 😱

healthybychristmas · 17/08/2025 07:35

Whataholiday · 17/08/2025 00:36

I arranged to meet someone outside a country pub for a drink. When I got there there was no sign of him but I received a text saying, I’m here but I can’t get out of the car, I’ve broken my leg. He said we wouldn’t get drinks as he couldn’t carry them. The whole date was spent with me in the passenger seat.

At one point he said, I can still have sex if you go on top. I’d only just met him 😆

He sent me a text after the date asking if I wanted to see him again. I said, Let me know when you can walk. He replied, lol and I never heard from him again.

Weirdly, the next date I had the guy had also broken his leg. He did manage to hobble to the bar though.

How was he driving his car if he had broken his leg?

NegroniMacaroni · 17/08/2025 07:41

He asked what my star sign was, and then proceeded to say we'd not be compatible.

alongtimeagoandfaraway · 17/08/2025 07:41

BrassyLocks · 17/08/2025 03:58

I've never heard of such a place. Why is it so messy? I'm picturing adult sized toddlers digging their hands into bowls of spaghetti.

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Chicago Ribshack?

MrsDoubtfire1 · 17/08/2025 07:43

24Dogcuddler · 16/08/2025 21:27

Cinema date in 1978 to watch Saturday Night Fever. He turned up wearing the full John Travolta white suit black shirt and medal!!
Didn’t even realise til I saw the film (which he’d already seen 3 times) just thought he was over dressed. Mortifying.

That is so 70s. I had a boyfriend just like that. He wore a white suit and when he danced he sweated so badly that the black die from the shirt stained through the white suit. You've got to love them - but he could dance.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 17/08/2025 07:45

@autienotnaughty I had one of those too. He barely spoke, single word answers and it was seriously hard work. i gave him plenty of chances to start conversation in case he was just nervous, but there was nothing. I couldn’t wait to leave.

He messaged afterwards to arrange another date and I said no, he told me I was wrong and we DID have good chemistry and great conversation. Pestered me for a couple of weeks insisting I admit I was wrong and that I should accept another date.

mumtoadhdadult · 17/08/2025 07:46

All names changed!
I was on a blind date with Craig, met through a magazine(it was a v. long time ago!!) met him in a pub. Saw him sitting there and said ‘Craig?’ And before I could sit down he replied ‘yes, but my name isn’t really Craig it’s Bob, but I didn’t want to put my real name down in case you were someone from work winding me up’

This ‘someone’ would had had to buy the mag, find the advert, recognise him, write him a letter, get a reply then arrange a date. 🙄

Another advertised himself as a widower. He was only 20s which thought was very sad. Until he divulged they were married and divorced before she died. Made him get the sympathy dates.

And the last one (hence the name change because I have told so many people IRL about this) was the guy who I met in a car park to go for walk. I was already there. He parked, asked to borrow the car park fee as he had no change. I gave it to him, he went back to his car, got in and drove off!! 😂😂 Still creases me up to this day. I’m really not that minging!!!!

I could go on, but I did eventually find my prince amongst thd frogs and have been married 30 years. Perseverance paid off!!

LeftieRightsHoarder · 17/08/2025 07:47

pinneddownbytabbies · 17/08/2025 00:08

He came round to collect me, I asked him in while I finished getting ready, and he sat on the sofa, looked at my cat and said "I hate cats, if it comes near me I'll kick it".

😱
I bet that was the shortest date ever!
This is the worst I’ve read so far, but there are some real horror stories on this thread. Funny to read, but excruciating to live through.

AhBiscuits · 17/08/2025 07:51

I had one turn up late and drunk. It was a short date.

cumbriaisbest · 17/08/2025 07:54

Mydahliasareshit · 16/08/2025 21:02

He had booked a restaurant in Knightsbridge where they tie a plastic bib around you on arrival because it's messy. I would have probably really enjoyed it for a third date once I'd got to know anything about him. He thought it was the best thing ever, and kept saying isn't it FUN! He was a nice chap and keen but I couldn't get over the crassness rather than a gentle introduction over a drink. Who knows, I might have married him if he hadn't done that. He was a plumber so probably had a very nice life and no shortage of dates!

A bib? My God.

SunnySlopes · 17/08/2025 07:58

The first and last blind date I went on (many moons ago ago) the guy was very good looking and I initially thought “ohh hellloooo” but it became quickly apparent that he was coked up to the eyeballs.
He talked about himself incessantly, hardly pausing for breath & kept staring at my boobs. I lasted about 30 minutes before I made an excuse about feeling unwell and left. Yuk.

mumtoadhdadult · 17/08/2025 07:58

BrassyLocks · 17/08/2025 03:58

I've never heard of such a place. Why is it so messy? I'm picturing adult sized toddlers digging their hands into bowls of spaghetti.

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Old Orleans possibly?

no longer around but great food when they were!

songbird3086 · 17/08/2025 08:02

I was set up by my friend from a guy at her work who was indeed absolutely gorgeous. However he spoke about himself non stop, I bumped into a friend at the bar and he rated her a 4/10 then said ‘oh don’t worry you’re a solid 8’ which was his limit apparently… he clicked and banged the bar too to get the severs attention.
it was hellish!

songbird3086 · 17/08/2025 08:04

I can top it though with a friends story! He got really drunk and she offered to drive him home.. he gave her the address but it turns out it was his ex girlfriend’s sister’s house where she was staying with their daughter. He went to the door drunk at 11pm and started an argument. My friend drive away!
he messaged the next morning asking if he could see her again haha

Fancyflorist · 17/08/2025 08:07

An online date around 15 years ago, I was a trainee solicitor and he, it turned out, was in a nasty dispute with his brother over their mother's will. I knew next to nothing about that area of law (and was unqualified) but he didn't let that put him off trying to use the entire date to get free "advice" from me. I made my excuses and left.

Cursula · 17/08/2025 08:08

Mydahliasareshit · 16/08/2025 21:02

He had booked a restaurant in Knightsbridge where they tie a plastic bib around you on arrival because it's messy. I would have probably really enjoyed it for a third date once I'd got to know anything about him. He thought it was the best thing ever, and kept saying isn't it FUN! He was a nice chap and keen but I couldn't get over the crassness rather than a gentle introduction over a drink. Who knows, I might have married him if he hadn't done that. He was a plumber so probably had a very nice life and no shortage of dates!

Chicago rib shack? Loved that place. Nice vibe and perfect as ice-breaking first date.