Badoo

[Pregnanttoad]

Hi
I'm wondering if anyone can help me please.
Checked some online bank statements with my partner for something and I noticed repeated transactions showing £5.49 from [email protected]
He's saying they are transactions from online phone games however when I asked him to show me the games he wouldn't.
He was also very attentive last night in a way that suggested he was feeling guilty. I had a horrible feeling in my stomach when I saw the transactions and it hasn't gone away.
I'm not someone who has trust issues, I'm usually pretty chilled.
Is there anyone who can advise me please? Partner has denied any wrong doing etc and has said he won't buy online games anymore, I said I have absolutely no issue with him buying online games, but it doesn't make sense that transactions are saying Badoo on it?
Thanks

Badoo is a dating website, sorry.

By the looks of it he's paid for Badoo's (dating website) premium subscription. Its free to use most of the site so if it's a recent transaction then he's stupidly verified he is currently on the site, using it and paying for the extra perks that (to some) would show serious effort in wanting something out of using it. You only really pay for these sites when you want to see who has liked you to make a match easier to find.

It is absolutely nothing to do with games or gaming in the slightest. However there are ads for the site that come up on some games but they don't automatically sign you up to a profile or charge you. All that has been done by your partner.

The others are correct but this can be easily found by googling it. Comes up first try so confused as to why you didn’t google it straight away if you were suspicious? There is not much hope of him hiding it.

I've been googling loads and I appreciate the replies. He's admitted to messaging women for pics. I'm devastated. I have a 4 month old baby and I might be pregnant. I am distraught

As others have said Badoo is a dating website where the free version is perfectly useable so he’s paying for the premium version so he can contact women -plural!

You could try contacting your bank for a detailed merchant description, as Badoo is a dating platform, not a gaming service. If he can’t show proof of the game purchases, that’s worth discussing directly and openly.

I’m sorry @Pregnanttoad that is devastating. Why some men decide that as soon as a baby comes along they have to seek outside attention is beyond me. It’s a time he should be focusing on how to be a good dad and partner. It shows you where his priorities lie. Now you need to decide where yours do.

Having a young baby is very hard so you don’t need to rush any big changes but for me there would be no going back and I wouldn’t continue to invest emotionally and financially in the relationship with someone who would set out to cheat on me at my most vulnerable. Think of all the active decisions he had to make to get to that point. Even if he never met up with any of them (which without full access to everything and no deleted messages you will never know if that’s true) he knew if you found out that it would devastate you and probably be the end of your relationship yet for him some pictures of other women was worth the risk of blowing up your family. And if he thought you would forgive him if you found out — well it tells you he thinks you have no strong boundaries and he can do as he likes.

My advice — get what you need out of him now and plan for a future where you don’t have to second guess his every move.

I am not trying to upset you, but there’s no way a man pays for a subscription dating service for pictures only. There are billions of pictures online for free. He is paying because he’s trying to meet women.

Hard to hear, but necessary for moving on.

I am not trying to upset you, but there’s no way a man pays for a subscription dating service for pictures only. There are billions of pictures online for free. He is paying because he’s trying to meet women.

Hard to hear, but necessary for moving on.

Hi
Yes I agree with everything you all say and I really appreciate it no matter how hard it is to hear. Thank you for being here for me

Yes I can back up the other replies, that it is a dating site.
How often are the transactions as you say repeated transactions.

The transactions are every month, some are daily. He is a bastard

So sorry to hear this. The monthly charges are the subscription. Badoo has in app purchases for a range of things:

Badoo also has specific in-app purchases. There is both a premium service subscription and one-off purchases for specific Super Powers which lift usage limits for contacting, voting on the app, or appearing higher up in search results.

Sounds like he’s on there daily and paying extra to contact more women and appear higher in their search results.

I hope this isn’t a joint account as you’re paying for him to do his best to cheat. Keep the bank statements as evidence.

Yeah that's exactly what he's been doing.
It's all blown up today but I've been supported by his parents. He's exchanged numbers on what's app with no fewer than 193 women.
I feel like a mug. Thank you for your replies

Jesus OP that’s just awful, I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Just stay strong for your DC and look after yourself, I’m sure lots on here are thinking of you and supporting you from afar

I do really appreciate it.
Tomorrow I'm going to take a pregnancy test and be brave. My head is racing full of everything.

I just feel like a fool, my relationship before was toxic and abusive, I know I'm not to blame but I do feel like I am some kind of magnet for horrible men. Sorry rambling now

Sorry it's a dating website

I’m so so sorry OP - what an absolute dickhead - I had a female ‘friend’ like this - didn’t actually want to meet anyone , was perfectly ok with partner she told me - she used it as ‘fun’ entertainment and an ego boost -lost a very lovely partner too - all for an ego boost !!

Leaving him tomorrow. I deserve better than this and will focus on being a mum. Just need to be brave tomorrow

You're making absolutely the right choice OP, he will not change, he is not your partner or your friend. You're being so strong, just remember he is only going to hurt you, you're saving yourself in the long run.

You are being very brave and it will save you more headache in the future. The traits that led him to do this don’t disappear without fundamentally changing who he is as a person. This takes a lot of ‘inner work’ and therapy. Unless he’s shown a genuine desire to do this you are just waiting for the next bomb to drop and it’s no way to live. Are you pregnant @Pregnanttoad ?

193 women?? FFS, where did he find the bloody time with a 4 month old? Sorry op,I know that’s not the point. Good luck with today, get rid of the rancid, cheating toad and never, ever look back. Fuckers like him make me sick.

He has been messaging when I've been away with the baby seeing family and while he is at work.
I'm pregnant yes but I don't think this pregnancy will end well. I have a history of early miscarriage. This has honestly been one of the worst weeks of my life. Luckily I have very supportive friends and family and also appreciate the support on here greatly

@Pregnanttoad I’m so sorry it has gone this way - the bloke won’t change - like my ‘friend’ I think it’s entertainment to him.

Yeah it's definitely entertainment for him