New boyfriend wants sex all the time

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I’ve been dating my new boyfriend for about 3 months now and he always wants sex. We live 15 minutes apart and see each other most days. On the days we don’t see each other, he talks about it and asks for naughty photos. On weekends, we often end up having sex several times a day (8 times on Saturday). It’s hard to just relax and watch TV without him wanting to jump on me. He seems to want it all the time. He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

I used to think I had a high sex drive until I met him. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong btw. In fact, I’m starting to wonder if I’m the problem because I don’t want it as much as he does. I understand that new relationships are exciting, which explains his frequent desire. However, I’m worried because I don’t share the same feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy our sex life, but I would be content with once or twice a day instead of multiple times daily.

Is it concerning that my desire for sex isn't as strong as his?

OP I think he may be some kind of sex maniac.

I would be so BORED!! I'm amazed you've put up with this for this long.

Gorgeous 💕

I'm mid 50s and with a newish man the same age. Been together 6 months. We average 8 times over a weekend now. Bit more when we first got together but we make it last longer now so probably spend the same amount of time having sex. It's bloody wonderful.

We do go out on dates during the week but a rainy weekend can see us doing a John and Yoko marathon bed session quite happily 😊

Before having kids me and my husband used to have sex every day, since having kids it’s obviously not every day lol but we still have a very healthy sex life.

I think in the early days it’s quite normal, although 8 times is a LOT (only done that once on holiday!). I think maybe just be honest and say you’d like to just cuddle sometimes or enjoy his company without it leading to sex. Quality over quantity and all that. If he doesn’t respect that, then you’re probably mismatched.

Not going to lie, I'm 46 and I'd bloody love the chance to have sex eight times a day.

8 times a year??? Your husband probably has a hobby that involves his willy 😂

You're lucky you haven't ended up with galloping cystitis or even a kidney infection or thrush.

I love(d) sex but 8 times a day is insane.

If you don't want it say no. See what happens. His reaction will tell you a lot.

It's a bit like enjoying a bit of cake and then having to eat 18 cakes in a row, or watching your favourite film every night for months, or listening to the same CD non-stop. Perfect way to go off it for life...

He says it’s because he fancies me so much and gets really excited.

He’s already done that

Dear god, this would put me right off. There’s more to life than sex.

I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with someone like that. Sounds like he doesn't know what 'no' means.

I'm really looking forward to the end of the school holidays.

Is this 8 times a day to completion? Who even has that much time and reservoirs

But that's what you're for.

OP, he's already got you thinking that it must be you with the problem, and that's a huge red flag. He's treating you like a thing he can do stuff too, and that's a really bad sign. He's also blaming you for making him like this.

You said: He's quite affectionate even when we're out, giving me kisses, touching me etc, but he usually knows how to control himself.

The 'usually' in there worries me. What else is going on? Is he wanting you to have sex in public or in toilets or something?

Don't be fooled by the few posts on here saying that they loved having sex eight times a day. There are a some posters (I'm guessing they're men) who love fantasising on here.

Dear OP,

You are not the problem. Your BF'd sex drive is in the upper part of the high sex drive bracket.

Your sex drives are mismatched at the moment. You both need to compromise & come to an agreement about the frequency of sex in your relationship & settle on an amount you both feel comfortable with.
If you cannot then maybe the relationship should end.
Does he sulk or get stroppy if you decline sex....if so that is a red flag. Or does he respect your feelings & leave you alone.

You refer to it as sex, is it ever 'making love' as there is a difference?
How did your BF cope without having sex for a year?

Finally.....you should not do anything you do not feel comfortable with.
That includes sex 8 times a day & sharing 'naughty' photos. If someone loves & cares for you they will respect your feelings & wishes.

Just because someone wants it, it doesn't mean that they get it. 8 times a day- wtaf.

Yes, but he hasn't yet said it's her fault for being so fanciable. Thus shifting the blame away from himself and minimising his actions because a chap just can't help it, can he?

I have a juvenile dog, marking his territory…. He’s booked in for the chop 🥜 next month… I suggest op considers this

8 times in one day?! How many times were you left satisfied? Once?

My 50 year old husband (nearly 20 years between us) has the highest sex drive of anyone I’ve ever been with - I LOVE it. 8 times a day is not unusual for us 😂

I remember doing it 4 times in one night once it was bloody amazing but 8 times a day that would destroy me

And I should add, I’m always, always satisfied - that’s his favourite part 😂

Yeah right

@Pluvia you know some women actually enjoy having a lot of sex. I'm not a man I can assure you and my wonderful resurrected sex life is very definitely not a fantasy 😘

"Don't be fooled by the few posts on here saying that they loved having sex eight times a day. There are a some posters (I'm guessing they're men) who love fantasising on here."

I think perhaps sex with the same partner does become boring after a while I certainly found that with my ex. Most of the negative replies on here I'd guess are from those in long term relationships. But there's definitely a honeymoon phase in a new relationship where you really fancy each other and both want a lot of sex. Just most of you have forgotten this.