Single life

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Anyone prefer the single life? I'm single and I love it

yes i've been single for 4 years and love my life now after being in a unhappy relationship for a long time
a guy asked me to go for a drink a couple of months ago and even though he was nice i said no i just couldn't be bothered
i do what i want when i want without having to consider anyone else love it

Yes - can’t even imagine having an actual relationship again. And the thought of living with a man again is my worst nightmare

Had been very happily single for years until recently when I realised that I was missing emotional connection. Haven’t always felt like that mind you! Absolutely loved being able to do what I want when I want and not having anyone to answer to/consider/take up my precious headspace.

What is strange though is that now I almost feel embarrassed to admit that I’d like to meet someone - it’s like I’ve built my life around my single status and I feel a bit of a fraud changing it 🤣

A bloke I know said he Hayes being single. I said you have to have hobbies and go places. He was very negative and said he goes places but there is a limit and he gets bored. He doesn't seem to have any hobbies. He said you can't just do the same hobbies over and over. At that point I gave up and said life is what you make it. He said nobody cares if I'm dead or alive because nobody phones me. I said I do abd he said yes but most people don't. I think he might be suffering from depression. I am single. I have no siblings and no kids. My parents are dead but I don't have such a negative attitude. I try to make the most of my situation. My extended family mostly live abroad. I have one cousin in the UK and we are not close and I hardly see him. That's life. You have to make your own life

Me. By choice and my life is full

Nope I miss the male company

I like companionship and I am one of those people who feels a bit funny if I'm on my own too much (like do I actually exist??) but I think it is a gift to live in a time when women can be on their own in perfect peace. We are the first generation to have this possibility.

I've been single for the best part of two years, save for a fling or two.

I don't have to compromise, I don't have to share my clean and lovely bed. I don't have to navigate someone's weird or overbearing family or deal with messy bathrooms/snoring/bodily functions, etc. I deleted the dating apps on my 35th birthday as I realised life is really lovely without all the rubbish that comes with not being single. I don't doubt there is a lovely man out there, but I have no motivation to find him given there are so many bad ones.

I read something recently that said the two happiest groups of people are married men and single woman!
I love being single, never had a long term relationship and love the freedom. I think single men generally find being single much harder than women.

Yes I’ve chosen not to date for a few years now, life is more peaceful, less expensive dating wise, I can totally concentrate on my life goals without giving my time to a relationship.

I think the positive attitude makes the difference. Reality is you're both in a similar position. Your born, you die and in the middle shit happens. He's looking at the negatives, some day he'll die and it may be some time before anyone notices, you're probably in the same boat. Why does it matter if you die and lie rotting? Your gone. Enjoy what you can of life. Having dealt with deaths in the family it really does bring home that what we aquire during life is largely rubbish.

Don't believe everything that you read!

How old are you?

I've been single for 8 years. I've just started to miss intimate affection. Until now I only felt relief not to have to deal with ex, and have been enjoying my life with ds, and my career..

Ds will head off after his a'levels next year so I will have plenty of time to date again. It's an odd feeling. Quite novel. 😊

One thing is certain, I have no desire to share a home with a man again.

I have tried relationship and it always required more of my time and attention than I was prepared to give, so I stopped having relationships.

Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to have someone to go out with as in the boyfriend type, but I don't miss it enough to wan to date again.

I think single men generally find being single much harder than women.

We have a number of single male friends, life long bachelors. They're quite happy and although not gay have no interest in female company.

I’m mid 50s and love being single. I have been single for three years and have a full life: job, friends, interests.
I know I might change and start to want a partner but for now it’s great.
Some people need to be in a couple to feel complete, and some people just don’t like being on their own or doing things on their own. I’m lucky that neither of those things apply to me.

I’ve been single for 5 months, I dated 2 guys very briefly after but those were just blips 😅.
I’m enjoying the single life at the moment and I know for a fact I’ll never choose to live with a man again, my ex-DH has put me off for a lifetime!
just recently decided I'm not going to go on OLD but am open to meeting guys, if the connection and vibe is there then why not? And if it’s not, I’ll still be content being single.

What difference does age make

Great to see lots of positive posts about being single 👍

I love it. I do sometimes wonder why there isn’t a “happily single” topic on MN. Every so often some recently dumped, divorced or bereaved person comes on to ask if there’s life after coupledom, and we tell them the advantages. I just wish we could normalise it a bit more and try and get it across that being solo isn’t a predicament or a problem to solve; for many of us it’s a life choice.

Someone said being single is OK when you're young and can go out and socialise etc. My next door neighbour was In her 80s and not in best health. She was single only because her husband died. She had a daughter who lived 3 hours away so spent most days isolated at home . She didn't have friends and the only person she was sort if friendly with was an old school friend who was also housebound. She eventually went into a care home which didn't help her social situation because very elderly people in homes don't socialise and most of them are in bed by 8pm

It does frustrate me that people assume that being single is a transient or temporary state, and not actively chosen.

I’ve been single 7 years, I’m 34. I’m not against a relationship but it’s also not something I seek out either. And tbh it likely won’t ever work for me because I have such a low tolerance to male bullshit 😄

Sometimes it's not good to be single especially if you have had a stressful day and ut would be nice to have someone bring you a cup of tea or cook you dinner or when you are ill. That's the only time I don't like being single

I have lived with 4 men prior to single. I don't recall a cup of tea being made by any of them once. It is good to learn to be self sufficient anyway.