Single life

[PerkyOchrePeer]

Anyone prefer the single life? I'm single and I love it

How do you know that it hasn’t been the case? Age gap relationships are always about specific agenda/ needs/ societal pressure.

A man about my age in his early 60s told me he fancied me. Then he told me he would love to sleep with me and wasn't really looking for a relationship 🙄

Until very recently single women couldn't get mortgages or credit cards.

I am single and got a council flat

I got a mortgage in my 20s, and have had a credit card for a very long time.

@Fragmentedbrainwhat do you mean by very recently?

Definitely. Single now for over 15 years after more than 20 years of marriage. I love having my own space and my independence. I'd never live with someone again.

Neither of those are necessary though.

U need a credit card when going abroad and a mortgage to buy a property

It’s amongst the happiest I have ever been, however without my radio, dogs and cats and DC popping round now and again, it wouldn’t be so good. I’m very self sufficient and enjoy my own company. I also run a small business, read a lot (it’s heaven to read and not be interrupted), and see friends most weeks, so life is full. I also have had a campervan for many years which I dot about in when I want a change of scenery.

And you don't need to go abroad or buy a property if you're single - or if you're not single, for that matter. (In fact, you don't need a credit card when going abroad anyway. I've gone abroad at last once a year - often more - for the last 30 years and I've never taken a credit card. And you can buy a property without a mortgage. I bought my current house without one.) You seem to be missing the whole point of this thread.

Dunno about that. How recently are we talking? My Aunt was a Dr and single parent she bought and had a mortgage 60 years ago. My Mother head teacher pretty much the same. My mum told me never to rely on a man for financial security. I think many women didn’t get the opportunity to get an education years ago. My Grandmother was working class and the neighbours laughed at her educating her girls, this was the 1950s.

It's amazing to see how ignorant women are of our own history.

Until the Sex Discrimination Act in 1975 it was routine for women to be discriminated against for financial services purposes. Wealthy women were of course cushioned from this effect.

You are all bloody lucky to live now.

Never read anything g so silly. Of course single people can go abroad. Also I know a few single people that have bought properties

I bought my home mortgage free as a single parent age 44 in 2008. I sold my house with a huge mortgage when ds was 3 years old and moved to a much cheaper part of the country.

@dontcryformeargentina totally agree with that - my H would have no problem even in early 60s - I however would find slim pickings if I was on my own which is why I wouldn’t bother - I am not anti a relationship in that position but in my early 60s I wouldn’t rush out on OLD -and I certainly wouldn’t rush to live with someone - I think a lot of older women would like someone ‘in their life’ but don’t want needy , domestically inept older blokes , or poor ones who haven’t looked after themselves , or feel a need to move them in - and that’s being honest.

Not everyone wants to go out and socialise. I have no desire to and can't imagine wanting to when I'm in my eighties. Would rather be curled up with a cup of cocoa.

Single parent for the last 16 years to 18 year old DD and I hear you. I am very social but also like my own company and the idea of having to make compromises and to consider a partner, just makes me shudder. DD and I have a nice little set up and now she’s older I am enjoying the freedom that her independence has afforded me.

Single is bliss. Though it does offend the patriarchal norms lol.

The only downside for me is sometimes I am a bit low on funds but I try to cut my cloth accordingly.

I luv the way you say 'domestically inept' lol. Classic!

@Augustus40. Ha - I’ve only known one guy who wasn’t - and he was actually a weirdo the other way -couldn’t cope with any kind of mess at all. I’m sure there are some older guys who cook regularly to a good standard , clean up after everyone, do the washing and drying and folding and putting away, change bedding, , mop floors etc - I’ve honestly just never met them myself and nor have any of my friends

I agree entirely. I do have a long-distance partner (met via OLD over 10 years ago, both in our 50s) who is solvent and reasonably capable domestically. But I definitely don't want anyone living with me and ruining my peaceful independence!

I can see a long distance lightweight relationship definitely has its advantages. Somebody to share a weekend away with and go on holiday together. However being post menopausal and in my 60s I have no desire to have sex ever again! I also prefer not to work too many hours so I have time for my 5 hobbies....! Self employed here. Quality of life.

in my 50’s my dh (second marriage) is my bestie and love his company. If gd forbid anything happened to him though, I’d just make a life for myself on my own. There’s no way I could be arsed starting from scratch and getting to know someone new with annoying habits in tow.

@Augustus40 you see I agree with that too - it’s one of the reasons I’ve stayed married - because he’s accepted I feel like that sexually - wouldn’t matter who it was!! I was never that bothered before beyond about 43 but post menopause it was as if a switch flicked and I actually hated it .