Single life

[PerkyOchrePeer]

Anyone prefer the single life? I'm single and I love it

I really really hate that assumption, that single people saying they love it are just trying to convince themselves and everyone else.

is it beyond your comprehension that some people could be genuinely happy single? That they actively choose that life, rather than it being something that happened to them by chance or circumstance? That they cherish and prioritise things like solitude, independence, quiet?

Every time I go on a date (usually because I put pressure on myself that I “should”) I wonder why I bothered.

I am 3 years post divorce, mum to young children so my time and patience is thin. Despite every man I’ve been on dates with being keen for a second date, I haven’t met a single one where I’ve thought “yep, I’m willing to let you into my life”.

Agree. When I was first single I went on dates but found the whole process absolutely tedious. Even then I remember thinking ‘if I do meet someone I like I still don’t want to ever cohabit’ and most of the men was shocked at this. Think in their 50’s they’re seeking a nurse with a purse.

You're right, I am making a big assumption there & I apologise for it.

I am glad you and others like you are genuinely happy being single & have chosen that life.
And there is no reason that having a partner should be necessary or equate to a better life.

I guess it's different when a single life happens to you rather than being a definite life choice.

And they’re equally as shocked that we don’t “need” them and are perfectly self sufficient without their hero complex!

Single life happened to me and r the time it wasn’t what k would have chosen or expected but I made a decision to make a different life to the one I thought I would have,

If you have the mindset that this is a new chapter in life and you embrace it, then being singje is a joy.

I did put myself out at the start to make friends with other singje women who had similar interests and that was the best thing I’ve done. I might only have known these ladies a few years but I can’t imagine them not being in my life.

I would describe myself as institutionalised to the single life. Its been 20 years ive been on my own and 6 years since my last date amd being single is what it is.

It is very clear to me that I am not what women want, and what I see them with i despair sometimes. Gormless looking men, quick to anger, slow witted, but they can be loud and have no problem lying about themselves in order to get the girl.

You do miss someone to talk to though. I try and keep busy.

Thanks for apologising. You’re right, single by choice and single by circumstance are very different things, and the latter can be very hard. I think it’s why some women seem to settle for sub-par men tbh, and I would argue that singledom is vastly preferable to a poor relationship!

Ive lived alone for twelve years, had a couple of dalliances along the way, but the last four years I've been totally single. I am so much happier on my own with nobody under my feet.

It has its advantages and disadvantages really. Id much rather be single than with someone who makes me miserable.
Id like to know though how I manage to make such a mess when I live on my own. The house looks like its been burgled.

No I don't like being single. I have a lot of interests, but some experiences feel hollow with no one special to share them with, and that being put on repeat over & over again. I don't enjoy feeling like I'm seen as a social leper or a potential threat to other women either, just because I'm childless & single. And it's shit not having anyone to list as an emergency contact except for very close family, which won't always be around.

I'm glad you're enjoying your single life, but human beings weren't made to live as single units. However, despite thinking & feeling this way, I don't want to subject myself to the dumpster fire that dating in your 30s & 40s seems to be for women.

Single life and not single life have pros and cons, it depends on which stage in life you are in.