Affair partners, what do you class as a predator

[Clairebearstares]

I’ve been seeing a lot recently the other woman in an affair often getting called a predator as in they have gone out of their way to snag a married man. Obviously the man has done the wrong thing to his partner regardless but I’m curious what traits do you see in a woman to class her as a predator. I never thought of the other woman as a predator but now that I’ve been seeing it pop up it really makes me wonder…..

pursued my husband, didn’t win at first but worked her way in over a couple of years by flattering him, waited on him, bagged out her husband to mine, tried to befriend me (had mutual friends) ect ect.

interested to hear others thoughts

Yeah, I have to say I think that's a bit odd.
To me it's more like they are both responsible for the decisions they made, but the decisions the cheater made were the deciding factor, not the ones the OW made.

Well this is your unique situation. Not every affair is like that.

I can honestly say I was heavily pursued by an attached man, one I’d tried to fade out of my life and he just kept on coming.

This happened to mine too. She was insidious -always there, played the long game.

I always think of Geri Halliwell with these types of things, playing the long game with her partner. Loads of people who worked round him saying she was always hanging out there trying it on despite him being married and with a small baby. That, to me, is predatorial!

That said, i only know of one woman in real life who is like this, but has her own issues so tends to approach/have affairs with married men. I feel sorry for her because I think they genuinely don't care for her, they just like the attention

OP I only think predators are those who go for vulnerable people or exploit a difference in a power dynamic. In this case the woman should have been shut down effectively immediately, not given three years to keep chasing. He clearly didn’t set proper boundaries if she kept coming back for more goes, thinking she had a chance.