Oh Bananabeau you will be missed.

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I'm so sorry to see your post has been removed. You will be missed.
I refreshed my app daily in the hopes of seeing positive updates from you, and I'm sad you felt you needed to remove your post altogether.
I wish you well in your future and I sincerely hope you can fulfill your dreams.

You deserve to be happy.
💗

So good to hear from you, I’m pleased your feeling better I’m fortunate to never have had what you did, but DH did a few years back and oh my goodness it made man flu look like a party.

Has the event happened yet?

you’ve got this if you want to discuss in more detail you could ask the OP to move it to the other place so it won’t show up on searches.

event has taken place and ExW acted as we expected ruined the full thing! Embarrassed herself and everyone else.

I’m ok here, there’s no outing information. As long as everyone can stick to that we are good.

Absolutely, hope we can help you find your strength again.

no surprise it happened exactly as you said.

It’s baby steps at the moment, just start putting your needs and happiness first.

Morning @bananabeau ... glad you're feeling better physically, and are over the worst of your illness.
Mentally it will be a lot longer road.
Whatever you decide to do please make sure finances are in place so you don't have to struggle.
It's good to hear you've stepped back from stuff, and hopefully, sometime in the future you'll follow your dreams x

Were you asked to babysit @bananabeau ?

Bananabeau I'm so glad you're finding the strength to return for updates. You are bound to be feeling somewhat low ATM, which is to be expected after such a high.
You literally saw what was going to happen at the event and I'm glad it did and you weren't there to witness it. Were they put out that you not available for b/sitting duties?
Remember to carry on taking these small steps you will get there Xx

Good morning banana - I got the same condition last week - obviously that's your fault 😂but I am absolutely drained. Take care of your physical health as well as your mental health. Hopefully you will be feeling better soon.

Haha it is my fault! How u holding up??

Cheering you on here too.
Delighted you are feeling a bit better and pushing back.
When you fully detach, life is easier all round.

Thanks for asking - I feel absolutely shattered. The heat doesn't help, but I am having lots of naps.

Glad you are feeling better as time goes on.

Sounds like you were better off not at the event to witness the mess.

I can't seem to find any motivation. I'm constantly tired this last few weeks. By 3pm I feel ready for bed but no chance with 3 DC

Glad to hear you are feeling better, @bananabeau ! Stay strong.

Glad you’re on the mend @bananabeau and that the event is in the past (the outcome totally unsurprising).

You’ve a lot to process so take your time and post if it helps but don’t if it doesn’t.

Thinking of you @bananabeau - I am glad you are feeling stronger and taking care of yourself. Thank you for the update, we are all still here, cheering you on.

Well done, @bananabeau . Continuing to root for you.

I'm glad to hear you're feeling better.

It sounds like you're holding your own with your husband and not being his doormat. That's an improvement.

I was thinking of you and hoped you were recovering from both things...so I'm delighted to hear you sounding stronger on both fronts.

Be sure to rest well and look into some supplements or a good tonic, sometimes recovery after a bout of that means tiredness and fatigue can linger. I recommend lots of self care for the next while.

Hi @bananabeau was in your last thread. Hope you’ve recovered x

So pleased you started this threat OP, I have been thinking about you @bananabeau so its fab to hear you are back at work and feeling better. I hope you managed to get away around the time of the event and if you did, I hope you had an amazing time xx

Take care, banana, so pleased you're sticking up for yourself. Keep that vision of what you want in the forefront and it'll come

I'm so glad you are feeling better @bananabeau

You will get where you want to be in time, you got stronger and stronger with every post and I was, and still am willing you on to bigger and better things. Take care of yourself.

You've been in my thoughts, @bananabeau , glad you are doing okay and recovering. Stay strong and know we're here for you.

Hey,

so tomorrow I’m going to be in the same place as ExW and all the kids. A few weeks ago I wasn’t allowed to be present to preserve her feelings but tomorrow she gets to be in my space. I’m feeling anxious. I’m exhausted, haven’t slept properly for days and am just feeling shitty. She will kick off, I will get the brunt of it. I want to not react so badly but I’m afraid everything will come to the surface and I’ll explode.

also not having a great time at home. Number of different mind games going on. And we have escalated to name calling which is new. I’m feeling desperately lost tonight

That sounds such an awful situation for you @bananabeau . I am so sorry you have to be a part of this ridiculous family still.

Re the Ex-W, try not to give her ANY power over you. If she kicks off, grey rock. Narcissist thrive on the power games and not giving them any attention is the only way. Is that possible in the situation tomorrow or do you HAVE to speak to her at all?

I’m hoping I’ll be able to avoid her. But it’s quite a small thing so I think our paths crossing will be inevitable. Tomorrow is going to be a stressful day (don’t want to give outing information) and I know she will kick off. She never doesn’t kick off. But I feel this time it’s going to be targeted at me. I have never been in her company (due to her not being able to handle it). I really need to try and not react.