He kicked me out and took my son

[444pinkunicorns]

For the last 18 months I have lived with my partner in a property he owns. Today, following an argument he has asked me to move out immediately and has allowed me to take a small bag of my belongings.

We have an 8 week old son together, who he is refusing to allow me to take with me. Currently he is keeping our son away from me and refusing to let me see him, hold him, or take him with me following the break up.

I am our son’s primary caregiver and do pretty much all of the parenting. I have somewhere stable to move into and will be staying close to family.

Can anyone advise on what I should do or what my rights are?

Are you drinking or on drugs? Just be honest, there are some really good people on here if you ignore the noise?

No, it's not as simple as "formula exists"

Courts treat breastfed babies differently to bottle fed babies in custody disputes.

Sure. But that poster was talking about police going in and removing the baby, or 111 sending a doctor to the house to check on the baby's health on the basis that the baby is breastfed and therefore presumably that the father is starving the baby by withholding the mother. This is not correct, because formula exists.

Formula schmormula. The issue here is that this man is an abuser

Do not leave the house without your baby. Stay exactly where you are. If he wants to call the police to come and remove you, or if he threatens you in any way and you call the police, you leave with your baby.

Op I'm sorry.
I would call the police and say your ex has thrown you out the door of your home and won't let you back into the property with your newborn and he is aggressive and you're scared and you're outside the property.
They will come. Don't ring the doorbell until they are there will you. They will strongly pressure him to hand baby over to you, if he doesn't then at least this incident is logged. This will show up on cafcass etc. have evidence of all your calls and texts asking to be let back in to see baby. this is what I was advised by lawyers to do when by ex threatened to keep baby overnight without my consent (he had never had him overnight before). It will evidence he is erratic and unstable and doesn't act in child's best interest.

For a man to behave like this I'm sure there has been domestic abuse so this also needs to be reported (less urgently now).

If you can get baby back into your arms then you flee and seek legal advice being allowing contact again. But don't tell ex you'll do this, tell him (verbally) you'll come back with baby tomorrow or something like that so he allows you to leave.

If you havnt got baby back on Monday then emergency court application is filed that day, also call health visitor to report what has happened - they might contact him to make him see sense.

There are Facebook groups - family law uk and fathers justice uk - these two have brilliant advisors that will tell you which court forms to fill in.

You will be ok baby will be ok I wish I could come with you to the house I hope a friend can do too. If you can audio record or film from your car then that would be helpful.

There is evidence that the baby is not safe with x. Because he is not letting his child see his or her mother. Unless the op has been abusive to the child and the father genuinely fears for his child safety, it is a deeply abusive thing to separate an eight week old breastfed baby from its mother.

OP have you called the police yet?

I strongly think for the police to take this seriously you need to make it clear you're at or outside the property and you're scared of him and he's aggressive and threatening. They will arrive to protect you and the baby from conflict. They are less likely to show up if you're at a friends and they think baby is safe until Monday and they'll let the family court deal with it

The OP hasn’t bothered to respond to anyone.

Could admin remove this post?

Ps if you're still physically in the property, you can get to the loo and call police and say he's threatening you and you're scared and explain there has been domestic abuse if there has been .
They will arrive and they may well take HIM away, if they do this you maybe able to get a temporary occupation order so you and baby can stay in the house and he can't.

She may be mid argument with her ex. Let the advice and comments stay here for when she is safe to look at her phone. And for anyone else in a similar situation,

But that doesn't mean police will go and remove the baby.

WTF?

The OP is going through an incredibly difficult time. She may not have replied for any one of a myriad of reasons.

This is a support site, it's not here for your entertainment.

Feel free to ignore or hide the thread if you have nothing to contribute.

You haven't gave a lot of information and everyone is jumping to assumptions without information.
What reason is he giving for not giving you custody? Is he a reasonable person? Have you taken drugs or done something to concern him?
If you have done absolutely nothing wrong then get back there and get the baby.
If for some reason it's in the baby's best interests to stay with the dad then consider this also.

For you to leave without your baby means surely he threatened you in some way in which case you dial 999 and get the police.

The OP posted earlier in June and it is clear the partner is abusive. She may not be able to reply.

The op has asked for advice, it isn’t a soap drama she doesn’t need to update you.
She is in a crisis and people are advising her.
Why have the post removed? because you’re not getting updates?
She is probably trying to reach her baby and is taking what she needs from here.

Even if that was totally untrue? What if he tells the police he has to look after the baby because the mother is highly emotionally unregulated and a danger to
herself and the baby?? Would you agree that was the right thing to do?

In that case the police need to be involved

Go and get your baby

edit. Just seen he’s abusive. Call the police.

@444pinkunicorns are you in the Uk? Have you called the police.

I know, how rude! Can’t think what could be more important!

Is he threatening her?

You don’t know the circumstances that led to this. Maybe he is protecting the baby from a negligent / abusive mother.
Equally the same jump as declaring he is abusive. Not all me. Are wvil bastards.

Two sides to every story, and it's his child too. Some of the responses on here are unhinged, FFS.