Plus One wedding Issue

[libra89]

Hi my boyfriend has been to two weddings this year without me. He has said that in both wedding invitations that no plus ones are invited. I have been with him about a year now. I feel very left out because of this. Any advice what I should do. Thanks in advance

I think some counselling would help you change your mindset and be less passive and dependent on others. Invest in a course of therapy to understand why your behaviour is so needy. This will help you in social relationships in the future; I suspect it's a pattern of repeat behaviour you display in all your social interactions.

No I don’t need a pat on the back and no I’m not a controlling girlfriend. I have been a very supporting girlfriend. I’m not a red flag

He has met my friends I have been to a wedding of one of my friends

I’m not being self feah I have been a very supporting girlfriend. I always say him hope he enjoys it and he always says he wants me to come to the wedding so badly

You can't seem to understand that THIS is the issue.

I see this as not meeting his friends an issue

Thank you I will work on meeting his friends and expanding

Op how old are you?

Quite simply, you don’t have enough going on in your life.

how often do you see this boyfriend? Do you stay over at one another’s homes? How long have you actually been together if not rounding up to a year?

Yes Op
and that is rather telling

I didn’t say he couldn’t go on a stag.

“One or two good friends”

you aren’t sure whether you have one or two good friends?

has your boyfriend been Introduced to them? Have you socialised with your friends with boyfriend present?

And your boyfriend joined?

Thanks I’ll have to ask him why he hasn’t introduced me to all his friends

I didn’t have a boyfriend at that stage

Do you want to share how old you both are? And how long you have actually been together?

How often have you met his parents?

Counselling might help

I think the issue is your boyfriend not introducing you to his friends.

The wedding isn’t about you, I wouldn’t of invited anyone to my wedding that I didn’t know, doesn’t matter if it was a plus one, I wouldn’t pay for someone if I had no clue who they are.

Ask your boyfriend to get everyone together to meet up, if he says no then ask him why. It sounds like he’s trying to keep his friendship and his relationship with you separate.I don’t have the same friendship group as my husband but I know all of his friends, have their numbers, on social media and could go hang out with them if I wanted to.

Therapy? Perspective? Realise you’re being irrational and stop dwelling on it?

But if you have to ask, I think the answer probably is therapy.

A lot of these responses are really naïve

i think deep down you know that your boyfriend isn’t giving you want you need

I would say if he’s that into you he would have definitely of wanted you to meet his friends

I’ve been to therapy a few times but ways feel like there is something wrong with me whenever I go there

I would have hoped he would have introduced me to his friends

You’re repeating your answers quite a lot, and not elaborating. What do you want from this thread? You’ve received tons of good advice but you don’t seem to be listening.

There is something quite wrong here
OP prioritise getting some professional support

having one or two good is better than having no friends

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