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Stuck on holiday with a sulking man

135 replies

June2025 · 13/06/2025 05:57

I am currently stuck on holiday with my parter and I am dreading him waking up and sulking
he has lost his mobile phone and doesn’t remember any passwords so I understand it’s stressful but I am just dreading the day
I want to head back to the U.K. early so he can sort it because he will be quiet all day unless someone else speaks to him in which case he will be pleasant, but he will be snappy and cold with me
he is also cross because I didn’t want to have sex last night as he was being so horrible
as an aside he also said that as we were passing somewhere it was my special place as it was the land of the slags and then said it didn’t count as he was joking
it’s going to be a long day as we are camping and he will make it clear he is very very cross with me

OP posts:

Motnight · 13/06/2025 05:58

He sounds awful, Op. Is it like this a lot with him?

Menopants · 13/06/2025 05:58

You don’t have to be in a relationship with this horrible man

ObstreperousCushion · 13/06/2025 06:01

Can you get up and take yourself out for the day?

Leave a note saying you’re doing a day trip, back at whatever time. You can either explain you didn’t wake him as he’s been grumpy and you wanted a break, or just leave that unsaid if you think he’s got enough insight to work it out.

Even if all you do is sit somewhere peaceful with your phone, it’ll be better than a day of walking on eggshells.

Having said that, if he sulks a lot, how much of a future do you see with him? It’s really unattractive and draining.

Figcherry · 13/06/2025 06:02

You’re not a dc, why does he get to be cross with you?
In fact I would tell him if he is going to behave like a toddler then you’ll treat him like one.
Are you driving? Can you get home?
If possible do your own thing and ignore the sulking and if he says mean things ask him to repeat himself. And then just give him a look of contempt.

Mauro711 · 13/06/2025 06:28

This doesn't have to be your life. It's not OK for him to treat you worse than he treats everybody else. You are supposed to be the person closest to him, the one he is supposed to value the most. He's doing the very opposite. Also the sulking because you don't want to have sex with him when he's treating you badly, yuck!

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June2025 · 13/06/2025 06:36

It’s pathetic
the sun is shining , I have offered him my spare phone so he can get back online but he doesn’t know any of his passwords to his email account so he can’t get on to anything
he will ruin the day with sulking I know what he is like and then deny it

we are staying in such a beautiful place as well, and has some lovely plans but he cannot do anything because he is so worried
he always puts me down about being scatty but I counter act this by having a back up phone and options to get into my email account if I got locked out

everything is down to me anyway I have booked and planned everything
he won’t even use his card out here so he has to transfer me some money when he gets back

OP posts:

Mauro711 · 13/06/2025 06:43

Is this really who you want to be with? If a friend treated you this way, would you still want to be friends?

Shedmistress · 13/06/2025 06:47

Can you drop him off at the nearest train station and tell him to go home and sort himself out?

SpryCat · 13/06/2025 07:09

He’s not a keeper, is he!

SquadGoals75 · 13/06/2025 07:10

Why is he cross with you?

why won’t he use his card?

he sounds like a nasty piece of shit and you need him out of your life. How quickly can you get rid of the dickhead?

TwistedWonder · 13/06/2025 07:20

Tell him you’re going out on a trip and leave him to it.

Have a nice day sightseeing away from sulky mcsulkface.

Won’t use his card - tough shit. He’s an adult not a child and you’re not his mum.

DelphiniumBlue · 13/06/2025 07:25

Pack your bag and go.
He really doesn’t have much to recommend him, does he? Land of slags?? That’s so disrespectful, not only to you but to all women. He’s made it clear what he thinks of you, he expects you to fund his holiday while he insults you.
Id be leaving him where he is without another word. Then you won’t have to listen to this nastiness anymore.

Isthisit22 · 13/06/2025 07:28

June2025 · 13/06/2025 06:36

everything is down to me anyway I have booked and planned everything
he won’t even use his card out here so he has to transfer me some money when he gets back

Stop facilitating this then! People only treat you the way you allow them to.
He will HAVE to use his card if you don’t pay for things for him.
Put it this way, if you (hopefully) split this holiday then you may never see that money again.
Only you can raise your bar and stop letting him make you feel bad.

chlodk · 13/06/2025 07:31

Life’s too short for this. Tell him to go home.

SunnyPugdays · 13/06/2025 07:31

Why are you putting up with him
You can do better ,he's not a keeper

Lollylolo · 13/06/2025 07:34

In the bin he goes OP. Life is too short for this nonsense, from a partner or anyone else for that matter.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/06/2025 07:36

Isn't there some sort of bog or cliff you can dump him in/on and then go home? He'll have to use his own card then, selfish bastard.

Beamur · 13/06/2025 07:36

Passwords can be reset?
Can't do with a sulker. I'd be tempted to say sulking won't bring his phone back, he could make an attempt to cheer up and make the best of the time you have away.
Longer term maybe look at how compatible you are and if you need this kind of behaviour in your life.

jeaux90 · 13/06/2025 07:38

He sounds vile. Why are you with him?

TreeDudette · 13/06/2025 07:38

It’s not supposed to be like this you know. It’s not like this for most people. You can have better. There is no room for better in your life with this fun sponge taking up space. Dump him, have better!

Coatsoff42 · 13/06/2025 07:41

Leave, cut it short, go home, there’s no coddling these people along their such manipulative misery spirals.
Tell him it’s not a fun trip, you arent enjoying it and you want to go home. Call his bluff once and spectacularly, no backing down, and you won’t have to do it again.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 13/06/2025 07:44

@June2025 did you deliberately make him lose his phone?? no, then it isnt your fault! ditch the sulky bum!!

Princessfluffy · 13/06/2025 07:46

Sulking is abusive behaviour, call it out and don’t tolerate it OP.

Pamspeople · 13/06/2025 07:49

You don't have to spend the day with a sulking man. Have a day to yourself enjoying the lovely place you're in. You have a choice, OP. Tell him he's awful company so you're going out.

OfficerChurlish · 13/06/2025 07:55

You're on holiday; he doesn't need his phone as he's with you and presumably you have yours in case of an emergency or a need to make a call, look something up, etc.? I wouldn't cut the holiday short but yeah, if he can't treat you with basic decency I'd split up until dinner time - and if he's still pretending he's six, extend that until the flight home.

IMO, "basic decency" means he (1) speaks to you with basic civility - he doesn't have to chatter if he's in a quiet mood but he doesn't have the right to make his loved ones/fellow travellers miserable and (2) stops making misogynisic comments even as a "joke" (3) gets a clue about sexual consent unless he wants a lifelong monogamous relationship with Rosy Palmer.

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