Stuck on holiday with a sulking man

[June2025]

I am currently stuck on holiday with my parter and I am dreading him waking up and sulking
he has lost his mobile phone and doesn’t remember any passwords so I understand it’s stressful but I am just dreading the day
I want to head back to the U.K. early so he can sort it because he will be quiet all day unless someone else speaks to him in which case he will be pleasant, but he will be snappy and cold with me
he is also cross because I didn’t want to have sex last night as he was being so horrible
as an aside he also said that as we were passing somewhere it was my special place as it was the land of the slags and then said it didn’t count as he was joking
it’s going to be a long day as we are camping and he will make it clear he is very very cross with me

Is it feasible to drive him back to the channel, put him on a ferry and then go back to the rest of your road trip? Nothing worse than a sulking partner who sucks the fun out of everything.

Poster upthread had the best idea by to get up early and go out for the day. Leave the sulker on his own. Nothing worse than a grown man sulking. Does he do this often or is a one off because he's lost his phone? If it was often I'd get out now and find an adult relationship.

He does
he has the nickname the sulker but this is a new level or I am just fed up with it
he is appearing cheerful at the moment but we shall see
we only have a couple of days left so it’s easier to stick it out rather than do anything today
Im not indulging the sulking though
it’s my car so I can take myself and the dog off somewhere if he continues

Taking you and the dog somewhere alone is more like it op!

Please don’t tell him that “you want to go home” which implies asking for permission.

You don’t need his compliance,

“I am going home” is more like it.

Or best of all, just do it while saying nothing; men understand the “language” of non- communication best of all!

Pack up and spend 2 nights in a hotel with the dog.

Tell him to go home. Why should your holiday be ruined by that twat.

Is he worried his bit on the side won’t be able to contact him? Is that why he won’t use your spare phone?

You are wasting your one, precious life.

Like @ObstreperousCushion said, just leave a note and go out. Take back some of the power here - it sounds as though you're just waiting for him to come back and be awful to you all day.

This. And then have a really good think about whether you want to be your life, @June2025

What in gods name are you doing wasting your life with someone called the sulker?

You must be beyond desperate to tolerate this.

Paying for everything, organising everything and the driver?

Talk about absolute desperation.

Do the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk asap.

You deserve so much better than this loser.

See his current behaviour as a warning what your life with him will be like. You will have to constantly accept and be blamed for his absentmindedness. It makes him feel better to insult you for his mistakes. You take steps to counteract a loss of your phone and he does not. Yet, he makes you feel useless! Sorry, ditch him. A partner should be the one person to have your back come what may. Anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself is your enemy, not your future life partner. Let him make his life a misery not yours.

Dump him he's a cunt.

Look at your own words.

Stuck on holiday with my partner and I am dreading him waking up and sulking ... I am just dreading the day

This is just not how relationships are supposed to be. And you're on holiday, too.

he will be quiet all day unless someone else speaks to him in which case he will be pleasant, but he will be snappy and cold with me

Putting on a fake front so everyone believes he's one thing - but you know he's something else. And of course nobody will believe you.

We are camping and he will make it clear he is very very cross with me ... he will ruin the day with sulking I know what he is like and then deny it ... I think he wants me to know he is terribly cross indeed and try and fix it for him

Ruining nice occasions is absolutely how they operate. You're walking on eggshells, aren't you? Everything you say or do is wrong?

he is also cross because I didn’t want to have sex last night as he was being so horrible

Too many men think women and girls are things. Not quite human. There to service them - and when the service isn't forthcoming, the domestic appliance has failed.

he also said that as we were passing somewhere it was my special place as it was the land of the slags and then said it didn’t count as he was joking

Insults, the vilest misogynistic tropes - and then the gaslighting. But it's only banter. Can't you take a joke? You know what you're like.

he always puts me down about being scatty but I counter act this by having a back up phone and options to get into my email account if I got locked out

Belittling, insults about your intelligence and capability in the face of all the evidence YOU are the organised one. More gaslighting.

everything is down to me anyway I have booked and planned everything he won’t even use his card out here so he has to transfer me some money when he gets back

Again, the 'women are domestic appliances' thing in action. The cash machine, the organisation chart, the project manager.

How would you feel if it were your mum, sister, daughter, friend saying this to you?

Read this, then write down everything he's done since you've been together.

https://www.womens-aid.org.uk/types-of-domestic-abuse

Some quotes:

'Emotional blackmail can be used to try and make the woman feel guilty by using emotional outbursts, sulking

Verbal abuse can involve ... name calling or the use of derogatory language

Psychological abuse can include humiliation, diminishing or embarrassing the woman and isolating her from her friends and family.'

Are you seeing it yet, OP?

You do your lovely plans and leave him to stew.

Sulking is a form of abuse. He has ramped it up by calling you names now and will only get woree. Please just get in your car and drive off and leave the areehole. Don’t do what I did and pander to him for years and then realise you’ve wasted the best years of your life walking on eggshells and being treated like shit.

How long have you been together?

Do you own a property together?

Do you share the car (I'm going to guess it's yours)

Are your finances linked?

Do you have children?

Who calls him the sulker? People who have known him for years?
If he’s your partner and not spouse then you can just end things.
Just don’t marry him. Nothing worse than a sulking man baby.

Make sure you get your money back before you end it with him

Next time he's in the shower/ bar somewhere else take your stuff and the dog and leave. Go home or even better continue your holiday in another part of the country. Do whatever you want. He is an adult, you are not on this earth to look after him and put up with abuse. Imagine the freedom! Life's too short for this.

He’s sulking because he, an adult, lost his own phone and doesn’t want to deal with it, therefore he’s “cross” with YOU?
He called you a slag, in an indirect, snide way.
You don’t have to accept being treated like this. He’s using you to pay for things and be his servant. This isn’t a real relationship @June2025 , you must know that. You’re worth much more.

RED FLAG RED FLAG any man who takes the huff because your DONT want to have sex is a walking RED FLAG

Go out on your own if he sulks and get rid of him when you get home.

Agree with others, bin this one off.

To date he has literally been testing how much sh*t you will take from him to see how much control he has in this relationship moving forward.

Time to show him he has none!!!!

Goodness. What exactly does he bring to the party? He sounds awful.

Please tell me you’re dumping him when you get home. He sounds like a complete arse.