Stuck on holiday with a sulking man

[June2025]

I am currently stuck on holiday with my parter and I am dreading him waking up and sulking
he has lost his mobile phone and doesn’t remember any passwords so I understand it’s stressful but I am just dreading the day
I want to head back to the U.K. early so he can sort it because he will be quiet all day unless someone else speaks to him in which case he will be pleasant, but he will be snappy and cold with me
he is also cross because I didn’t want to have sex last night as he was being so horrible
as an aside he also said that as we were passing somewhere it was my special place as it was the land of the slags and then said it didn’t count as he was joking
it’s going to be a long day as we are camping and he will make it clear he is very very cross with me

Precisely what do you get from this relationship?
Believe me, being single is better than the sulking, negging and gaslighting you're currently getting, and any man who sulks when sex isn't an option is frankly disgusting.

Why have you decided to settle for such a low level of shitiness?

Do you not value yourself a little bit more than this?

"land of slags" is revolting language.

I couldn't spend another second around a man who spoke like that to me. He's disgusting. It would make my flesh crawl. It shows his contempt for women generally.

Do better OP. Much much better. Throw this little shit back in the sewer where he belongs.

FGS dump this loser.

I don’t usually, in fact I don’t think I’ve ever said it on here before. It just seems such an extreme reaction to an adult losing their bloody phone.

So he called you a slag and then expected you to want to have sex with him? Christ alive.

Quite aside from the sulking, the 'slag' comment alone is enough cause for you to leave this relationship right now. It's intolerable, and there's no way you should put up with that type of treatment.

He’s an immature mummy’s boy POS. You’re worth more than this. Does he usually blame you for everything? In fact I once had a boyfriend like this at 20. Anything went wrong, eg once went to the cinema, seats sold out so he went in a rage and left me in the evening in the middle of a city. I literally could not believe this. He turned out to have bipolar. Found that years after we split up.

Pick yourself respect up off the floor and show him the door!
people treat you how you allow them to

I doubt whether losing his phone would have made much difference. He would have found some reason to sulk and take it out on op.

It's what he is, an entitled nasty entity who thinks he's above being in op's company.
Which leads to the fact it's quite possible these men are in a higher percentage to treat themselves to extra marital affairs.

Sulkers, people who withdraw affection, those who critisise and blame others for everthing tend to be extremely selfish and greedy in their wants.

They never try to please you, you are there to lift their mood and you will almost always fail.

I would seriously consider why you're in a relationship with this person. They don't bring you joy or happiness, and it sounds like they aren't getting any joy from the relationship either. What is the point to the relationship? If they're going to be grumpy, leave them to it - do your plans and enjoy your holiday. Take responsibility for your happiness.

OP, I’ve only read your updates, not people’s comments because I suspect there’s a tsunami of LTB and quite right too.

I just wanted to say, I had a bf like this and a holiday just like this. I “forgot” to say happy birthday to him the millisecond I woke up (I hadn’t even realised he was awake and I got up to use the loo), and he sulked all day. He gave me the silent treatment for the entirety of the day, even over his birthday dinner where he glowered at me to the point the waiter faltered as he bought over his “cake” desert I’d ordered. We were at a beautiful hotel on a Greek island and this was only day 3/7. He was still in a funk the next morning so I left for the pool while he was in the shower. I got smashed on Prosecco with a lovely couple around the pool and walked in at 7pm and asked if he was hungry. He’d laid on the bed all day watching TV. He just shook his head so I got changed and walked out again. I spent the rest of the holiday with others and had a great time. Safe to say, that was that (and it was the last in a long line of similar - he ruined my birthday the month before by sulking and giving me the silent treatment because I’d “slammed his car door too hard” on the way out of the house and that was the day out ruined). I still meet up with the Prosecco couple once a year now and we laugh about him and raise a glass to the tragic human that he was. Please have a wonderful time on your own and find your tribe - cheers to sacking off the incredible sulk 🥂

@AuntieLemonadeyes he has sulked about me slamming the door to hard as well

For ease Im just not pandering to him, we had a pleasant enough day but he began to sulk again this evening
I can’t get over him calling me a slag it’s like a
line in the sand for me
much as I would like to drive off into the sunset and leave him here it’s actually easier to get home and sort myself out, and a lot less stressful

He called you a slag? Yeah that’s not on

Can he actually drive? Or is that down to.you, too!

The more I read the worse it gets, I’m just waiting for the last few drips now that say you live together in your house and he either can’t hold down a job or has a shit job but won’t better himself.

OP, you are worth more. 💐

he has the nickname the sulker

Wasn't this a red flag for you that he's famous for being an immature twat?

Well I gave him the nickname lol but yes it’s not good

Thankfully not, he actually has a reasonable job with significant responsibilities

You think you’re better than people who are paid less than you. You’re not your just paid more.
Lots of people on minimum wage work very hard providing essential services, services we would all miss if we didn’t have them.

And does he sulk at work?

Or does he just save that behaviour for you? Because that would be him making a conscious choice about who he is prepared to behave well for, and who not.

Yup. Just gothe full day without him. Then if he still sulks just tell him you're not having his moods ruin your holiday and do something else yourself the next day.

If he’s got a decent job why don’t you make him pay his way? Just refuse to pay his half when the bill comes.

DFOD, at what point did I say that? I’ve been on here for enough years to know that she is being treated badly. There’s been a flurry of threads recently of women who give absolutely everything and the men just take. The OP said he likely didn’t have money on his card, and he didn’t bring it.

Stop casting aspersions.

I'd go home and pack his bags.

Couldn't imagine spending my life with someone who implies I'm a slag.

It's far too short.

Cut the holiday short and get rid. This is ridiculous behaviour from a grown man.