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Stuck on holiday with a sulking man

135 replies

June2025 · 13/06/2025 05:57

I am currently stuck on holiday with my parter and I am dreading him waking up and sulking
he has lost his mobile phone and doesn’t remember any passwords so I understand it’s stressful but I am just dreading the day
I want to head back to the U.K. early so he can sort it because he will be quiet all day unless someone else speaks to him in which case he will be pleasant, but he will be snappy and cold with me
he is also cross because I didn’t want to have sex last night as he was being so horrible
as an aside he also said that as we were passing somewhere it was my special place as it was the land of the slags and then said it didn’t count as he was joking
it’s going to be a long day as we are camping and he will make it clear he is very very cross with me

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Ilikewinter · 13/06/2025 07:59

Wow ..... I don't really have anything else to say but ditto all the previous comments

FamilyPhoto · 13/06/2025 08:00

What is the fucking point of him op?

Gettingbysomehow · 13/06/2025 08:01

Dump him when you get home. He will never change.

Original poster
June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:01

I think he wants me to know he is terribly cross indeed and try and fix it for him

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Lighttheflame · 13/06/2025 08:04

Sometimes, you have to go on a camping holiday to figure out that your partner is not up to scratch... At least now you know for sure, phew!

You are not the scatty one are you, so don't let him try to pin that on you! He's feeling vulnerable because he messed up losing his phone and being exposed as disorganised (he should have a plan b, like knowing his passwords) and is now taking it out on you... very poor behaviour.

Of course you didn't want to have sex with him after he's behaved like that - who would!

I agree with you about going home early, and releasing him back into the sea so you can find a man that is worthy of you! x

Picklechicken · 13/06/2025 08:05

He sounds about 5. Surely your self esteem isn’t this bad that you’re going to put up with this?

FutureCatMum · 13/06/2025 08:08

Wow you sound like you’re dating my ex!
The last time he did this on holiday I left him for the day and went out and enjoyed myself.
Then ended it with him because he continued behaving like this (and more) refusing to apologise or take responsibility for his behaviour. Stupidly I went back to him and surprise surprise he kept behaving like this so I left him. This time for good.
Your partner wont change. He has no respect for you. Don’t make the mistake I did and stay miserable for longer. It’s time to go. Best of luck.

ObstreperousCushion · 13/06/2025 08:11

June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:01

I think he wants me to know he is terribly cross indeed and try and fix it for him

Opt out. You’re not his mum. He’s already sulking, it’s not going to get worse in terms of normal behaviour.

If you fear it would get worse, then that’s abuse and it’s a reason to leave, quickly and safely.

BigDahliaFan · 13/06/2025 08:15

He’s a tosser and should be tossed. It’s not your job to take an emotionally immature bloke and ‘fix him’. Honestly if he’d sulked for 10 minutes then got on with the holiday fine, but he’s taking his frustration out on you. Go and do something on your own.

CagneyNYPD1 · 13/06/2025 08:16

I’ve had problems with remembering passwords while on holiday and then got locked out of my email. Was quite frustrating. It was a faff to sort out but after an hour or 2, all was good. If he wanted to sort it, he would. He doesn’t want to though, does he?

CagneyNYPD1 · 13/06/2025 08:17

June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:01

I think he wants me to know he is terribly cross indeed and try and fix it for him

I’ve got a male living in my house who can be a bit like this…my ds aged 17. I don’t pander to it.

dollyblue01 · 13/06/2025 08:18

I’d bin him off, he sounds way to stressful, I think you’d find life far more peaceful alone, he sounds like a moody teenager.

BunnyLake · 13/06/2025 08:24

June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:01

I think he wants me to know he is terribly cross indeed and try and fix it for him

What do you like about him? Are you going to dump him or are you hoping you will spend the rest of your life with him?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 13/06/2025 08:24

It's not your job to be his fixer so do not make yourself this.

Why are you and he together at all?. He is abusive towards you and so the relationship is over. His sulking is an example of emotional abuse towards you.

Original poster
June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:26

CagneyNYPD1 · 13/06/2025 08:16

I’ve had problems with remembering passwords while on holiday and then got locked out of my email. Was quite frustrating. It was a faff to sort out but after an hour or 2, all was good. If he wanted to sort it, he would. He doesn’t want to though, does he?

No he wants mummy to do it all for him while he can sit looking cross and grunting at me just in case I didn’t realise he was sulking
he didn’t realise the phone was missing because he uses my phone to do all the navigating and anything holiday related, well I mean I do it all

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Mylinentote678 · 13/06/2025 08:27

Coatsoff42 · 13/06/2025 07:41

Leave, cut it short, go home, there’s no coddling these people along their such manipulative misery spirals.
Tell him it’s not a fun trip, you arent enjoying it and you want to go home. Call his bluff once and spectacularly, no backing down, and you won’t have to do it again.

This! The “joke” slag comment justifies it alone. I wouldn’t be with anyone whose mind turns this way. From your updates, he doesn’t sound as if he is particularly charming at home either. If you have not already done so, please don’t have kids with this man op. He is showing you now how utterly selfish he is and lacking in any “make the best of it” spirit, and you need that with dc and to be adaptable, Above all, you need kindness.

DoubleBoubles · 13/06/2025 08:35

Op he sounds awful

How long have you been together and do you live together? Would it be easy for you to split up?

If so, I think you should cut your losses and travel home early, then make sure you never see him again

A sulky, nasty man never gets better as time goes on, he will only get worse

Mellowautumnmists · 13/06/2025 08:39

Why won’t he use his card? You really don’t have to put up with any of this!

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June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:41

@Mylinentote678I know I despise anyone using that word, I was planning to manage it when we got home as it’s we are on a road trip which I spent ages planning, and yes you are absolutely right if when he returns from his shower and he is still cross I shall tell him it’s not for me and I want to go home due to his behaviour

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Original poster
June2025 · 13/06/2025 08:41

Mellowautumnmists · 13/06/2025 08:39

Why won’t he use his card? You really don’t have to put up with any of this!

Because I suspect he has no money on it

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LividVermiciousKnid · 13/06/2025 08:45

Look, you have agency in your own life.

You don't have to be on this holiday and you do NOT need to stay with this "man".

FartSock5000 · 13/06/2025 08:45

@June2025 does this man have a 12 inch solid gold cock and a few million sitting spare in the bank?

No? Then why on earth are you putting up with this? The way he treats you is not love. It's not even like!

What has happened to you that you are accepting of this very low bar in your relationship?

notmyrealnameok · 13/06/2025 08:48

Just say you’re sick of his mardy face spoiling the holiday and you are going out alone for the day because you don’t want to be near him. And suggest he reconsiders his mood while you are gone

MadamCholetsbonnet · 13/06/2025 08:56

What’s the point of him? I would just swan off and leave him to sort himself out. Go home or to a different accommodation. Don’t waste any more of your precious short life on this loser.

BaconMassive · 13/06/2025 09:07

I hope he has a golden cock because i see no other reason to entertain him for a second longer.