My partner says he will feel more appreciated and cared for if he got more sex and oral sex?????

[tiredmummm]

I need advice. I’ve told my partner I’m dealing with mental health and my sex drive isn’t very high. I try my best to satisfy him but it’s never enough for him.

Being intimate on a regular basis is part of a healthy relationship for most but is born of an equal relationship where both partners are loving and respectful of each other and accompanied by no sexual affection.

He is completely selfish and just wants the physical side of the relationship whilst giving nothing emotionally.

He sounds like a lazy toe rag who I wouldn’t give the time of day to, let alone oral sex.

You must realise that he is a worthless piece of crap and you deserve more, surely?

What a fucking creep.

I feel physically sick reading about him.

You'd be better in every way without him. You'll be entitled to a single person council tax discount. If he's the father, I'd still go via child maintenance as I believe they will take from benefits.

I have an image of a guy who probably turns his undies inside out the next day after a sniff test.

Please see how much of a virus this guy is to you.

I just wanted to give another perspective of a similar situation.

I have recently sustained spinal injury, struggling with pain, fatigue and general woe is me issues. I'm off work currently. We have 3 kids, youngest is 7. Dh works full time, self employed. He has taken over all housework, took the eldest to an event Saturday night that was very boring for him (I was looking forward to it) has offered to start later to do school run, set up a little table with everything I need so I don't have to move during the day!

Last night I was watching TV in bed, he got in next to me and sorted my pillows so I could lean on him for a cuddle without added pain!

He is not usually lovey-dovey, but he is very practical about how he does things. We've had some issues recently (just to balance that we are not the perfect couple) but he has completely stepped up and taken control.

You deserve better. Much better.

Oh should add, we haven't has sex in a few weeks, he has made playful, jokes, ones that he knows would go down well! But he has not made nagging comments, not moaned, not tried it on! He's just comforted me.

This isn't just a horrible man, this is an abusive man.

You aren't a person to him. But just someone to enjoy exerting power and control over. You are suffering yet he can still make you do all the work whilst he rests and he can make you have sex you don't want to have through coercion.

This is all about power and control for him and that is abusive. He is an abusive man.

I hope you can find support to get out OP.

What is his reason for not working for a year, is he looking for work every day,

While you're doing all the cleaning for a lazy, workshy, cheating toe-rag, have a look down the back of the sofa for your self-esteem. And then get rid.

I wouldn't suck his cock if it had been dipped in chocolate.

@tiredmummm your first post is why we need the 😂 back.

i hope you laughed at him and explained that if he does whatever thing it is that makes you too tired to be interested in doing that with him, then you would feel appreciated enough to do it more

or filled with diamonds

'If he got more sex'
Umm...what?!
Sex is a mutual act for future pleasure. It's not an owed service.

You're a person, not a blow up sex doll.

Sorry but his whole mindset is gross. Has he ever once in his life cared about your pleasure?

I doubt it considering he doesn't even care about your pain TBF.

Run. Fast and far.

Tell him to get a job the lazy slob! Gross

'I suffer from chronic back pain and sciatica plus I have a new condition with my feet which makes standing or walking very painful. I’ve had these problems since I had my son so right now work for me isn’t ideal until the doctors find the cause. He on the other hand isn’t working and hasn’t been for almost a year'

Get rid of him and use the money saved to go to a physio / chiropractor.

If the problem with your feet is based under the heel and is worse when you get up in the morning or after sitting for a while is could be plantar fasciitis.

With sciatica you will get some relief even from 1 sports (ie more intensive) massage

Try these in the evening:

Stand with the balls of your feet on the stairs facing up. Make sure you are holding bannisters. Gradually lower down to stretch your feet then go back up slowly. Repeat a few times holding on the down part.

This is your third thread about the same thing.

Where are you two getting your money from?

Tell him you find men who actually work more sexy.
Is he ill or lazy?

Dump. He's an arsehole.

And you will feel more appreciated if he were supportive of you when you are struggling, but is all your fault isn't it? What a pig.
Can you dump him. Maybe that will easy your mental load.

This man is idle which is why he has sex on the brain as his main priority while you struggle to get through the day.
How can anyone like that have any kind of sex appeal?
Tell him he’d have more sex appeal if he was a normal, functioning, supportive and hardworking man.

Why isn’t he cleaning and doing housework?

Why isn't the OP working? If she's ill has she been signed off as unfit for work?

Why isn’t he?

He can drop off the child to school no? Why do you have such little opinion of yourself op?

@MrsSkylerWhite Why aren't they both?

I can't imagine why you wouldn't want to shag this lazy, selfish, entitled man. What's stopping him getting a job?

Seriously, your mental health would likely improve by leaps and bounds if you didn't have this dead weight of a partner in your life.

Urgh