My partner says he will feel more appreciated and cared for if he got more sex and oral sex?????

[tiredmummm]

I need advice. I’ve told my partner I’m dealing with mental health and my sex drive isn’t very high. I try my best to satisfy him but it’s never enough for him.

And what is he doing to make you feel appreciated and cared for?

“And I would feel like having sex if you showed some patience and kindness”

That’s your response.

Wow and what's he going to do for you?

I feel like he’s not doing a lot to make me feel appreciated.
he expects sex after I come back from dropping our son to school in the morning.
he sleeps in until late after I’ve done all the cleaning etc and wants sex or other things.
Im constantly being made to feel guilty for not doing these things as he gets upset.

He's a pig, and you're a person, not a sex toy. I hope thd child isn't his, and you can find some self-respect.

Come on woman - he is not helping your mental health

What does he do that makes him worthy of you?

GET RID OF HIM

@tiredmummm I think he needs to get a job to tire him out a bit!!

Does he work? Why isn't he dropping off your son or going along? Why is he sleeping or just lying around until you're done with chores?

He's making sex just another chore for you and that's sure not going to make you want sex, it's going to kill your sex drive.

He sounds like a lazy sex pest and how does that improve your life?

What a pig. Why are you doing everything?

He’s a pig who sees you as a nanny, a maid and an object.

Utterly vile man

Get rid of that manipulative, vile pig...

Does no one in the house actually go to work?

I think you'd feel immensely better if you got rid of the letch.

Point him to the door and tell him to not let it hit him on the way out!

Appreciation is a two way street, you are not his slave

I suffer from chronic back pain and sciatica plus I have a new condition with my feet which makes standing or walking very painful. I’ve had these problems since I had my son so right now work for me isn’t ideal until the doctors find the cause. He on the other hand isn’t working and hasn’t been for almost a year

He’s a horrible man in addition to sex pest and you know deep down that you are with Mr Wrong. how can you be helped into leaving him?. He’s making your life harder, not easier so no wonder your MH is in the toilet. He’s the root cause.

What sort of an example is he also setting your child?.

Tell him you would feel appreciated if he got a job, and if he did his fair share of housework

And why has this man not worked for a year?. Is it mainly because he wants you to carry him/cannot be bothered?. What is the situation re the finances and property?.

Op this isn't right.
My ex was the same and said the same to me.
You should never feel like your a sex slave because thats the only thing that makes him wanted.
Ive been single years now and my mental health improved the day my ex left.
Anxiety came down no more worried about hes going to ask for it again to night.
No more hope he dont say he wants more.
It was and still is lovely not having to worry.
I was never big on sex of any kind but would try and it really affected me.
As i come to leaning it was only for him i was doing it for him.

Now i can just sit read and potter about doing my own thing.
I wouldn't put up with a sex pest again.

Time he went back to work.

Well if he’s aware of these issues why is he not caring for you!!! Why is he not doing the school run? Tell him to jog on…

I’m dealing with mental health and my sex drive isn’t very high

Mine would be non existent if I lived with a lazy arse who expected oral sex after I’d done the school run with sciatica.

Why isn’t he getting out of bed and doing the school runs if he isn’t working? What is he doing to contribute to family life, the home and finding a bloody job?

You may be in the category of benefiting from losing weight - about 12 stone in one go.

He is being abusive OP, the sooner you leave the better.

Well you’ve got yourself a right gem there haven’t you.

Doesn’t work, is lazy and couldn’t care less about your mental health as all he wants is sex non stop.