Which typically male interests/activities give you the ick?

[GoldfinchFeather]

Meant as a lighthearted thread, so hope nobody gets bent out of shape over this - also, I've added the disclaimer of 'typically' male to close off anyone taking umbrage with that... 😅

Dipped a toe back into OLD recently, and already feeling pretty exasperated with just how flipping dull a lot of men are. A lot of them that I've come across only seem to be interested in two things, football and going to the gym.

Maybe that's okay for some people, but these two things alone are enough to put me off. I hate football for a lot of reasons, namely the idiotic behaviour that a lot of football fans display, plus the fact that it's just so painfully boring to watch. I couldn't date a football fan, because being subjected to daily conversation about who was best at kicking a ball around would slowly drive me mad. Don't even get me started on fantasy football or 'accas'...

As for men who spend most their lives in the gym? Yawn. Nobody cares how many 'reps' you've done, or how tough 'leg day' was, Steve. Give me some proper intellectual stimulation, ffs!

Where are all the men who are interested in the arts, nature, books, photography, politics etc? Or even just sports that aren't as unbelievably boring as football? Or do they no longer exist?

So, tell me ladies. Am I alone here, or are there typical male interests that would really put you off a guy, no matter how attractive they might otherwise be?

Stock car racing
Horse/dog racing
Playing on the gambling machines in pubs
Getting drunk regularly

Oh yeah those activities above would all put me off a guy! Men like that aren’t even in my orbit which is maybe why I didn’t think of them.

This is not necessarily a male one but I’d add to that list - excessive weed smoking. I can handle occasional use but if they’re doing it daily or even weekly it’s too much for me.

You are definitely not alone – I’ve been snooping on friends’ dating profiles lately (purely for research, obviously…) and I swear half the men out there are just football, gym, and “banter” in human form.

Every other profile is like, “Love the gym 💪, obsessed with footie ⚽, looking for my gym bunny x.” I mean… is that supposed to be a personality? If I wanted to hear about leg day and fantasy football, I’d just eavesdrop in the protein powder aisle at Tesco.

Honestly, where are the men who read actual books, have opinions on gallery spaces, or even know what a heron is? Give me someone who can talk about Detectorists without irony and who thinks Rothko isn’t a new creatine brand.

Steve can keep his reps. I’ll take a man who owns a library card and can string together a sentence without mentioning abs or Arsenal.

Cycling, hiking, kayaking, paddle boarding, camping, horse racing, skiing, snow boarding

My worst hell is an activity date. No no no no no

I couldn’t date a man who wasn’t a football fan - it’s such a big part of my family history and my DS is a season ticket holder.
But I would draw the line at a Spurs supporter - I just couldn’t

Classic cars - buying them, restoring them, driving them and going on about them...

Cyclists - but not the mountain bikers - the lycra-clad, 12-strong peloton type who block the roads and talk incessantly about their Strava results

Sport in general. Actually doing it is not so bad but watching it on TV and talking about it endlessly? No way not interested thanks.

I fully agree. What irritates me most is the way they swan off on wee golfing holidays leaving their wives and children alone.
Or the ones whom have their wives or partners feverishly making sandwiches and English Breakfasts in their club house, shoehorned into volunteering!
Pretentious, selfish and a sense of being grandiose.
I have a serious dislike of golf.

Agree- and feel the same about the gym. Going to the gym to keep fit and active, fine (would not call that a hobby tbh) but posing, being overly concerned about muscles etc not v attractive.

That said my partner cycles a lot and i find the chat about it a bit boring, i like that he goes away often on cycling trips (our kids are grown and i enjoy the peace 🤣).

Men who are obsessed with sport…of any kind!

Football, and swallowing pints of beer in a few gulps
got rid of that crap
happy days

I would hardly ever swipe right where a profile has a picture of a man in skiing gear. My experience of skiers is that they are a particular type of man (I admit that this is possibly skewed by 2 men I dated), and also I can't ski due to bad knees.

I wouldn't swipe right on anyone with a motorbike on their profile.

I'd be pretty reluctant if the person had a picture of them on a bike / in lycra. Or playing golf. I probably wouldn't mind a gym picture, but not if they look obsessed.

Oh yes anyone who appears to be into gaming, or an obsessive football fan.

In fact, I'm surprised I swipe right on anyone at all

My DH is into running, golf and going to the gym. I am interested in none of these. He is also interested in stuff I like such as music, theatre, books, politics, art etc so I forgive him his other interests.

Fishing, urgh so gross. I’ll let him off if he’s actually fishing for sustenance (and knows how to avoid/protect endangered species - and processes and cooks the fish too!) but just sitting around next to a Tupperware box of maggots to make an animal scared and miserable for fun and then chuck it back - what a monumental waste of time and doesn’t say good things about you as a person IMO.

Cycling I don’t mind, keeps you fit and it’s ok to go off and do your own things, though not to help yourself to endless hobby time when you have partner and small kids and she’s left holding the fort and doesn’t get equal time off. That’s what gives cycling/gym-going etc men a bad name I think.

I quite like the way men get excited about sport. I’m not into it but when they’re passionate about it it can be quite sweet/hot depending on the man.

Hunting 🤢🤢🚩🚩

How strange, my post was instantly hidden - not sure it was that controversial 😭

Only bad habits like gambling or drinking to excess. Everything else is fine with me, as long as they are a rounded person not an obsessive.

That's a bit random!
There can't be many men who are members of the Magic Circle, surely?

Cycling, golfing, cryptocurrency enthusiasts can all take a hike.

Pop music enthusiasts can also do one.
🤣

Golf. If a man starts talking about golf in my presence,I start losing the will to live. And hunting/shooting. I would not associate with anyone,not just men,who partakes in those activities.

Oh and fishing. Why on the name of God men think a topless profile photo holding a carp the size of a small child will attract the ladies is baffling

What puts me off is when men can't adjust their hobbies to accommodate family life or relationships. I see women all the time scale up and down their hobbies and pick things back up at better times. Also unfortunately give up hobbies all together.

Lots of men seem to get tunnel vision with their hobbies and it becomes their entire life. I specifically chose a partner who didn't have all consuming hobbies that showed he was willing to prioritise others when it was needed.

I think @CatsWee online dating would be far easier if those men did list their hobbies" I like wasting all my money in the bookies and then drowning my sorrows in the Rose and Crown" would at least give women a clear view of what they were taking on

I avoided anyone who had photos of himself on a bike, fishing, wearing a football shirt or at the pub with his mates. “Love my football, love my beer” etc

Its not that I don’t want someone who drinks pints etc but if thats him presenting the best version of himself, its not promising is it? The ones who had a pic in a suit or tux, half way up a mountain etc, at least looked like they might be interesting enough to warrant a date!

As it tums out my DP does like football and cricket, but doesn’t drink (that’s a whole other thing!) but if he’d mentioned his passions in his profile (art house films, star wars, psychedelic drugs and particle physics) I may not have swiped on him but I have to say, there’s definitely never a dull moment!

DH works out twice a day (I know but it’s a home gym so less annoying) and likes football but doesn’t watch it with other men, go to the pub or bore me about it. He does drone on about podcasts a bit too often though but to be fair they’re mostly interesting ones! We talk about film, arts, books, politics, history etc. There are men out there who love football, stay fit but understand it’s not necessary to drone on about it or allow it to dominate your life.

not sure I describe it as giving me the ick, but yeah football, cars, porn if that counts. That last one definitely gives me the ick.