Would a used condom still be wet one month later?

[Worriedsickhelpplease]

Help I moved with my fiance to a new house about a year ago. He never sold our old house but some furniture is still there. We sometimes go to our old house after date night for some sexy time as our kids are being cared for at the new house. We have been together 20 years and its rare we use a condom. What i found by the bed in the corner on the floor was a condom still wet but appears no semen. I used a condom over a month ago with him. My question is i am not sure if this is out condom i found as im sure we tossed it. I am trying to find out if you think a month old condom used out of packaging would still feel wet and oily? The next day when he was at work i went back to th old house and went through the trash hoping to find a green condom wrapper from the one we had used, but it was not there. Since we no longer live there daily there is a huge cardboard box we use as the trash and its mainly just to toss junk mail or paper products. I have not used condom in so long i honestly dont remember if one would still feel wet and oily after one month out of the packaging..please help im so worried.

Maybe he's shagging a squatter? 🤔

The words acid, beaker and penis in one post sound like the start of a horror movie...

Indeed but I can't get beyond all the tossing of used condoms.

@Worriedsickhelpplease someone has shagged in the place a few days before you last did. Might not have been your dh. However, I've never known a suspicion of extra marital sex to be unfounded.

I'd be getting the agents round and letting it pdq.

Why can't you have sex where you live?

I don't understand the occasional use of condoms. Either you use them all the time if you don't want another child or you're using something else.

I occasionally use them if I can't be bothered with the mess, and there's no risk of me having another child.

I think you can be confident it’s not your condom. It would have dried out. So someone has likely had sex in that house more recently

99 times out of 100, when someone finds something like this that raises suspicions of a partners infidelity, it is unfortunately usually down to cheating

But the fact that your house is vacant most of the time does bring some other possibilities in as others have said. Does anyone have an old key? Like a family member has a spare, or a cleaner that never returned it? DH might be allowing someone in to use it as a shag pad, local teenagers (or anyone really) could have noticed it’s always empty and figured out how to get in through a window.

Has his behaviour changed recently? Guarded on his phone? Anything else to raise suspicion? I wouldn’t assume cheating but I would start watching him very carefully

The poster said bedroom bin. Where did you get en suite bin?

Yes, on second reading it does sound odd.

They rarely use condoms but they popped in to the extra house for some fun and just happened to have a condom with them.
And it's not clear why OP went back to the extra house a month later on her own.

It’s the casual condom tossing that’s got me. Who tosses a condom after sex in a house and there’s the potential for it to still be there a month later? Gross.

Sorry but you lost me at sexy time…

sounds like a case of a Johnny cum lately

Thank you all for your advice! Its been 3 days and it looks like it already shrinking in size. Thanks to each and everyone of you for taking the time to help me its very sweet of you all ❤️ i did not confront. I am leaving the condom on a small container hidden but exposed to air to see how it looks by the end of the week. Its 3 days later and i see the droplets inside are pretty much gone and the condom itself looks smaller not as stretch and wide as when i first found it.

Here is a comparison photo

@Lardychops "That's bloody genius" ? Elementary my dear Wat...er, Lardy.

Bonkers

Good grief!

Indeed! 🥴

Somedays it really is worth staying on MN 😆

So what are your thoughts, OP? Do you think he's cheating and using the place as their love nest?

CONDOM GATE!!!

Oh my god 😂

Jesus wept, no need for the photo 🤢
We all knew what a condom looks like!

Why don't you send it off for forensic testing OP?

Thanks everyone for your comments i held my tears in yesterday its a very sad time for me because i have been with this man for 20 years and we have 4 kids together. No one has a key to the home or code to unlock the door just me and him. He loves to watch porn of people putting their whole hands up in the woman. I am not talking finger entire hands .. I am up for anything but not that, maybe the person he is cheating with lets him. He did do this to me once and it was terrible first because i could not get him to stop my hands and legs were tied, it hurt, he did not listen when i said to stop ( told me to be quiet and that i like it) , the next day i had to go to the doctor because i was bleeding and it was not even the time for my period. I also asked him to marry me every year after our first year together. He turns me down and tells me i have to wait until he retires, before it was i jad to wait until he was a citizen..sadly he admitted that ten years into our relationship he had become a citizen but never told me. I needed to know if he is cheating so i can cut my losses and run away with my children who have my last name, his name is not even on the birth certificates( his choice) and start a new life on my own. Its not fair for me to have this sadness and not be be the best mom for them if i have stress. Here is a photo so you can see how me and my man look. I do my best to be sexy for him and never say no to haveing sex if he asks .

So he’s a cheat and a rapist. Leave now and feel no guilt. Don’t even give him an explanation. He’s got enough from you.

OMG, your update is awful OP. Goodness why you want to stay with this man.

What is your housing situation? Please don't say it's all in his name.

By the way, your last update ends with you saying here is a photo....There is no photo (may be being approved), but please don't post anything of how you and your Partner look.

Edit: I've reported your post to get your photo removed. Not sure why you'd want to out yourself (or him) in this way?

I know someone in this exact situation but it wasn't a dry condom she saw but some fake tan on a sheet. It turned out to be exactly what she thought it was. He was taking others back to the second house.