May 2025 - 'We took you to STATELY HOMES' thread.

[Pleaseshutthefuckup]

Hope all ok with a new thread here. I've looked and can't find one anywhere past February.

@Pleaseshutthefuckup I'm sorry your situation feels so hopeless. I wish there was a solution to it all to give you back some quality of life. Just know that I believe you and how hard it all is.

They really will kill me prematurely. I now know this with certainty. I am not going to end things but I know why some people feel they want to when they're ill and surrounded by this. It makes me want it to end and think about it often now. I wouldn't if I wasn't so ill also. ( I'm not threatening btw before MN shits themselves with obligatory panic messages).

If they all disappeared I think I might have hope of lasting out a little longer. Going out like this is the most degrading experience. I know I am seeking goodness all the time and a good soui being almost violated by them and their poison daily. I hate the unfairness of this.

Is there anyone who can help you? Your GP or Womens Aid maybe? I've called the Samaritans before and it was helpful.

Do you belong to a Church?

I've been calling Samaritans alot lately. But I found some of them so ingenuine recently. I think your number comes up and they go ' oh that lady with all the illnesses again, ffs' 🤦😄

Waiting for her next disgusting move. It's too much to bare truly. She was taking photos of the neighbour she hates and has some camera up. She's a disgusting disease I now see. There's no escape.

I loved her so very much. But was always the highly compliant puppet and now I'm screaming for peace and escape and even polite kind boundaries - nothing stops their insanity. She's drunk every night abusing her husband with names.and plotting with her special little boy ( my gross older brother).

I'm an atheist. I have a few lovely friends an hour away. They know she's a bit weird but would never understand the extent of this. No one does do they unless they experience it directly.

It's because I am so physically weak and in severe pain beyond management that I'm sounding so desperate. It was also quiet for a long time and I relaxed. But it's turned rapidly again for some reason.

I'd just move otherwise. I just want my remaining moments of some functioning to be peaceful.

And yet despite this , I sense a very strong, emphatic woman.
Sending hugs.

I am going to have to put my son at a distance which I have tried hard to avoid. He is different and a kid. He is slightly like them but there wasn't much hope with the genetic and environmental factor in the mix.

Without him here,she can't see him and do this shit to me any more. My rage and fear is beyond measure.

@Pleaseshutthefuckup I get it. I had many years when my life wasn't worth living. Ever since I was a teenager I had this understanding that it can be such a relief if things were over. My situation was utterly hopeless, but I grew up and could leave eventually. I'm better now, but this understanding has never left me. I do understand why some people might choose assisted dying. Why sometimes this might be the better prospect.

Thank you for understanding. I truly believe some people find strength to persevere and without these people abusing like this, you'd push through. The combination of the physical and emotional just becomes unbearable. ❤️

I am feeling quite down at the moment sorry an ongoing disagreement with dh that keeps coming up has come up again partly money related partly what i think is selfish behaviour from him but I could be being sensitive as i know my current family situation has given me money anxiety

I just feel like the people who should love me have my back just screw over and take advantage of me financially and emotionally

Oh @Pleaseshutthefuckup I hope you will be ok, you’ve offered me such kind words despite suffering so much. God I hate these people. They abuse us till our bodies get ill.

I’ve realised that I can’t really do people. I have anxious ADHD and with all this trauma I don’t feel safe within relationships despite it being something deep down I crave so much. All the layers on top and then an ADHD brain who has no idea really about relationships is just in the way. I find like you say most people want something from you, they wear masks, they are confusing, I don’t know what they want, what all the social cues mean. I never feel safe when I’m sat with anyone. My little 2 year old I do, she’s a funny little thing.

Help me please figure out how to navigate this.

I spoke on here about my niece a few times who is 11. She's the only family I care about and the only one I love. NC with my parents/her grandparents. No falling out with her parents but simply no real relationship. I live a flight away.

I had a good bond with her. We would talk on the phone most days, for a long time, lots of messages etc. My niece has now pulled back. It's no surprise but it fucking hurts that they now seem to succeed. Possibly she's between chairs (different worlds) and has to stay loyal to them to keep herself safe. She's being emotionally abused on a grande scale. I witnessed heartbreaking incidents.

How do I behave in a way thats appropriate, not creepy or unhinged? What do I as the adult in this do?

Calls/messages often stay unanswered. I want to stop messaging because it's creepy. I don't want to ask what is wrong because she's a child. I don't want to completely pull away and let her down because she's a child.

I'm trying to think what I would have wanted my nicer aunt to do but can't find an answer.

I would usually say the age is a factor. However, you know. If your instincts are screaming out; your body is telling you- I would say you're correct.

What can you really do? You can't keep bombarding. You can send one final closing message which says - I hope so much you're having lots of fun atm. I love you very much and here for a call anytime you want to '

Something like that but you might be able to do it better.

I would then back right away. You must. You have no control.

I wish for these people to suffer in their final days ( not the children). But these hideous creatures around us.

What happens if you send a funny meme that's not about anything real? Like Garfield eating pizza for instance? Something no one can think anything about and that is not stressful for your niece.

Could you post her something small but cool once a month ie a Hello Kitty pencil case or a One Direction Tshirt (I don't know 😂) with no heavy message just a cute trinket.

Like Hey Katie, Cute tshirt! Auntie Anne ♥️

What would be the right explanation? I suppose it would be her saying that it's not about you op but it's a reflection of how awful she is, her own trauma and emotional immaturity. But you probably know that, she's not going to say that or have an ephiphany. If a shark bit you would you swim back to it and ask it why or would you get away. That may be your answer.

Yes definitely this.

Funny memes are always a great way to keep contact positive and no pressure to reply.

The not knowing but sensing - the worst part of all of it. I'm part of a smear campaign also.

Nothing

If this was an adult I would ask what's up and eventually stop contacting them. I know these decisions are informed by my own trauma and I am not sure how normal people handle this.

I send her a parcel sometimes so I guess I will just continue.

Twatalert I think little and often, nothing intense. Cute girl hair things and pencils and weird erasers. I found a shop called smiggle? filled with Miffy and Hello Kitty. It's not about the response, it's just a signal that you're still there.