I love my husband so much.

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There are so many negative threads on here I thought I would start a positive one.

Been with my DH since 15 years old, together 25 years. He's gorgeous, kind, funny. Always been faithful. A wonderful father. Really takes care of me, in every way possible.

I was lay with him last night and just wondered how I could still love him SO MUCH after 25 years.

Of course there have been hard times but we have always got through them together and I'm so grateful for him.

Same here. We met as teenagers (me 16, him 18) and have been together ever since. We're now in our mid-forties.

I thought this was saying men look better (than their younger selves) when they approach 40. No one mentioned women...

Same here.

DH and I have known each other since we were 12. We started dating at 16 and we are now 52. Have had many ups and downs over the years and really tough times atm with me caring for my mum who has dementia and the stress (and perimenopause) is making me unwell and I am a very grouchy old bag but our years together mean we will get through it 🙏

It was just easy and he made me laugh, no drama, just fun. We were in our mid twenties so had both had relationships before and mine had tended towards the extremely intense, extreme highs, extreme lows type. With DH I definitely felt less intensely; it was just fun. I didn’t even think he was a serious proposition (he didn’t have good prospects or a good job like previous) but I gradually realised if I felt like this for the rest of my life, I wasn’t doing badly.

Over 30 years together and he still makes me laugh and the love we feel for each other has grown and grown. I hope I am with him for the rest of my life.

@jealy am not sure the age when you meet is the indicator. I’m not sure that we have one true love or that if you missed the ‘one that got away’ you will never find someone better. I think that’s a both a myth and an excuse for not committing to future relationships.

I met my DH when we were 22. We’re both now 56. Dated/lived together for 10 years first. I didn’t actually ‘fall for him’ - he was a friend through work and he ‘grew on me’. We came from different backgrounds but had shared values: marriage meant a lifetime commitment, we wanted to be married before we had children, we knew our children would be the priority once they came. Honesty, fidelity, respect were important - we have never called each other names in our few rows, have never been unfaithful and never lie about money - or anything really.

We bicker and annoy each other at times, we can fail to read what the other one needs [DH focused on work when I needed support with SEN kids; I have laid on the pressure about him not being there for things for the kids without appreciating thing are difficult at work and there is a round of redundancies etc… we’re both at fault], but we always talk it out, try to learn and do better going forward.

I honestly do love him more today than I did when we first met, I ‘fall in love’ with him again at various points, probably when we’ve grown a bit accustomed to each other and are taking each other for granted - the days our children were born for example, when he cried holding his babies for the first time. The day he gave the speech at his BFF’s funeral and sobbed unrelentingly. He has loved me fat and thin, young and now feeling really bloody old and tired. He is proud of my achievements as I am of his. We’re each other’s best friends.

Marriage is never a perfect arrangement, it involves so much compromise and learning to balance your needs against those of others. But was he ‘the one’, whatever that is? No idea. But he’s mine and I am his. And that seems to be enough.

Only things I 'gave away' were constant hypervigilance and the knowledge that whatever I did, whatever I looked like, whatever I thought, whatever I cooked, bought or liked, it would always be wrong. Oh, and that I could never, ever, sleep peacefully and safely.

What I was given in their stead, however, was a feeling of safety, emotional security and the knowledge that in his eyes, I am an amazing person in every way.

He's funny, smart, sweet and kind. He's also completely baffled by the concept of spatial awareness or logical operators and can be made to spin around in circles from verbal directions like 'it's in the top cupboard at eye level on your left. Your left. The other left. That's your right. The cupboard attached to the wall. The one above the countertop. No, that's the fridge. The cupboard. That's your right. At eye level. Your eyes, not the cat's. Left hand side. Your left. Oh, for - <stomp stomp stomp, point> THERE'. Equally, he's always wary that any offhand comment about something being needed will result in a full process script including ancillary steps, multiple variables and logic gates. But that means he can hand over all repairs, maintenance and installation work so all he has to do is a bit of grunt work and make tea, so he's winning on that, too.

The key to knowing it was him was that out of everybody, he was the one who could say something very quietly that would double me over with laughter and always, always took no for an answer.

I just knew 🤷🏼‍♀️
We met at work and we had a 15min meeting scheduled to briefly talk about something. It lasted over an hour cos we didn't stop talking.

The beauty of MN for me is that you can start a thread about anything, and the variety means it caters to almost everyone.

People fet support if they're ill, broke, rich but terrible at budgeting, need help with a shit relationship, financial ideas... And this OP has chosen to celebrate her relationship, as have the others who've contributed.
It's very likely that in this long and successful relationship, her husband is also happy and appreciative of the life they've shared.

Whilst MN can be a miserable place, this is a better and far more useful thread that 'my husband is shit and I can't leave him. Tell me yours is just as appalling '.

We spend so much time validating nonsense, why can't we also celebrate the alternative?

How amazing 👏 I'm glad you gave him a chance and it worked out. Love a good love story

Also learning that high and lows are recipe for disaster.

Me too. He’s not actually my husband yet but will be come September. It is a second marriage for me and I still can’t believe how wonderful a relationship can be with the right person!

I always thought I fancied Jason until I saw the Minecraft movie and it made me appreciate how much more I fancy jack black! 😁

Been with DP for 22 years. He is absolutely the loveliest, kindest, funniest, most interesting man I’ve ever met in my life and I love him more every day. He’s also a red hot shag.

This is so lovely to read, it was what I wanted for my life but sadly it never happened for me. I have a few friends who have long and loving relationships but there are plenty like me who have had disappointment and heartbreak. It is good to hear that people can not only last together but that love grows deeper and stronger.

11 years and 3 kids later, I love my DH sooooo much I feel all squirmy and silly thinking about it. I just wanna eat him up. He’s the best.

Love this thread! Been with my DH 13 years, married for 11, 2 kids, known him since I was 17. Not always been easy of course but love him so much and he shows up for us every single day, gives us the best version of himself even when he’s struggling, feeds us delicious healthy food x3 a day and takes a lot of weight and worries off my shoulders. Wouldn’t change him for the world 🌍

Well I love mine but this is not what I’m on MN for. I want drama! Childish husbands! Overbearing MILs! CF friends!! Bad financial literacy!! That’s the good stuff!

I've been with my DH 40 years. We have a solid marriage and are best friends supporting each other through thick and thin (specially "thick" - those difficult times when you truly know if your partner has your back or not).

We still laugh and enjoy spending time with each other, but these days we also have our own circle of friends and go on holidays and weekends on our own.

I wouldn't say I still fancy him like crazy - he's getting bald and snores. On the other hand, my hair is white and I snore too, but we still have a laugh about it. Last year we finally decided to sleep in separate rooms - we have a big house with empty rooms (kids are adults and gone), and it was ridiculous sharing a bed and not sleeping because of our respective snoring. One of the things I loved was talking about it like good friends, and the excitement about setting up his "room".

We still have sex about once a fortnight, we don't need any more. While we both enjoy sexual intimacy (specially me since I got older), these days we crave closeness, talking and friendship probably more than sex.

He's always been a wonderful father and a great, great partner.

You’re the one who added ‘then than women’ to that post. The previous poster didn’t and was talking about men aging well and looking better than their younger selves

I had kids before I met my wife then we went on to have some together through sperm donation (gay marriage). She's American and has took some adapting to the UK way of life but she did it for me. She's older than me by 13 years and love her so much.

32 years for DH and I. We met when I was 22 and he was 25. In a London nightclub, it was an eyes meet, start walking towards each other kind of thing. Hardly spent a night apart since our first date the next night! Totally different backgrounds, cultures, interests etc but we work together. It’s weird as both of us declined going out with our friends that night but they persisted. I didn’t get to the club until midnight and he was just about to leave but one of his friends came back with another drink and he couldn’t refuse it. He lived in North London and I in South West London, club was in Central London. Absolutely no way we’d have met each other in other circumstances. My friends and I decided to try this club for the first time that night too! Definite sliding doors moment. We share a birthday and our first DC was born slightly early, on the anniversary of the day we met.

I’d been engaged and had a few other relationships before I met him as had he but there was nothing like the intensity we had from the start.

Not sure how we’ve lasted tbh as we’ve had struggles that would have broken other couples (loss of a child, other children with disabilities/serious medical conditions, major family issues with both his (they wanted to disown him because of me!) and mine, financial struggles etc), it feels like we were meant to get together tbh as wouldn’t have managed without each other! We finish each others sentences and I can think of something we need to do/buy and he’ll do it or we both will!

He works very hard and is still extremely fit and good looking for his age as well. So think myself lucky in that respect too!

No, it can't work like that. Otherwise no one would be able to post anything positive , or not negative about anything.

Oh please don't do the passive aggressive thing, it never shows anyone in a good light. And constantly policing your self before you do something in case you upset someone, you can't control other people's emotions or stop them being unhappy, that's not your role and you aren't that powerful. Your post is giving real people pleaser and resentful for it vibes.

And how do you know all the people posting are happy and lucky? they have simply said they have a great marriage/relationship. They also may have awful things going on in their lives.

I think it's implied. They probably wouldn't mention it if they thought women did too.

There really are some quite controlling MNetters on this thread.

'Spare a thought' seems to be code for 'Don't post about your happy relationships, just the unhappy ones'.

Despite the fact the thread title couldn't be any clearer, perhaps the OP should've included a 'trigger warning' in the title! 🤦‍♀️

My husband has his flaws like any person but he is kind, empathetic and emotionally intelligent. He supports me unconditionally and basically would do anything if he thought it would make me happy. We have so much fun together - been together since 18, now 32, he’s my person in every way