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I love my husband so much.

223 replies

SkippityWooBah · 09/05/2025 22:15

There are so many negative threads on here I thought I would start a positive one.

Been with my DH since 15 years old, together 25 years. He's gorgeous, kind, funny. Always been faithful. A wonderful father. Really takes care of me, in every way possible.

I was lay with him last night and just wondered how I could still love him SO MUCH after 25 years.

Of course there have been hard times but we have always got through them together and I'm so grateful for him.

OP posts:
ilovesushi · 10/05/2025 10:59

DH isn't perfect, I'm not perfect, but we rub along pretty well and are pretty happy together. Wouldn't swap him for anyone.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 10/05/2025 11:01

Thanks for starting this thread @SkippityWooBah It's such a refreshing change from all the threads saying 'oh aren't single women soooooooo superior to married woman, and soooooooooo much happier, cleverer, more intelligent, probably a higher social class, probably has a much better job etc etc etc. And married women are just dumb, mindless, bots who are unhappy, downtrodden and living a miserable life being a servant to their husband and children.' SO many of this type of thread is started on here, and it seems to me that the lady(s) doth protest too much.

Yes of COURSE some women are in an unhappy marriage, but the ones who are happy and have a pretty decent life with their man are not posting on here speaking about it!

Fact is, the majority of married women are pretty happy most of the time, and very happy some of the time. Yes there are occasional difficult times during the many decades of a long marriage, when you feel like you could throw your husband into the middle of next week, but for the most part, most married women would NEVER trade places with a single woman.

I know single women come on here and claim that all the married women they know 'envy' them, and wish they were them, but IMO they are just trying to make them feel better. Most single women I know/have known struggle financially, and to make ends meet, and they spend half their waking hours looking for a man, and dating men occasionally, hoping it will work out. Some of them are very lonely.

Sure, there are some who are on fairly high incomes with a large group of friends and close family who fills their time and gives them everything they need, but then again, the nights and evenings are sometimes lonely. No-one to go out with for a meal together, no-one to go away with on holiday with, no-one to pop down the pub with, no-one's shoulder to cry on, or tell your worries and fears to, or share, no-one to spend Christmas and birthdays and other special events with, no-one to look after you when you're ill. Yes there are friends, but they have their own family and friends and partner.

I do know some women who are happy single, and financially secure, and quite OK. They are all widows over 60. Most younger women/women in their 50s and younger who have never been married, or in a long term relationship (and some who have been,) struggle financially, and seem to want to be in a relationship Yet this 'oh aren't single women superior and soooo much better than the silly marrieds' shit is always trotted out on here.

Like you @SkippityWooBah Married over 30 years here, together nearly 35, would never change a thing, and DH and I are really good friends, we still love each other, and we have some amazing times together, and are always there for each other. I actually secretly pity most single women/especially those who have never married, moreso those over 40, because the dating pool is tiny for them, as most men their age want women 10-15 years younger.... And as I say, most of them seem to struggle financially really badly.

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 10/05/2025 11:02

GreenwayHouse · 09/05/2025 23:09

I’m aware of that. But I don’t really see the point of these kind of posts. It’s great for those people who are lucky with their partners and relationships but this is a relationships board which most people visit because they are struggling with a relationship. So perhaps this isn’t the place to see people saying how happy they are with their partners and how in love they are after X number of years.

Just saying, spare a thought for those of us who are heartbroken, hurt, struggling and lonely and who haven’t been so lucky in love when posting messages about how wonderful your relationship is.

Reminds me of the ‘smug marrieds’ in Bridget Jones, of which I was one until my ex got a (metaphorical) bang on the head last year and upended both our lives.

Shoot me down in flames now…

Edited

Just leave her alone. She's happy.

It's not necessary to rain on everybody's parade.

MedievalNun · 10/05/2025 11:02

Been together 30 years in December & married for 28 next month. We knew of each other in school through friend groups but he was definitely not my type. Got together aged 25 and were married within 18 months. He’s my safe space and my rock. Life hasn’t been easy but no matter what it’s thrown at us we’ve worked at it together.

And it is nice to get a chance to celebrate happy relationships on here. We all know life isn’t sunshine and roses, and lasting these distances can be hard, so we should celebrate when we manage it.

Lyannaa · 10/05/2025 11:03

This is a lovely thread. You found one of the good guys! They do exist but they stay married from a young age because they are good men who treated their wives well.

GreenwayHouse · 10/05/2025 11:03

@ShamrockShenanigans I wasn’t being “snarky” or trying to “piss” on anything (lovely turn of phrase). I was asking people to bear in mind those who are lonely, struggling, heartbroken and who haven’t been so lucky. If only we could all meet lovely men and be as happy as the OP.

I wouldn’t go on to the pregnancy board to post about how plain sailing my pregnancy is or the breastfeeding board to post a thread about how easy I’ve found it, for example. I’ve seen posts like this on other threads when people have been struggling (“sorry your husband’s had an affair; mine would never do this to me because he’s so wonderful”) and they’ve been told that they’ve been insensitive.

Lyannaa · 10/05/2025 11:05

GreenwayHouse · 10/05/2025 11:03

@ShamrockShenanigans I wasn’t being “snarky” or trying to “piss” on anything (lovely turn of phrase). I was asking people to bear in mind those who are lonely, struggling, heartbroken and who haven’t been so lucky. If only we could all meet lovely men and be as happy as the OP.

I wouldn’t go on to the pregnancy board to post about how plain sailing my pregnancy is or the breastfeeding board to post a thread about how easy I’ve found it, for example. I’ve seen posts like this on other threads when people have been struggling (“sorry your husband’s had an affair; mine would never do this to me because he’s so wonderful”) and they’ve been told that they’ve been insensitive.

It was your own choice to click on the thread.

How dare anyone else be happy, eh?

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 10/05/2025 11:05

Errr, I really don't think it's necessary to make this a married/partnered vs single thing. I neither envy nor pity single women. I have my life and I'm happy with it; they have their life and I hope they're happy too. I may well be one of them some day (statistics on male and female lifespan say I will).

BuildbyNumbere · 10/05/2025 11:06

🤣🤣 did he write this?!?

ArtTheClown · 10/05/2025 11:08

I'm another one - been with DH almost twenty years now, and still very in love. We still have so much fun together - we laugh loads, we're silly, we have our in jokes built up over the years.

I had three serious relationships before him, and fell out of love after a couple of years each time. With him that just never happened.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/05/2025 11:10

Cucy · 09/05/2025 22:54

That’s so lovely.

I honestly can’t imagine ever being with someone for that long.

I swear every 5 years I’m a completely different person and so I find it incredible how 2 people can still be compatible after so many years together.

I'm a totally different person to who I was when I met my DH 13 years ago. But he has supported me to grow and develop as a person. I honestly wouldn't have achieved all of things I have over the last few years without him.

It is such a contrast to my ex husband. He did nothing but put barriers in my way and hold me back.

ShamrockShenanigans · 10/05/2025 11:12

GreenwayHouse · 10/05/2025 11:03

@ShamrockShenanigans I wasn’t being “snarky” or trying to “piss” on anything (lovely turn of phrase). I was asking people to bear in mind those who are lonely, struggling, heartbroken and who haven’t been so lucky. If only we could all meet lovely men and be as happy as the OP.

I wouldn’t go on to the pregnancy board to post about how plain sailing my pregnancy is or the breastfeeding board to post a thread about how easy I’ve found it, for example. I’ve seen posts like this on other threads when people have been struggling (“sorry your husband’s had an affair; mine would never do this to me because he’s so wonderful”) and they’ve been told that they’ve been insensitive.

Still pissing I see, despite saying you won't be reading this thread again 🙄

I wouldn’t go on to the pregnancy board to post about how plain sailing my pregnancy is or the breastfeeding board to post a thread about how easy I’ve found it, for example.

But would you go on the pregnancy board and tell them all to spare a thought for those who can't get pregnant?

Would you go on the breastfeeding board and tell them to spare a thought for those who can't breastfeed?

If the answer is yes, then why not pop off and do it now?

And do tell us how it went.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/05/2025 11:15

It’s the same reason I never posted anniversary posts on social media etc as, having been single for a while before I met my (now) exDP, I was aware of how they might make others feel who weren’t so lucky.

I find this so sad. Most people can be happy for others even if things aren't great in their own lives.
If you can't, then it says more about you than the people posting happy things.

Mothership4two · 10/05/2025 11:18

Still in love with DH, been together for 40 years, he sometimes gets on my t*ts though

Mary46 · 10/05/2025 11:20

Yes thankful here too 25y married. Sadly his brother died before 50. So Im very grateful. We drive each other mad too ha. Nice thread

CalleOcho · 10/05/2025 11:20

Birdsongsinging · 09/05/2025 22:57

I dunno! I’m a sceptic and think that you have to give away something to be ‘so in love’ after so long! It doesn’t seem true to me!

Maybe for you.

But for others, that’s obviously not the case.

Stay bitter ❤

ShamrockShenanigans · 10/05/2025 11:21

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/05/2025 11:15

It’s the same reason I never posted anniversary posts on social media etc as, having been single for a while before I met my (now) exDP, I was aware of how they might make others feel who weren’t so lucky.

I find this so sad. Most people can be happy for others even if things aren't great in their own lives.
If you can't, then it says more about you than the people posting happy things.

I agree.

When I ended my first marriage, I was alone with a 6 year old and a 10 month old baby.

Extremely tough times but I was always really happy to hear other people's good news.

The world didn't stop turning because the bottom had temporarily fallen out of mine.

AngelicKaty · 10/05/2025 11:22

@SkippityWooBah I'm glad you and your DH are so happy and that you started this positive thread - it makes a refreshing change. 🤗
DH and I have been together 44 years (married 42) and I can't imagine being with anyone else (no-one else would have me! 😂 ) He's kind, affectionate, calm, intelligent and funny and we enjoy spending time together. Of course it hasn't always been a bed of roses, but we've been a team from day one and met adversity as a team - I think that's crucial in a successful relationship - not being selfish at the expense of your partner.
I hope you grow old together OP. 🤗

EarthSight · 10/05/2025 11:23

That's lovely OP. It does happen to some people, but I think you're in the minority, sadly.

Lilactimes · 10/05/2025 11:27

SkippityWooBah · 09/05/2025 22:15

There are so many negative threads on here I thought I would start a positive one.

Been with my DH since 15 years old, together 25 years. He's gorgeous, kind, funny. Always been faithful. A wonderful father. Really takes care of me, in every way possible.

I was lay with him last night and just wondered how I could still love him SO MUCH after 25 years.

Of course there have been hard times but we have always got through them together and I'm so grateful for him.

Love this. I have a few friends who are in similar relationships and it’s wonderful to see ❤️

Birdsongsingingagainandagain · 10/05/2025 11:35

CalleOcho · 10/05/2025 11:20

Maybe for you.

But for others, that’s obviously not the case.

Stay bitter ❤

I’m not bitter! You sound a tad defensive.

bnmshortcut · 10/05/2025 11:39

I’ve been with DH for almost 10 years now, we’re expecting our 4th baby in August and I love him even more than I did when we first got together. He’s genuinely a brilliant man, he’s genuinely the best person I have ever met.
When we met I had very little confidence, I was really struggling with my mental health, and didn’t believe I would ever make anything of myself. He pushed me out of my comfort zone every day and he gave me the confidence to believe I could do everything that I put my mind to, because of him I went to university, I moved away from home, I set up my own business.
He’s supported me every step of the way, and somehow still managed to be an absolutely incredible dad to our 3 babies. I had only really know dad’s that do fun stuff and never the life admin side of parenting but he does it all. Our children absolutely adore him, and as someone who had quite difficult relationships with the father figures in my life I feel so unbelievably grateful that they get to have him as a dad.
I still fancy the absolute pants off him, which is probably why we’ve had 4 children in 4 years😂.

Now if he could learn to look for his earphones before asking me where they are (when he was the last one who had them and I haven’t even been in the same room as them all day!), and start putting his socks in the washing basket, then he’d be perfect!.

Augustus40 · 10/05/2025 11:45

I have only ever found soulmate couples to be a very rare phenomenon. Not saying this to invalidate others' experiences however.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 10/05/2025 11:50

OP: I'm not really sure what you're trying to achieve by starting this thread.

Your thread doesn't impart any wisdom or even offer advice.

It's just a statement, like: "I really enjoyed my jam, because it is red. I like the colour red. If you also like the colour red and you eat jam, then you are similarly fortunate".

Absolutely pointless.

Anyone here (like me), who is happily married has worked hard at it, so I am not going to start celebrating my husband publicly, like he is some divine being because he doesn't beat me, cheat on me and is currently putting in a load of washing.

My mum does that thing where she tells me how "lucky" I am to have a "good one". Like men have their little foibles that they cannot overcome and we should put up with. She's still part of that unhealthy mindset that worships the male. Not me.

He is very, very lucky to have me. Women are amazing. We have beauty, wisdom and the ability to bear children. We have the ability to do many things at once, brilliantly and we don't fall apart under pressure. We also smell better.

ItGhoul · 10/05/2025 11:53

TheaBrandt1 · 09/05/2025 22:47

Don’t you worry about tempting fate? Everytime I’ve said something like that in the past it comes back to bite me on the arse.

Actually said to Dh how dd2 as a teen has been so easy and given us nothing to worry about. A week later a maelstrom of a nightmare ensues. I have other examples.

Keep it light, eh?

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