Are faithful men a myth?

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Do you think there’s any loyal and faithful men out there?

No, not a myth. Yes, I think good men exist.

Absolutely, my dad is one, my husband is another.

Humans aren't categorised like this. There will be some men and some women who have been faithful in some relationships but not others, some who have done it once, had it backfire and swear never again, some who have never cheated and some who make a career out of it.

No.
Yes.

They exist, I’m fortunate enough to know several. But I think they’re in the minority.

No, they are not a myth. Yes, just as there are some loyal and faithful women out there.

I know quite a few faithful men, of course they exist.

I also think they're in the minority. Because I got sick of the hit and miss with them, I just threw in the towel entirely and now I don't bother at all - dating, ONS, anything.

No, not a myth. Why do you think they are? Faithful men definitely exist.

My husband is loyal and faithful and I am loyal and faithful back. People don’t tend to post for advice on or to vent about loyal and faithful men, so you won’t hear about them as much.

I think most men will cheat given the opportunity.
Ive known women who fell into the “not my man, he’s so gentle and kind” category, and yet, off their husband went with another woman when they didn’t expect it at all.

Yes they exist.

I genuinely think that given the right set of circumstances, all of us have the capacity to cheat. You don't know what you or your partner are capable of in any given situation until you get to it. How many people are cheated on and then say they never thought their partners would be capable of that? That could be any of the people in this thread who've said that exact same thing!

Most of the men I know (dad, brother, DH, male friends) are faithful as far as I know.

They definitely exist but PP above nails it saying it’s not black and white.
I had a friend who had a series of relationships which failed due to the guys cheating but she definitely had a ‘type’ which the cheats all fitted into.
She’s now with a lovely guy who adores her, he is a total departure from her previous type and it had taken her some getting used to!

They exist. I was with one for 15 wonderful years.

I have been married nearly 40 years so I bloody hope I have one😅

My DH only has eyes for me as cheesy as that is. Can honestly say I have never once caught him so much as glancing at other women, he is just not interested.

Yes as said many many times there is no 'all men/women'

Is it that hard to get people's head around it?

Yes. But as a PP said we don’t write about them as it would be very boring and smug. And if you say ‘my husband wouldn’t cheat / doesn’t watch porn’ everyone is 🙄.

In my experience if you are married to a faithful partner, you have to put the effort in to have a good relationship and be interested in them that you’d notice if they were cheating. And be faithful yourself !

a bit like a plant, needs constant love and attention to flourish.

Yes but it's relationship and person dependant. Circumstances can mean people you'd never ever think would cheat.. cheat. Both men and women.

Also and I know this sounds mean/shallow but a lot of the men I know that are very loyal and faithful aren't particularly attractive and would probably never get the opportunity to cheat even if they wanted too.

I read once 'men are as faithful as their options' which I think there's a little truth too. 55 year old Gary who's obese with a comb over, bad teeth and body odour may never have the opportunity to cheat on his wife as nobody would even glance in his direction. So his wife thinks he's loyal. However if Gary had a slim and gorgeous 25 year old fawning after him then maybe Gary would. Yet his wife thinks she's bagged a 'good one'.

You'll never really know unless that person has ample opportunity with very attractive people to choose from at any given time.

Are you okay op ?

My husband has been faithful throughout our 20 years together. And no, there's no way he's done something that I don't know about.

He slept about when he was a young man and, as much as I'm not a massive fan, I'm honestly glad he did as he has no curiosity about what else is out there.

No one can say for sure, how can you categorically 🤔 all you can do is give trust and faith in your relationship based on character and morals.

They exist, but they're mostly not single and unlikely to ever go back on the dating market.