TW: My partner is touching me in my sleep, ☹️

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TW: sexual content

Help, I think?

I woke up in the night to my partner trying to touch my vagina sexually. I rolled over.

Then again just before the alarms, I could feel him doing it again this time fingers more at work should we say. I was awake but he did not know, I froze tbh. and then made out I was rolling over again to get comfy.

I left it about half an hour and ‘woke up’, first thing he said after good morning was ‘did you feel me touching your pussy in the night?’

no idea why, but I just said ‘no, no I didn’t, Why did you do that?’

He then seemed to be a bit annoyed at this and said ‘well I thought it would be something we could try, waking up to orgasm, thought you would like it?’

I didn’t reply, just stunned that he actually admitted it, and he got more of the hump and got up and ready for work.

WTAF? Is this normal? Did he really think I would like this? (I did not!!) and how do I proceed?

This is never OK

Sorry OP but a healthy relationship shouldn't make you feel like this. You should be able to say what you think without worrying about how he'll react. Similarly you shouldn't have to deal with him sulking. He sounds emotionally abusive. By him touching you without consent he is now sexually abusive. You need to leave this relationship. It shouldn't be such hard work. You deserve much better.

"You do you" does not appear in the text that you are responding to.

he CANNOT take any criticism at all. He sulks, says he feels like not being here anymore, he cries at times, for things like, any chance you can do a bit of house work while I’m at work and you are off today

Will not be criticised

Sulks

Cries

Threatens to kill himself

Throws a wobbly at being asked to do the bare minimum around the house

Sexually assaults you

Throws an incredible sulk when he hears the word no

Are you hearing it yet, OP?

I was in a relationship like this too