He has an issue with me posting pictures of myself

[onelabridoorbecametwo]

We've been together under a year so it's still early-ish days.

He tends to act funny whenever I upload pictures of myself on social media. He never, ever 'likes' or comments on them but seems to take issue if others do.

I don't post myself often but if I've made an effort for an event or whatever I'll pop a picture on of my outfit/make-up. I was at a concert on Wednesday and put up the photo on Thursday.

We were out to lunch yesterday, all happy, then when I got home I got a notification that he'd 'liked' my Facebook post (which was a selfie I put up a few days ago - he doesn't use SM that much and wouldn't have seen it until then)

He then immediately 'unliked' the picture and has been ignoring me since, leaving me on read.

What I think happened was he was trying to see who had 'liked' it and liked it himself by mistake. There was a couple of complimentary comments on there, three by female friends and one a male childhood friend. I think he's pissed off about the male one.

He's now blanking me.

What do you even say about something like this?

I think if I come straight out with it he's going to deny there's an issue but it's a theme I've been observing for months after getting a niggle when he reacted strangely to me posting a picture in a (perfectly normal) dress.

Big red flag. Don't bother discussing it with him. What's the point? This behaviour of his should tell you something important about how he inherently sees women and relationships. Don't ignore it, just ditch him.

You have every right to post pictures of yourself on social media if that what's you want to do and that's your life style.

However personally I find the need to advertise yourself in this way pretty off putting.

If he doesn't use social media much perhaps it's just a general dislike of people posting in this way rather than just you personally.

You don't say anything. You dump him. It won't get any better, it will just get worse.

It is a red flag isn't it? That's what I thought too.

I was giving him the benefit of the doubt but it's no coincidence this happens every time.

He was abroad last month and put up multiple photos of himself in trunks and it never occurred to me that it was inappropriate. I just thought ah what a lovely picture.

Such a double standard.

I’m interested about the way in which you ended your post OP - you’re with someone who gives you the silent treatment over posting a picture, and someone who doesn’t acknowledge your existence online? He’s now ignoring you, yet you’re still wondering what should I say to him ? Bluntly, he obviously does not much care about what you have to say - he’s blanking you.

Is the more important question not why am I with this man who cannot verbalise his feelings so resorts to the silent treatment? What happens when you go through hard times together, when you need to sort out finances or make tough decisions, and his reaction is to give you the cold shoulder?

Bin him

Exactly this!

I think it's me personally. I've seen him liking celebrities pictures, models etc. He only has a problem with it if it's me.

I'm in my mid to late 20's and most of my friend group uses social media in this way. I don't post anything distasteful and don't dress particularly provocatively either. I have all of my family on Facebook and would get some raised eyebrows if I did.

You're right 😕

Excellent advice above, OP, especially from @loropianalover. He’s controlling and a sulker. I strongly suspect you can do better than him, @onelabridoorbecametwo I’d let him go.

Sounds like the beginnings of controlling and jealous behaviour. Has he shown this behaviour in any other way?

Are you sure he’s ignoring you and not just busy ?
are you sure he’s annoyed as you haven’t had a conversation about this ? He may just have different social media habits to you

id have a chat get the facts and take it from there
but if it is as you think id dump his sad arse

Ugh, he needs to go. A real partner in life lifts you up not drags you down.

You want someone that likes your posts. Someone that tells you (privately and publicly) that you are hot/amazing/they are lucky to be with you

He is a giant walking red flag and you can do better and deserve better and you know this.

Yes well I agree that is double standards.

Tbh I would have more of an issue with him "liking" pictures of models and celebrities etc than the fact he doesn't " like" yours.
That is extremely disrespectful of him . And he obviously has a wandering eye if he's checking out other women.

He's definitely ignoring me as he's always quick to reply. My last message to him was asking him to confirm something which was time sensitive, he read the message and ignored me.

He is trying to train you to do as he says. Get rid, OP, these sort never get any better.

Taxi!

You don't owe any man the benefit of the doubt over this kind of thing. If his behaviour indicates any level of being controlling and misogynist, assume he is a controlling misogynist.

Message him and tell him you're not keen on the silent treatment. You're looking for an emotionally mature man who can communicate well and if this is how he reacts when he is upset then it's best if you call it a day and move on.

Just leave him, otherwise you’re going to live a life of misery.

Just message him and say you want a mature relationship, not one with someone who think it’s okay to do the immature silent treatment and you’re not compatible due to this.

@onelabridoorbecametwo this behaviour tells you everything you need to know. He’s punishing you for behaviour he dislikes by stonewalling. It’s childish and disrespectful but can become abusive in some circumstances. This is not the behaviour of a well adjusted, emotionally mature and trusting partner. Don’t ignore what is right in front of you, leave before you’re in too deep.

He probably has fixed ideas about ranking and hierarchy. To which you would be expected to adapt.
If he is extreme then he will expect the world to modify itself to fit is plan.
Bye Adolf

He's a jealous prick. Dump him.

Tell him to go fuck himself, no one needs jealousy in thier lives.