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He has an issue with me posting pictures of myself

109 replies

onelabridoorbecametwo · 26/04/2025 10:30

We've been together under a year so it's still early-ish days.

He tends to act funny whenever I upload pictures of myself on social media. He never, ever 'likes' or comments on them but seems to take issue if others do.

I don't post myself often but if I've made an effort for an event or whatever I'll pop a picture on of my outfit/make-up. I was at a concert on Wednesday and put up the photo on Thursday.

We were out to lunch yesterday, all happy, then when I got home I got a notification that he'd 'liked' my Facebook post (which was a selfie I put up a few days ago - he doesn't use SM that much and wouldn't have seen it until then)

He then immediately 'unliked' the picture and has been ignoring me since, leaving me on read.

What I think happened was he was trying to see who had 'liked' it and liked it himself by mistake. There was a couple of complimentary comments on there, three by female friends and one a male childhood friend. I think he's pissed off about the male one.

He's now blanking me.

What do you even say about something like this?

I think if I come straight out with it he's going to deny there's an issue but it's a theme I've been observing for months after getting a niggle when he reacted strangely to me posting a picture in a (perfectly normal) dress.

OP posts:
Raininginparadise2 · 27/04/2025 14:24

Life is too short OP to be in a crap relationship with an emotionally immature man like this. He's jealous and abusive. You've had good advice on how to dump him. Do it today and look forward to new beginnings without him.

EarthSight · 27/04/2025 15:25

What do you even say about something like this?

You don't. If you're sure it's happening, you dump.

Lookuptotheskies · 27/04/2025 15:30

Yeah he's a controlling arsehole, a walking red flag, a man child.

Get him in the bin!

Then go on lots of lovely nights and days out with friends and family knowing you don't have to worry about sulks and silent treatment or interrogations.

Ohyay · 27/04/2025 22:16

Swimmingmin · 26/04/2025 20:11

Ohyay slightly off topic but you seem to know about these things - can I ask if you do a Claire’s Law request will the person you are asking about know? As this will just make things worse in this particular instance.

OP well done for seeing the light and dumping him, I wish so much the person I am worried about could be like you.

No they wont know.
Always worth a request x

Ohyay · 27/04/2025 22:17

@onelabridoorbecametwo Welfare check OP

Sodthesystem · 28/04/2025 13:57

There's no need to do a Claire's law on this guy. It's obvious he's a total dick so stop dating him. Don't waste police time. People don't need to have previous charges for you to decide they aren't good enough.

coxesorangepippin · 28/04/2025 17:56

Sounds like a good plan op

coxesorangepippin · 28/04/2025 17:57

Yes, women can demonstrate these behaviors too.

Not in this situation though

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 29/04/2025 01:41

it's Monday evening ( well actually in England it's the early hours of Tuesday morning ) and you were due at your parents today.

Do you have any update you wish to share ?

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