He has an issue with me posting pictures of myself

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We've been together under a year so it's still early-ish days.

He tends to act funny whenever I upload pictures of myself on social media. He never, ever 'likes' or comments on them but seems to take issue if others do.

I don't post myself often but if I've made an effort for an event or whatever I'll pop a picture on of my outfit/make-up. I was at a concert on Wednesday and put up the photo on Thursday.

We were out to lunch yesterday, all happy, then when I got home I got a notification that he'd 'liked' my Facebook post (which was a selfie I put up a few days ago - he doesn't use SM that much and wouldn't have seen it until then)

He then immediately 'unliked' the picture and has been ignoring me since, leaving me on read.

What I think happened was he was trying to see who had 'liked' it and liked it himself by mistake. There was a couple of complimentary comments on there, three by female friends and one a male childhood friend. I think he's pissed off about the male one.

He's now blanking me.

What do you even say about something like this?

I think if I come straight out with it he's going to deny there's an issue but it's a theme I've been observing for months after getting a niggle when he reacted strangely to me posting a picture in a (perfectly normal) dress.

Gosh how deeply unattractive his behaviour is. That would kill it for me let alone that field of red flags he is displaying!

DTB.

How petty are you feeling? Did you like the photos he posted? Choose one, unlike it, like it, then unlike it again. See what happens.

Are you the boyfriend?

well done, you are making the right decision. It will only escalate until you find yourself staying home to keep him happy, not seeing your friends , coming off social media, not seeing your family... before you know it, its just you and him, and once they have done that, they start on everything else that is wrong with you. I have seen it all with a friend.

end it now and block him on every channel. don't get into discussion with him as he will twist it. there is no point arguing with him over this.

Yes - that would give me the ick. There is something so cringey about men “liking” photos of models who they have never met (and who would be unlikely to give them the time of day even if they did meet!). Seeing that once would have put me off in an instant, even before he started acting like a sulky child towards you. He sounds awful already!

OP once you dump him come back here and see how many of the below happen.
He ignores you
He apologies blames his insecurities, his childhood, your out of his league, he is worried you will find someone better, he cant see a life without you, he may as well not be here anymore.
Continue to ignore him
He will soon move onto phase 2 of your a stuck up bitch, you love the attention, probably a cheater anyway, hes already met someone else. Voice notes. Texts. Social media requests from random accounts...

If the above occurs please contact 101. We dont have to arrest him etc. But we can record a crime of harassment and close at your request. But this ensures anyone else romantically down the line can be made aware of his behaviour.
Over a decade in policing and I see the same people doing the same thing time and time again.
Take care x

I'll vote for him telling op she is overreacting. And she is paranoid/always misunderstanding him.

Or 'every guy would have a problem with those pictures being posted by his partner'.

Implication being the photos are inappropriate or attention seeking towards other men.

And don't forget the classic "I was only joking. Can't you take a joke? Maybe you need therapy".

@TheDogHasFarted @Sodthesystem 100%

OP I hope you managed a clean ending with him, and he isn't being too much of an arse.

It sounds like he's insecure, this won't get any better OP, he will become more controlling and his sulking will intensify in the hope you stop going out with friends etc. He either trusts you or he doesn't, very much a him and not you problem!

Blanking is not acceptable, it’s very mean and unkind, and utterly stupid and childish. I know it’s easier said than done, but please have a rethink about everything.

Definitely dump him.

I'd be tempted to simply change my SM status to 'Newly Single' if he's checking up on you! 😂

Ohyay slightly off topic but you seem to know about these things - can I ask if you do a Claire’s Law request will the person you are asking about know? As this will just make things worse in this particular instance.

OP well done for seeing the light and dumping him, I wish so much the person I am worried about could be like you.

You know what - if having a partner who doesn't post on social media is important to you, that's perfectly fine. So what you do is you find a partner who doesn't post on social media. What you don't do is find a partner who posts on social media and then passive aggressively try to coerce them into stopping. That would make you an abuser and an arsehole.

The subject of Claire's law isn't told about an application. That would definitely negate the benefit of doing the check!

Dump and run, he's displaying all the hallmarks of an abuser.

Jealous, controlling, manipulative bag of pricks.

Just send him a message telling him it's over, block him, and get on with your life. There's nothing to "discuss". He's a wrongun, he won't change, he won't have a productive discussion. Just rip the plaster off.

This! Go on OP. Tell him this and see how he responds. He clearly thinks you won't challenge his petty behaviour.

If you did that no one would be with anyone 😂

The other week he asked me when the last time was that I was approached by a man in the street, does it ever happen, how often does it happen if it does, what about when I'm at work. Etc.

I’ve had a man ask me this in the past OP, and it was solely because he got off on the idea of other men flirting with me.

It’s not on either way.

I know the book is “why does HE do that?”, but surely (and I know) women can display these behaviours as well.

What do you say? It’s not working out, goodbye. He’s weird and controlling op, get rid.