Life done @37

[Kerrmck73]

I met my husband when I was 17, he was 32. Ok get the judgement out the way. I love him, he loves me. It works. We've been together 20 years, married 8. We have the best time, he's my best friend. We laugh and have fun constantly. But. I'm 37, he's now 52. I've not had kids. Not because of him, he'd have kids tomorrow, I wanted a career, that took me 10 years to get exams, degrees, qualifications and most importantly a decent wage so I'm financially secure. Now I feel I've cocked up. I feel I've missed the boat. How can I have kids now? Probably still feasible for me, regular periods, bang on every month but an old dad? Kids lucky to make it to their 20th birthday with both parents. I've fcked up. I'm at loss. I'm heartbroken. I should have listened to my parents. My life feels over and my future feels lonely

My partner's dad was in his very late 40s when he had him. They had a good relationship, and the dad lived until my partner was in his late 30s. Even now, over 10 years later, the dad is often present in his thoughts, and he mentions him multiple times a week. As far as I know, nobody ever mocked my partner for having an older dad - and this was many years ago, when bullying was much less talked about and people had children at a younger age on average.

Clearly you want kids, clearly you've worked very hard to get in a position where you are able to, so go ahead and start your family, it's not even particularly unusual these days for couple your age to have kids.

Go for it! I was 39 partner 52, definitely not too late!