Husbands pitbull becoming snappy in old age, and I’m pregnant

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It took me two years to convince my now husband to keep his pitbull dog with his mum for me to move into his house with my two small dogs. The reason for me not wanting my two dogs around his dog is his dog previously attacked and killed his mums small dog. Apparently he done this because the smaller dog kept snapping at him and the family seem to think it’s justified? Bear in mind this was a teacup senior dog. Awful.

anyway the agreement was the pitbull can come back once we buy a bigger house as I pushed for the can’t separate 3 dogs in a small house excuse. Anyway we are looking to buy a house this year, and husband is saying why wouldn’t his dog come back to live in the house he buys. Well, lately the dog has been snapping at people a little more, husband says oh it’s old age.

problem is, I’m now pregnant. I feel extremely uncomfortable around this dog, this dog around my dogs and now this dog around a defenseless baby? He says we will keep them separate, but that sounds like hell having a new born, and 3 dogs to keep separate whilst he’s at work all day. He said sometimes he will take him to work, and I could probably push for only having the dog at home on the weekends. But still, I just don’t know if I’ll be able to relax in my own home and I want to be in the best mindset possible to raise my first child. I want to feel relaxed at an already stressful time.

AIBU? Any suggestions on what to say to my husband as to why I don’t want his dog coming back. He is saying oh he only snaps at people he doesn’t know, not his own family. I will also add the dog only snaps at weak people (a senior with cancer, and a friend with MS) it’s like they can sense weakness. He fully believes this dog is going to see our baby as his family, but this dog is already ten years old.

You say that your baby is more important than a dangerous dog that has already killed.

If you don’t stand up for yourself and your baby now your life is going to be a misery, and could well end with something tragic happening. What do you think is going to happen once this dog has died? He’ll get another dangerous dog to replace it.

If you don’t value yourself at least value your child.

I think you probably need to rehome all the dogs if you are to live together. I hate to be that person but this doesn’t bode well for your future

Absolutely this.

Are you two insane? What do you think would happen to her if she did either of those things to this man’s dog, who he has already demonstrated is more important to him than her and their unborn child? This has got to be the worst advice I’ve ever seen, talk about pouring fuel onto a fire 🤦‍♀️ she needs to leave and return to the UK, that is her only option, if she’s British, and she needs to do it before the baby is born or he will be able to prevent her from leaving.

SORRY - I now see you are not in the UK. [You say your husband has a pitbull dog. Which country are you in? Owning a pitbull dog is illegal in the UK under the Dangerous Dogs Act 1991.]

It's pretty obvious this dog means more to him and his family than you, your own dogs and even his unborn baby.

Take charge of the situation and get out of this relationship, and I base this not only on the dog situation but the fact his family have far to much to say.

You’re being gaslighted the shit out of with this dog, being made to feel like you’re overreacting etc. I’d take a serious look at this man’s behaviour, he seems determined to win an argument at all costs and has no capacity to consider someone else’s point of view even if it involves the safety of other sentient beings including his one baby.
hes using the financial power he has over you, re him buying the house, as another way of controlling the situation.
trust you gut, how does he make you feel, how does he make you feel about yourself.
i am a huge dog lover and never thought I would rehome a pet but had a dog a couple if years ago who kept biting my kids, spent thousands on training and it didn’t work so I had to find a more suitable home for the dog, ie as much as the dog was part of our family and it broke my heart, nothing comes above my kids

I'm speaking as a dog lover. Your husband's dog is a killer, full stop. Your husband and his family in excusing this are putting other animals and people in danger. In what way is a defenseless baby not "weak" or vulnerable?? This dog should be put down, and it is up to you to protect your unborn child, yourself and your own dogs by not allowing the dog to be anywhere near if your stupid husband refuses. Leave.

This can’t be real. How can you possibly be with a man who
puts a dog before his baby
who you can’t talk frankly to.

”you need to get rid of the dog. We are having a baby. Keeping them separate won’t work”

If he then says no- you walk away. He is not worth it. Your baby is the most important person in your life.

.... errr yes!

Me too, any pitbull regardless of whether it been vicious or not.

I would say ‘GOODBYE!’

I remember this poster. I truly hope this one isn’t real. Moving to Florida to be with a brute of a man and now is pregnant. No comments from Mumsnet are going to help here. If you have the baby in Florida you will be stuck in Florida….

My health visitor made a massive fuss about my soft as shit cats I can’t imagine how she would have reacted over a killer dog in the house

honestly op I’ve never seen such a unanimous response on mn before. I kind of hope this isn’t real as if it is I have a feeling you won’t follow the advice on here .

Presumably if you leave this tosser, he will be allowed access to the child and will bring it to his home which contains the dog. So that will be even worse! Definitely leave the country and move FAR away.

Either the dog goes or you go IMO. Its a tragedy waiting to happen.
I love dogs but you've described an older dog who is becoming more intolerant with age and snapping at people (and a breed that can easily kill a fully grown adult never mind a baby or toy breed dog!).
Introducing a dog like that to a baby would be asking for trouble.

I once spent years seperating 2 of my dogs because they fought and as organized as I was there were still occasions where I forgot to latch a crate or thought a door was shut and I ended up with a fight on my hands.
Luckily it was between 2 tiny dogs so I could just grab one in each hand and pick them up but if that accident happened with a pitbull and a baby?
How would you live with yourself?

This.

He showed you who he was and you didn't believe him. He hasn't and won't change.

Cerberus should have been PTS the moment it killed another thing (I am a massive dog lover, but once a dog has killed? That's one death too many).
The father of your child is a feckless cunt and if this post is actually authentic, I'd be saying that him being determined to have Psycho Pooch back is a major red flag.

We all said the same. Numerous times.

so let’s bring a child into the mix. I despair.

I believe that the dog often reflects the owner. Your partner sounds like a bully who rides roughshod over his own family.

This is a dangerous dog. You absolutely need to believe that or your child will become a news headline.

I don't know why people are wasting their time. OP loves the drama (see her thread about her MIL) and can't resist a thick redneck. Another unfortunate child is now going to either be a satistic or be brought up as the victim of poor parenting.

There's no way in hell I'd bring a baby into a house with a dog like that. It needs to be put to sleep.

Oh for goodness sake, having read on, I recognise you from your previous posts op. You absolute fool. It’s one thing to make stupid decisions when it’s just yourself you must consider but how irresponsible and reckless to bring a poor innocent child into this shitshow.

and can't resist a thick redneck.

Oh dear.

And now another one in the making!

It's a worry that you even need to ask. The dog has killed another dog. What more is there to consider? Your husband thinks it wouldn't kill a baby who will cry and scream?

I would be telling him it's me and the baby or the dog. Him not getting rid of the dog permanently means he has chosen the dog. In that case you need to leave and make your own life safely, with your baby.