What does it mean when a guy tells a woman he had a spicy dream about her?

[Aaliyah9]

When I asked him what the dream was about, he said it was spicy and laughed

Backstory: I dated this guy last summer, then it turned into friends with benefits. (we have had sex) We were not getting along at all.
And he ended things with me in January and said he did not want to be intimate anymore because of how I had treated him. But he would not dismiss the possibility of us being together in the future. Yet he needed to find his own way in life. And he did not want me to wait around for him.

But he and I have still been talking a little.

And when I messaged him last week, saying this.
I think we met at a time when neither of us was truly ready for a long-term commitment, and we needed time apart to grow. I just feel like the timing wasn’t right for us. That’s why I won’t rule out being with you someday, regardless of who I meet. I don’t want you to think I’ll ever forget about you. (he loved reacted this message).

And then he replied with this

You actually appeared in my dream last night. Hope you’re having a good week so far.
I asked him what the dream was about, and he said it was spicy.

I replied, telling him I was flattered that I had made it into his dreams, and he loved that message.

He wants to keep his options open with you, without making any commitment.

Is this why he told me he had a sex dream about me?

He's telling you he had a sex dream about you, which may or may not be true obviously. Sounds like he's trying to keep you on the hook despite dumping you. Block and move on lass, this one's going nowhere.

Yep, he's trying it on.

Trying what on?

Well I’d say it was a lie and he’s just doing it to keep you interested in case he feels the need to use you down the line.

He's testing the water

Hes keeping you on the hook for easy non committal sex.

Yes , he's keeping you on a back burner in case he fancies some time with you.

Cool story bro.

I also think he wanted to see your reaction to see if he has a chance or not without having to directly ask you.

No offence op...but you sound very naive

Whenever you have to ask “why is he doing this?/what does it mean when he does this?” - that’s a sign he’s bad for you. This man is just not that into you. He just wants to keep you warm in case he fancies a shag. Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. Don’t let him waste your time any more. Forget about him.

He's making it clear that he only sees you as woman to have sex with and not someone to respect, cherish, love and want to grow old together.

Yep. Got to love the wide eyed faux naivety threads always asking ‘but why??????’

I ask why about everything, I like knowing the meaning behind why people do what they do. Hence the reason why I am studying psychology.

I agree with the posters saying he is keeping you on the hook. However if you’re messaging him saying “I’m not ruling out being with you. I’ll never forget you” I’d say you’re doing the same tbh.

He loved reacted that message, though so he obviously liked what I said. He's keeping me on the hook even after he said he didn't want to be intimate a couple of months ago. That's weird to me.

He wants a ride and think he can get it.

Nothing more than that.

Oh come on.
You cannot be this naive.
You want someone else to say it don't you.

He is hoping for a fuck, no stings attached. Bang you and leave

He's not telling you he isn't interested incase he's horny and wants to empty his balls at some point and you'll do.

Yes, he probably liked that you’ll be happy to sleep with him again at some point (the most prosaic translation of “I won’t rule out being with you again someday”) - he’s skim read your carefully phrased and nuanced message, and replied with “I had a sex dream about you”. He wants to keep the option of sleeping with you / casual relationship open. If he actually listened to what you said, and thought about it, and replied in a serious way, he’d have written something completely different.

Unless this is also what you want, leave off messaging him.

He thinks of you as a shag piece and nothing else. Is that how you wish to think of yourself? Are you so lacking in self-esteem and dignity?

A chance at what? We dated during the summer, and then we started arguing a lot. We decided to be friends with benefits, which lasted a month. And then in January, he told me he didn't want to be intimate because he has trust issues and didn't trust me. Now he's telling me that he had a sex dream about me.

He's about 15 in his head and spends too much time on TikTok. Hence the 'spicy' comment, usually reserved online for hissing kittens and stuff about neurodiversity.

Pretty much.