What does it mean when a guy tells a woman he had a spicy dream about her?

[Aaliyah9]

When I asked him what the dream was about, he said it was spicy and laughed

Backstory: I dated this guy last summer, then it turned into friends with benefits. (we have had sex) We were not getting along at all.
And he ended things with me in January and said he did not want to be intimate anymore because of how I had treated him. But he would not dismiss the possibility of us being together in the future. Yet he needed to find his own way in life. And he did not want me to wait around for him.

But he and I have still been talking a little.

And when I messaged him last week, saying this.
I think we met at a time when neither of us was truly ready for a long-term commitment, and we needed time apart to grow. I just feel like the timing wasn’t right for us. That’s why I won’t rule out being with you someday, regardless of who I meet. I don’t want you to think I’ll ever forget about you. (he loved reacted this message).

And then he replied with this

You actually appeared in my dream last night. Hope you’re having a good week so far.
I asked him what the dream was about, and he said it was spicy.

I replied, telling him I was flattered that I had made it into his dreams, and he loved that message.

He is keeping open the option of fucking you again one day.

Simple as that.

Think you might to study a bit harder if you really can’t understand why a bloke who sees you as a convenient shag now and again wants to keep you sweet by telling you about his wet dream. Bet he typed the message one handed

Why are you pretending you don't understand this?

Yeah, this tbh.

Ok we actually dated during the summer for three months. So it wasn't just about sex; he actually took me out on dates and spent a lot of money on me. We spent hours together (without having sex). But we were not getting along. So then we just kept things sexual, which didn't last long. Because there was too much drama, whereas he told me he did not want to be intimate with me because he has trust issues and did not trust me. But now he's saying he had a sex dream about me. Which is weird being as though he said he didn't want to be intimate anymore.

Ok he's going through a dry spell...

What do you want us to say to you?
What replies are you looking for since you appear to be ignoring what you've had so far?
You want to be told he probably secretly loves you?

Are you always so obtuse OP?

This^

It sounds like he wants to keep his options open with you on the hook while still dating elsewhere.

You sound emotionally involved and honestly I think it's best to block delete and let yourself move on.

I would say he is too scared to ask you to marry him!

That’s what the ❤️ on the message was - a proposal

Yes. She should now hound him for an engagement ring. This guy sounds an ultimate prize. Worthy of a mills & boon novel.

That's what I'm saying when I told him I wanted to be intimate a couple of months ago he told me he didn't want to. Because he didn't trust me.

Based on this scenario I’d say he’s a player and he’s pushing buttons to see if he can reel you in if he wants. He’ll bring nothing but stress and drama.

I’m hoping this isn’t a genuine question but is actually your psychology homework, and you’re analysing responses to given scenarios.

He hasn't currently got any other options so you're better than a wank

Erm, she's the one doing that: -

"That’s why I won’t rule out being with you someday, regardless of who I meet. I don’t want you to think I’ll ever forget about you."

He's seeing if you'll have sex with him.

But he doesn't want a relationship with you.

I had a message recently from a guy I had some text messages with on Tinder 7 years ago! Asking how I am. We never even met. I was something of a long time option. 😄

It's a line.

Is this the first time you've heard it @Aaliyah9? I've heard it many times. I've even used it.🙈

He thinks you're untrustworthy but also he's not had a shag for a while so he's lowered his standards?

Meh. A heart react can be the equivalent of a pat on the head sometimes. Doesn't meant he genuinely appreciated it. A negative reaction would have been a bit antagonist, ditto a thumbs up. What's left?
Relationship sounds like a dumpster fire to me, you just gushed emotion at him and he said yeah, I think about having sex with you.
Hardly wedding bells is it?

This is like that thread the other day when that woman didn't want suggestions about how to get her passport signed. The OP doesn't want any advice. Leave her to it.

Yes, this is the first time I've heard it. I've never had a guy tell me he's had a spicy dream about me. You said you've used it many times. For what reason?

How much effort do you think the heart emoji took? And how much effort are you spending analysing it?

A spicy dream means - I’d probably shag you but nothing more. Depends what else is going on and if he has any other offers.

Trust issues - please don’t be naive here.

Jesus is it your first day on Earth today?