What does it mean when a guy tells a woman he had a spicy dream about her?

[Aaliyah9]

When I asked him what the dream was about, he said it was spicy and laughed

Backstory: I dated this guy last summer, then it turned into friends with benefits. (we have had sex) We were not getting along at all.
And he ended things with me in January and said he did not want to be intimate anymore because of how I had treated him. But he would not dismiss the possibility of us being together in the future. Yet he needed to find his own way in life. And he did not want me to wait around for him.

But he and I have still been talking a little.

And when I messaged him last week, saying this.
I think we met at a time when neither of us was truly ready for a long-term commitment, and we needed time apart to grow. I just feel like the timing wasn’t right for us. That’s why I won’t rule out being with you someday, regardless of who I meet. I don’t want you to think I’ll ever forget about you. (he loved reacted this message).

And then he replied with this

You actually appeared in my dream last night. Hope you’re having a good week so far.
I asked him what the dream was about, and he said it was spicy.

I replied, telling him I was flattered that I had made it into his dreams, and he loved that message.

At what level are you studying psychology? 11-plus?

I’m not sure having a spicy dream about you means anything much except that he had or possibly still has some level of sexual interest in you. Which is unsurprising considering you had a sexual relationship until recently.
What matters more is your interest in him.

You don't think people can have trust issues? I know several people who do.

He doesn't trust you.

He'll still bang you.

And while I'm at it, if he doesn't trust you why are you messaging him about not ruling out a future. If he doesn't trust you, you don't get to make that call. Sakes.

You’re studying psychology but can’t work this out. How are your grades?

Not believing this at all, same type of post, woman’s name in username, same pattern of responses, same time as all of the others. Lonely bloke wanting to chat to ‘the ladies’.

I haven't used it many times. Maybe 3 or 4 or half a dozen times. A long time ago.

I used it on men I fancied to make them imagine having sex with me. They never imagine a bad experience. Some made light or ignored it. I had my wicked way with the others.

People have been telling you why!

It’s called breadcrumbing—when someone leads you on with shallow messages without real intention. You're likely just one of many getting these empty texts. Recognise your worth, and don’t hesitate to tell him to take his tiny penis and go fuck himself.

He’s putting the feelers out for sex

There's a what does it meeeeeeeeeeean troll that pops up quite regularly.

Yep. This does all seem very familiar. Getting flashback vibes to the constant name changing ‘but whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy’ poster

Never date anyone who says they have trust issues. They're just setting you up for accepting their future controlling ways. If someone has trust issues, it's up to them to get some therapy and deal with it rather than dumping their issues on some other poor person they're in a relationship with.

Trust issues don’t really seem that relevant in a FWB situation.

You had a few dates and sex and you fought all the time.

If you don't actually get along when you're together, why are you wasting your time messaging him and second guessing what emojis and simple sentences mean?

Just let it go.

I asked him if he wanted to have casual sex with me he said that was a complicated question. And said we should get lunch or dinner soon as friends.

It wasn't just a few dates we dated for three months, but we had at least 15 dates in total. We were spending a lot of time together. We met on a dating app and went on our first date the next day, and we spent two hours talking and had our second date the very next day. Things were ok for a while but then I started arguing with him a lot. Things went downhill from there I'm not making excuses for his behavior. Because I think he should get help if he needs it. There were certain things like he was scared if I went to the bar solo that men would hit on me. And he didn't want me to go alone. And that made me upset.

I think it means he’s horny.

Complicated? I reckon he's seeing someone op

What’s complicated about ‘do you want a shag?’

If he's seeing someone, why would he ask me out for lunch or dinner after I asked him if he wanted casual sex?

Why does anyone do anything....?

Honestly op, this is exhausting.

Ok, he loves you and wants to marry you, that's the only possible explanation.

Is that ok?

I don't know. I don't get it When we were fwb before, it wasn't complicated, and he didn't ask me out for lunch or dinner, it was just meeting for sex. Now, when I ask if he wants to have casual sex with me. He says it's a complicated question, and if it's just casual, we should meet for lunch or dinner as friends soon.

Oh OP,

You are studying psychology but you can't work out what this means?

Its really simple, as others have explained.

Yeah, well, he asked me out for a casual lunch or dinner as friends. When I asked him if he wanted to have casual sex with me. I don't see why we have to go out to eat just to have sex all of a sudden. We didn't go out to eat when we were fwb before.

The real question is not what did he mean, but why are you obsessing over a man who you have dated and did not get along with? Why are you sending him texts about ' oh the timing was wrong and I will never forget you and maybe one day..'

It is yourself you need to work on understanding, not him.